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    This is just blatantly false, men’s rights do vary wildly state by state. I get what this is saying and I agree with the message but presenting a good message behind a lie doesn’t make it any less of a lie.

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      I am also very supportive of women’s rights but lying is not helpful.

      Honestly the point that it tries to make is not the point that it makes either. It could be understood as “let’s ban abortion everywhere”, and I don’t think that is the point that it tries to make.

      I am in favor of bodily autonomy and I don’t care what the law currently is anywhere, it should be a given.

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        I am also very supportive of women’s rights but lying is not helpful.

        Worth knowing: although they attract a lot of anti-feminist losers, the “men’s rights” activists are absolutely correct that men do not universally have the same support programs or even legal presumptions that women do. These can vary widely from state to state and even from court to court.

        It’s not nearly as big an issue as “they want her to die from a miscarriage”, but “they presume he’s the inferior parent” or “they presume he caused the violence even if he’s the one bleeding” are also sexist oppression.

        (Comparisons to the anti-woke “all lives matter” bullshit are apt – men can and should recognize that relatively minor slights and injustices are not nearly as urgent as denying pregnant humans life-saving care!)

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          To be fair, the vast majority of these are societal standards and not rights, they are still absolutely important and we need to do more for equality both for women and for men, but strictly speaking they are not by definition rights.

          But I am in agreement with you that I think a lot of why the younger generation are being pulled in the wrong direction is because men, of which I am one, have not done enough to create an environment that addresses issues that primarily affects men in a way that is not based on misogyny.

          Don’t get me wrong, the alt-right have absolutely tried to exacerbate these issues (either knowingly or unknowingly) and use them for their own gains, but we as a society have also not prioritized emotionally healthy solutions and that has led us to where we are.

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            I think we have a right to be judged fairly and not because of our gender or sex. But that’s a semantic point and I don’t want to quibble.

            I do want to push back on excusing from women their responsibility for the society we live in, however. (Or just underline an implied point we may both share.)

            Nearly every man I know values the opinions of women at least as much as those of other men. When a boy sees his mom belittle his father for being insufficiently manly, he hears a lesson that sexism is bad. When a man tells a boy that the way to get a girlfriend is to be a sexist jerk the boy listens, not because he cares about the con artist, but because he’s desperate for a girl who cares about him.

            Men have a lot of the big levers of power, and do bear a proportionate share of our own blame, but we shouldn’t excuse women who use the power they have in ways that make our society worse.

            We’re all in this together, and all need to do what we can to make the world we pass to our children better than the one our parents passed on to us.

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          I would agree and disagree.

          You are right but I think “ignoring” “men’s issues” harms the feministic cause and consequently the “dying of miscarriage” problem. As sad as it is PR is sometimes very important and e.g. the lie in the post doesn’t help the PR and a lot of young men don’t feel supported but attacked by the current framing of feminism.

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            I think we agree and agree.

            I was careful not to use the word “ignore”, because the answer to anyone sharing how they were harmed by sexism should never be anything less than “that’s horrible and I hate that it happened to you.”

            Sexist women who claim to be “feminist” and yet feel free to denigrate men or dismiss their perspective are terrible advocates for the cause.

            (Not “their” cause, because sexism is an evil that harms everyone and everyone should be against it.)

            (And sealions who claim to be “men’s rights activists” but just want to be sexist anti-feminist trolls are at least as bad.)

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          if they assume he’s the inferior parent, why do the men win custody almost every fucking time they try, whereas the woman involved gets the kid dumped on her, completely, with no child support orders unless she fights for them, anytime the guy doesn’t want anything to do with the kid he knocked her up with?

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            Like i said, the issue varys wildly by state or court.

            Although part of the reason why men who ask for custody get it more than 50% of the time is that very often they know (or believe) they don’t have a chance and so don’t fight.

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          No they are comparing men’s rights to women’s.

          Women’s rights to life saving medical care (abortion) is being denied.

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            That is true, but it doesn’t mean the person you originally replied to is wrong. What they said is also true. Presenting what you did as a counterargument makes no sense.

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        As far as I know none. But barriers to being able to get one is wildly different. I know in New York, there’s a 30 day waiting period after having a consultation with the dr before they are allowed to operate.

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          Is a life-saving emergency vasectomy a thing? I feel like this whole comment section is just incapable of understanding the degree of the law being discussed and the impact on an individuals life.

          Like, it would be unfair if in California men were not allowed to jwalk but women were. Kind of odd. But, like, what the fuck are we even talking about if we’re comparing that to something on the level of a often life saving medical procedure?

          I’m autistic. But this comment section is making me feel neuro-typical for how incredibly hyperfocused it is on trying to act like the OOP is “technically wrong”. And the best example I can find talking about cis men is your comment. I gotta be missing something. Are people really saying there is some law comparable to anti abortion laws that target cis men? I really hope it’s not a 30 day waiting period for a vasectomy when the same thing probably applies for non medically necessary hysterectomys as well. Seriously, did you even look up the laws on hysterectomys in the the same state? Because that’s a much more risky procedure that likely has even more restrictions.

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            No, this is very different than that. This is about supporting one group without intentionally putting down another.

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              Women have a long history of having less rights than men.

              When did they allow women to start voting? That is just one example

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                First, sorry, but it’s fewer rights, not less rights, since it’s countable.

                Second, sure, that’s true. That’s not what this is about though. There’s no reference above to which group is more privileged. It’s only talking about the fact that, in some places, the rights of men (and all people) do differ. I’m sure you can recognize this is true, right? Some states protect (or, rather, don’t infringe on) some rights more than others, for all people, right? If you agree then the statement of the OP is definitively untrue, and the comment above is accurate.

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              No, this is very different than that. This is about supporting one group without intentionally putting down another.

              Y’all always tell on yourselves lol

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            If someone posted “white women’s rights don’t vary state by state, but black women’s do”, they would rightfully be called out for posting nonsense. But you’d be there saying “no but black women have it worse tho” That’s the equivalent. It’s a clearly false statement intended to make one group an enemy instead of an ally and you shouldn’t be defending it so blindly

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            The message “black lives matter” was intentionally amplified to sow dissent along racial lines.

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      if you’re going to be pedantic then you’re sort of right. however, no state bans men from potentially life saving medical procedures when you need them.

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        Yes they do? There are all kinds of potentially life saving procedures that are illegal in various jurisdictions. There’s no state with a blanket ban that says women can’t get medical care. (Yet? Ugh.). And generally, abortions you’re referring to are equally illegal for men and women when they are banned. OPs post is intentionally and pointlessly divisive, badly tainting their message by basing it on a clear lie

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            Does the number matter? This should be about equal rights for all people regardless of race gender, sex, genetic make-up, age, or governing body. Feminism is for everyone. Treating men like feminism is not for them keeps men from backing feminist causes.

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              Absolutely, but some laws can specifically impact the needs of a particular gender, historically pretty much always women. Treating everyone completely equal in cases like these tends to marginalize groups of people, which is why equity is more important than equality.

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          Ugh. I mean shit guy really? Making the argument that it’s equally illegal for a man to get an abortion as a woman therefore it’s not different is the stupidest fucking argument I’ve ever seen in my life.

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      Agreed, this message makes a valid point with good intentions, but it will likely face harsh criticism from misogynists - without actually achieving anything meaningful.

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        Why do you think it’s not possible to both acknowledge that women have it worse and also that there are things they negatively impact men as well? They’re not mutually exclusive.

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          Trying to fix men’s problems doesn’t mean women don’t have problems or the shouldn’t be fixed. Oppression Olympics aren’t productive for anyone.

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        I think they’re being a “technically Andy” and saying that different states have different laws for everyone.

        The original post is clearly talking about laws that apply specifically to those assigned female at birth. So the comment your replying to is just purposely ignoring that. It happens all the time to liberals that are more concerned with being “correct” than actually just.

        Now, trans men’s rights DEFINITELY vary state to state. But I highly doubt that’s what they were talking about.

        The only other possible thing I could think of would be how divorce and child support is handled state by state (which is just another thing pushed by the right wing politicians). Maybe some obscure differences between access to TRT? But, again, it’s just a comment that is giving no context to the original post and then just ignoring the fact that there is no law towards men, and their rights to their bodies, that is anywhere near what abortion laws control. (Again, excluding trans men. But if the comment you replied to cared about that they would have mentioned it.)

        Clearly the original post isn’t debating about how it’s unfair that in Kentucky the passengers in cars can drink alcohol but in other states they can’t. It’s not a law about gender/sex. The top comment in this thread is just critizing the original post in bad faith for no real reason but being “technically correct”. And for some reason it’s being up voted without mentioning literally any law comparable on the level of anti abortion laws.

        I’m welcome to be proven wrong. But, seriously, there is a reason they didn’t mention a specific law targeting men in certain states.

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      Yup.

      Glad someone responded to this like that.

      As a man, try purport yourself the same from state to state, as if the rules and rights of one are carried over everywhere just because you’re a man. XD

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      You are missing the point. There are no rights exclusive to men that vary by state. The only rights that vary by state for one gender are women’s rights.

      Things like parental rights don’t apply here because those impact both genders (they are zero-sum; a decrease in men’s paternal rights implies an increase in women’s rights).

      Only women have specific rights that ONLY impact women and vary from state to state

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          While you are technically correct, this is very obviously a discussion about reproductive rights, and the historical oppression of women as those who are most commonly impacted by reproductive rights issues. Your point is factual and valid but it is a distraction from the very important conversation being had here.

          If this discussion leads to improved protection of reproductive rights, by pointing to the imbalance between traditionally male and traditionally female rights under US law, then trans men will also benefit. As such, the distraction of pointing out that trans men are also impacted therefore it’s “not just women” and the implication that we shouldn’t be talking about the ongoing oppression of women but rather “uterus havers”, works against your own interests.

          The people who need to be convinced that reproductive rights need protection, and for whom the “it’s imbalanced” argument will be effective, are often even more vehemently opposed to trans issues. Bringing your point up here only serves to further entrench people who might otherwise be swayed to make changes that would benefit trans men. This is called “breaking into jail”.

          There is a time and a place to have the “trans men are impacted by reproductive rights issues” discussion and this isn’t it.

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            I know it seems pedantic and normally I wouldnt interject but clearly based on your responses throughout this thread it needs to be brought up.

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              My omission of your point was intentional because as I said, in this context it’s not pedantic but rather self-defeating.

              If we were in a different context I’d be right there with you championing the fact that trans men are effected by reproductive rights issues.

              But for all the reasons I’ve already explained I chose not to bring transgender matters into this conversation because it only serves to make it harder to get the things you actually want, which is reproductive healthcare equality for trans men (and women).

              It was a deliberate choice to meet my target audience where they are, knowing that a victory in that context would benefit trans men too.

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            Transphobia flourishes when it’s dismissed, minimized, and forgiven.

            The only differences between “men’s rights” and “women’s rights” comes down to unequal treatment by police and the courts. When we talk about abortion and rape, the group in question can be described a bunch of ways (“female”, “xx”, “uterus-having”) but not accurately simply as “women”.

            Because trans-men are men, not women, and treating them as such is every bit as bigoted as treating trans women as men.

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            Do you not think that access to abortion affects cis men too? Of course it’s far more important to the woman whose body is at risk, just not solely important to her. This is the kind of stupid divisiveness that doesn’t help.

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            Hush? Like how women have been historically told to hush? Trans rights are every bit as important as women’s rights.

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        So you’re saying that in addition to the rights we all have, women have additional exclusive rights.

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          No, I’m saying that women are SUPPOSED to have the same rights as everyone (e.g. complete bodily autonomy) but have their rights restricted in varying ways from state to state.

          This really isn’t that hard to understand. Women have had their rights restricted in ways that men didn’t for a long, long time. It’s so normal that you aren’t even aware of it.

          They got the right to vote later than men.

          They got federal protection for their right to have their own bank account without a man’s approval in 1974 for fuck’s sake.

          Is it so hard to recognize that women’s rights are controlled in ways that men’s aren’t?

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            Female genital mutilation is illegal in the United States. Male genital mutilation is common practice. The discrepancies certainly aren’t equal, but they aren’t exclusively one-sided.

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              Let’s not forget that women have never had compulsory military service in the US either. I hear some things can happen to your body in war. I mean aside from it being mandatorily shipped away for months and years.

              Yes, anyone pushing for that last inch of total exclusivity here has another think coming.

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            It’s not that hard to understand. Neither is “Men’s rights very much do differ by state but not anywhere near as significant.”

            If you had just been reasonable and settled for that, I woudln’t be deliberately winding you up like this.

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          Well yes. In addition to the body parts we all have, women have some that are exclusive to them; and as they’re a bit special they require extra rights.

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            Well, no. Both sexes have body parts which are exclusive to them. And before you say “yeah but there’s nothing controversial or invasive happening to any male body parts” consider circumcision.

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          You can open carry where? You can own an assault rifle where? You can not open carry nor own a pistol where 18 vs 21 where?

          All are questions of the second amendment. In NYC you can’t own a gun without privelege. In Orlando, you can now own one and carry one.

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            You’re missing the point: are any of those rights different my state only for men or are all of those rights different by state for EVERYONE including men and women?

            There are no rights exclusive to men that vary by state. The only rights that vary by state for one gender are women’s rights

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              I was agreeing they didn’t vary by sex, but just to play devils advocate, rape. In many states only men can be charged with rape, because it defines it as penetration, and I don’t believe fingers count

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      By that logic there is no rights. It ignores what a fight is supposed to be practically and legally

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      It’s kind of inherent to the concept of rights that they exist in some framework of authority.

      Cavemen could have shouted that they have human rights to the other cavemen bashing their heads in and it would have been utterly meaningless.

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      What if a bad supreme court can come in and take away rights? If that’s the case, then it doesn’t matter if it’s explicitly listed in some kind of constitutional document because the bad court can choose to interpret that document in such a way that the right disappears. By this definition, there’s no such thing as a right, because there’s always someone who can come in and take it away. There aren’t, and can not be, any actual rights, just conditional privileges.

      But, that isn’t a very useful definition. In some sense, it’s obviously true. If a warlord takes over a country they might suddenly forbid something everybody assumed was a right. That’s why we have the saying “might makes right”. Fundamentally the only rights you really have are the ones that you’re strong enough to prevent someone from taking away. It certainly helps to have them written down in some kind of founding document, but it’s no guarantee of anything.

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        Freedom is something you take. Whether for yourself or another, and it’s always from some fucking duechbag who wants slaves and not equals

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    when i was younger and stupid and in the (glass) closet i was dating the son of a pharmacologist. this man had made millions developing medications. he was fond of me and privately told me i was too funny and smart to be dating boys.

    he also said that it was incredibly unlikely that sexism will ever be resolved in the medical field. that the majority of medications i will ever take - even some of which are “for women” - will not be clinically tested on my body.

    the problem, he said, was in getting any human clinical trial approved.

    to test on a body with a uterus - any body, even elderly patients or those who have been sterilized - was often nigh-impossible, because the concern was that the test patient may, at any point, become pregnant.

    once/if the patient became pregnant, the study would not be about “the effects of New Medication on the body.”

    instead, the trial would fail - the results would be “the effects of New Medication on a developing fetus/pregnant patient.”

    it was massively easier, he said, to just test without accounting for a uterus.

    that’s how he phrased it - accounting for a uterus.

    at the time, i remember him talking about the ethical implications of testing on a developing fetus; how such testing could theoretically bankrupt a company if a lawsuit was filed. he talked about informed consent and about how long it took for any legislation to be passed about this -

    • that in 1993; the year i was born, it finally became illegal to outright exclude women and minorities from clinical trials.

    i remember him shrugging. “that’s not to say it doesn’t happen,” he said. my ears were ringing.

    i was thinking about how every time i have been rushed to the ER, the first thing they have asked me is if i am pregnant.

    when i broke my wrist at 16 years old - despite never having had sex - they made me wait three hours for the test to come back negative before they gave me pain meds. the possibility of a child haunts my health.

    how many people have died on the table because they were waiting for the pregnancy test before treatment.

    how many people have died on the table because they were pregnant, and the only thing we care about is the fetus.

    it is hard to explain to other people, but it feels like some kind of strange ghost. our entire lives, we are supposed to “save” our bodies for our future partners. but really we are just saving the body for the future child, aren’t we? that hovering future-almost that cartwheels around in a miasma. you can’t get your tubes tied, what if you change your mind? think of the child you must have, eventually. who cares about you and your actual safety. think about what you could be carrying.

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      women are also dismissed or outright ignored in the ER OR AT appointments, as having a period or being hysterical when they have serious symptoms of a disease.

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      how many people have died on the table because they were waiting for the pregnancy test before treatment.

      You would be extremally disgusted hearing what happens in poland since 2020.

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      That’s rough. Thank you for that explanation.

      I knew about pregnancy concerns preventing pregnancy related medical things (tubes tied, etc) but not about health in general like a broken bone. WTF. I get people not wanting to hurt a fetus, but its wild that it’s more important than the person that may be carrying it, let alone it when it doesnt exist and its just a woman that ‘is pregnant or may become pregnant’ with an injury.

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    Liability for child and spousal support do vary by state.

    Gendered inequity in criminal punishment does vary by state also.

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        My state gives unmarried fathers essential zero rights as a parent of the child. They are expected to provide financial support though.

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            Like 0 rights.

            I’ll give you my solidly blue, pretends to be progressive states take:

            If you are the father of the child you are responsible for the child. Unless you are married to the mother of the child, you default to having 0 legal custody of that child and all matters of the child’s health and welfare are up to the mother to decide. You have no paternal rights to the child, but you do have paternal obligations.

            If you marry the mother you are suddenly legally part of the equation and have more rights, but unless you’re married to the mother of your child you have no legal standing.

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        Equal Protection Clause found in the 14th Amendment of the Constitution.

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    Men’s rights to what, exactly? There are plenty of rights that affect men that vary state to state. Off the top of my head I can think of firearm rights that vary dramatically state to state. Or are we talking about rights exclusive to men because of different biology between men and women? I feel like other than a vasectomy, I’m not sure what other male-biology-related rights I have. Honestly there’s less technology related to reproduction on the male side.

    I get the point of the message, that there are rights women should be universally guaranteed that aren’t, and I totally agree with that message. But the phrasing seems ambiguous at best.

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      I am sure that they are speaking of reproductive rights that apply exclusively to men.

      The biggest one that I can think of that varies by region are paternal rights. Things like which parent gets custody, child support. I guess you could say that paternal rights in that case simply vary inversely to maternal rights.

      I think I recall from the past that in some states, a sperm donor, like for a sperm bank, may be subject to more liability for their children than in other states.

      Medically, there’s not only vasectomy, but also drugs that cause erections like Viagra, as well as other impotence treatments. I have no idea if any of those vary by state. Prostate treatment would also count. Any treatment that might increase or decrease viable sperm count.

      I wouldn’t be surprised if there were differences between states about how penile implants or even piercings are treated.

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        You’re the only one making it about exclusive rights and not just generally rights.

        Really stupid and asinine for people like you to demand everyone just shut up and agree with you, because agreeing with you but then talking about other related things isn’t nice enough or whatever

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          The OP is literally comparing the difference between men and women’s rights.

          I guess pretending that they aren’t is popular.

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            Do men have rights that vary state to state? Yes. Do women also have rights that vary state to state? Yes.

            So the OP is false.

            Nowhere in op says exclusive rights, nowhere in op cuts out specific rights. That’s why people are disagreeing with you. You’re defending a false statement by adding words in your head that aren’t there on the page.

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              Yup.

              A lot of “it means what I mean it to mean” going around in the replies to those pointing out the poor phrasing’s logic fail.

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    Yup.

    We live in a country where if I get in the car with my girlfriend on the west coast and drive to the east coast, she gains and loses basic human rights multiple times before we reach our destination and nothing changes for me.

    We can’t even treat our women with respect. Trash nation. Full stop.

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      You realize those prejudices get compounded, right?

      What’s the name of that highway in canada, where they raped and murdered and dumped the corpses of native women?

      Never a lead on any of those cases. I don’t think one was male, but hey, maybe there were a couple

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        The counter-claim is not that racism is exclusively a men’s issue. The counter-claim is that the claim “men’s rights don’t vary by state” is false, as evidenced an example of how men’s rights do vary by state. The implied part that should have been explicit is that the way racism manifests from state to state also has gendered aspects, with some disproportionately affecting women (e.g. hair/dress policing in the workplace) but some also disproportionately affecting men (e.g. incarceration). That is to say, racism and sexism are intersectional. Another example might be how custody rights typically vary from state to state often unjustly disfavoring the father, given all other things being equal.

        I’d suggest that this argument does not go against the underlying position of OP that “patriarchy bad”, rather it corrects OP to highlight how institutional sexism typically falls along normative/conservative conceptions of gender for men too. That is to say “patriarchy bad mostly for women, but also bad for men too”.

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      There is at least a parental choice involved. The government is actively removing women’s rights as we speak

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        If you cut through the dog-whistling bullshit, there are a lot of issues with child custody, for example. Access to the correct restroom is also highly state dependent. While the legal aspect is only part of it, genital mutilation rates are also variable by state.

        Look, this isn’t a competition. Two things can be bad at the same time.

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            Similar as to women’s rights a lot of injustice is less enshrined in law and more in practice and societal reality. I.e. a comprehensive picture cannot merely be based on the detail of the law.

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            Every single one of the amendments called the bill of rights has different limitations per state.

            A man’s 1st amendment rights are legally different in Florida than in California

            A man’s 2nd amendment rights are legally different in Florida than in California

            And so on. 3rd amendment is probably the least variable but still.

            Name a “right” that doesn’t vary state by state. Frequently our legal rights vary by county and city even. To pretend otherwise is to be willfully ignorant.

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                I very much care if women die and it’s so stupid to imply I don’t when I’m disagreeing with the insanely ignorant OP. Stop making enemies out of allies.

                If it had said men’s life saving healthcare doesn’t vary by state, that’s a huge fucking difference and you know it. It would still be wrong, because everyone’s access to healthcare varies vastly by state, but at least you’d have a leg to stand on.

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      No offense (lie) but cry me a fuckin river. Is it shitty, stupid, fucked up, and should be stopped? Sure! Wholeheartedly agree.

      But framing it the same verbiage of something that KILLS LITTLE GIRLS or MAIMS THEM BEYOND BEING ABLE TO PISS let alone have a functional set of genitalia if they get to grow up

      is fucking retarded

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    Here in Tennessee, if I get a boner in public (fully clothed), it’s indecent exposure and I can be arrested.

    That’s not the case in most states.

    Granted, I doubt it’s a common issue, but I’m a nerd and saw a claim that’s technically wrong, so here I am.

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    I don’t get why people think saying things like “REPEAT THAT OUT LOUD” makes their point better. Let the horror speak for itself, it’s plenty capable of doing so.

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    Try not to “but what about men” challenge

    Level: impossible

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    No states give men the right to not be a father. They’re along for whatever ride the woman chooses

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        Which don’t protect them in cases of rape or reproductive coercion. Vasectomies are a form of permanent sterilization with dubious reversal rates.

        That’s also ignoring how there are fewer options for birth control, in no small part due to biological differences (read: hormones).

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      Men have the exact same right to abandon and refuse to raise their child that women do. This right is not always respected in American courts, but the same laws that protect her if he doesn’t want to help also should protect him if she just wants to drop the baby and run.

      And if she sabotaged the condom, stole his sperm for IVF,.or similarly took action to concieve against his wishes, then she committed a crime and should be punished. But not the child.

      As far as the law or justice cares, babies could be delivered by storks.