I feel this is a safe place to say, for years now I have cared for (the Beings Rights in me says, cannot own nature, thus Living Beings) a dog in Hospice status, example literally, walking skeleton)…
…& as in my profile, I am about to put the dog down, been thinking, thus crying about this for weeks, had the standard for the decision decided for months & for weeks known it was going to happen, crying right now.
I am also a diehard not Religious person-Everyone has the most powerful thing we know, just different degrees of us understanding it & working through it’s limitations, as all of them have Challenges, to us. What are they? They are all of our brains/minds, together they are even more powerful, then as individuals. So when I put her life to an end, we will never know each other again!
I have told everyone it has to be an emotional free/logical decision, to reach the right as possible time; but doing so hardest thing in the world! I HATE HAVING TO CHOOSE DEATH FOR OTHERS WHO NEED IT, BUT CANNOT THEMSELVES! Done it for way too many animals I care for, because live in Unincorporated, Ag. & Politically Right dominated area. Thankfully, I choose to not over being too emotional, in such decisions & situations, comfort zone. Have had relatives (even in the same household) react emotionally & try to either race the dog to her death, way too soon or prevent me from creating the standards with The Vet., though last week, the dog’s suffering is in everyone’s face.
But I wish, I could switch back & forth to & from my Mr. Spock a lot less emotional brain, back to my level head, but more emotional. Both are needed for healing.
If it helps, one of the coolest parts of that show (TOS) is the dynamic between that triad of rational Spock (superego?), emotional Bones (id?), and Captain Kirk (ego?) whose job it was to integrate them together.
You have the privilege of listening to both voices. You are living out the responsibility of having to deal with both. Though it’s probably okay to take a mental health break? 💔
Days after having her put down, I am going to watch one of favorite SciFi Political Movies Series- Avatar. Then later this week’s Sat., I am going to clean-up a beach, for the very 1st time ever.
“Touching grass” (well, a beach in this case) is undeniably one of the best things you can do. Exposure to nature, and helping others, I can’t think of anything better:-).
Hey, your dog had an awesome parent, you know that? 🐶
I do love nature, just not public beaches, at least in South Florida’s needles-pollution beaches. I prefer The USA’s Northwest, Washington, Oregon & Alaska, & other countries’ regions (like Scandinavia <SP?>) with same mountains & trees & nature, just hate their cold. So it is more about distraction into my doing right/activist mind.
It is an excellent distraction, as far as distractions go. It won’t be perfect, of course, but it will accomplish something all the same. (“Don’t let perfect be the enemy of good”:-)
True, I will need a distraction, Not to be sexist or anything like that, but to be real, the possibility for this living in a isolating area, single, fit & 50ish man, doing something people think is good thing to do, seeing sexy, bikini clad, young & fit women is a great distraction & possibilities.
Definitely. And they will likewise presumably enjoy being looked at, respectfully and not creepily of course:-).
But maybe also carve out some time specifically to be alone with your thoughts, so as to help yourself heal? Or if it’s too soon, that’s understandable - just be kind to yourself however you can manage.
LOL, of course.
Like I said in previous post, I already started to make healing easier & faster. Hopefully, I will not need to much healing time. Can be helped by finding new friends-love.
It occurred to me, how interesting your “Touching grass” comment was,…
…I used to ride my bicycle to our community’s grass areas in-front of isolated & quiet properties, so I could lay in the grass, experience nature’s bugs (a lot of Bumble Bees; was making my own sunscreen then, that attracted pollinators) & able to concentrate on the work on my ideas for inventions, sports computer gaming & book.Later on, I found a community of immigrant workers, of the local Ag. businesses, at the local & historical grocery store. Until after they price gauged me, on ice cubes, when my electricity would not stay on, for weeks of I spending money on their cheaper & larger amount of ice cubes.
Touching grass can be very soothing.
Not just soothing, but invigerating one’s mental activities.
Good job doing something so hard with so much care. Your dog was lucky to have someone care so much for them. I am crying too from remembering how I felt in similar times and imagining how you must feel now.
Thank you for treating life so delicately.
Thank you,
Life is priceless,
That fact that I know is the reason I believe in Peaceful Space Exploration, that current mainstream Space SciFi cannot avoid.
For all repliers & readers,
Thank you, so much,
Yesterday, I dug-out the grave plot, awesome distraction, though tomorrow afternoon she will be gone, you would think not. I had to get it deep enough & Etc. through our coral rock. Never once thought of the sad or cried, but about the labor & getting it right & how much the indigenous Life Oak will benefited from her decomposing & how I could state it is her grave plot.
I feel for you and being on the position to have to make this decision. It’s a rough time but you’ll get through it and the universe will fill that void in due time.
So true, time will heal all.
I remember the Being I have known, adopted mixed dog as a puppy, had Blood Cancer, I had put down. It nearly tore me apart, I eye to eye with him, cried & told him how good of dog he was, as he died.
I feel for you, having had to put down a dog in 2022 and having one who might be getting close.
I feel the need to point something out, however; as the meme goes, “Sir, this is
a Wendy’sc/Risa.” In other words, you’re making a lot of serious posts in a community primarily meant for memes and crapposting, where we come to relax. For general Trek-related discussion, c/startrek is probably a better idea.Anyhow, sorry for your pain, and here’s a belated welcome to the fediverse.
Sorry, to bring too much seriousness here. There just is not enough ‘Star Trek’ places here, & here is few places not overrun with BLANKS participants ruining it all.
I do have say, you are the only one so far that has expressed this.Thank you,
