• Atlas_@lemmy.world
      26·
      2 years ago

      Yes, but also some of polyamory is that not every relationship has to be “we cohabit and have kids and can deal with every single little quietly annoying thing the other does”. Some relationships are focused on sex. Some are focused on breaking into aquariums together. Some are with people across the country and even though you are close it doesn’t make sense to get together more than once a year. Although polyamorous relationships can look like monogamy*2, part of the point is that more focused, smaller relationships can also be romantic.

        • novibe@lemmy.mlEnglish
          5·
          2 years ago

          Just a small correction: most people look at relationships in terms of some very rigid ideals that were set a couple centuries ago at most.

            • novibe@lemmy.mlEnglish
              1·
              2 years ago

              That does make intuitive sense, but archeology shows otherwise. There was a much bigger diversity of gender roles and relationship structures/child rearing systems, including in agricultural societies.

              The modern almost universal ideal of romantic monogamous nuclear relationships was born from romantic (as in the movement) puritan petit bourgeois ideals in the 19th century.

              Working class women during the medieval age for example, worked and lived outside the home, had affairs etc. This changed around the 18th century with the hegemony of the bourgeoisie and working class mirroring of their ideals.

              Basically while it’s true that patriarchal strictly dichotomous societies existed for as long as we can tell, And that they have prevailed and “won out”. But doesn’t mean they are the norm for humanity. Their universality is extremely recent.

    • interrobangEnglish
      9·
      2 years ago

      I am currently in this actual situation!

      It has been wild getting here, but i am married, and dating my wife’s girlfriend. We’re all grown, functional adults in our 30’s, too!

      It is delightful, and does make me feel like im a character in some really good smut, no lie. I am lucky. And happy.

  • grrgyle@slrpnk.net
    40·
    2 years ago

    There’s got to be a more inclusive way for 3+ people to hug. Maybe it’s my monogamous brain, but this just looks like a third wheel

      • bitwaba@lemmy.world
        12·
        2 years ago

        That’s fine. Garlic burns really easy. You shouldn’t add it until 30 seconds before you add your tomatoes, or stock, or whatever your main watery components are going to be.

        • grrgyle@slrpnk.net
          1·
          2 years ago

          Yeah more or less. Sometimes I sweat them in a covered pot for longer. Maybe with a spoonful of aquafaba, or stock as you say.

          Burnt garlic is not a mistake you make on purpose more than once haha.

  • Flying Squid@lemmy.world
    38·
    2 years ago

    My dad once joked about getting a second wife like in Biblical times.

    My mother replied, “good, I’ll finally have someone help with the chores around here.”