Back in 2023, I (M then bigender) used to make content on YouTube, and one of my biggest fans was a Brazilian girl who I’ll call “Emi” (short for Emilia). She would always comment something positive on my videos.

Since I was born a girl, bigender, and Emi was Christian, I’d just let her call me a girl.

Anyway, we became quite close and we would tell each other about our family life, people we found attractive, boyfriends, crushes, etc.

I helped her with English and she helped me with Portuguese. I can write some Portuguese now without needing a translator but not fluently.

Well, she began to have feelings for me and questioned being bisexual, but I felt uncomfortable dating a barely preteen as a young teen because someone told me it was iffy.

Eventually, we lost contact in like 2025, and she deleted WhatsApp, where we texted, so I messaged her again on YouTube. She seemed very excited to see me. I asked what social medias she had, and she said Facebook and Instagram. Oddly enough, Emi wouldn’t accept the request, so I messaged her on Instagram.

About 7 months later, in November 2025, she finally accepted the request but started acting dry, only saying “Yes” “no” “I don’t know/IDK”, and “maybe”.

I asked her what was wrong and if we were still friends, but she blocked me. My friend “Carmen” (F), who was following Emi, asked her why I was blocked. She went on an alternate account, sent insults and threats to me, saying we weren’t friends anymore, I was being annoying, and that I should stop texting her (which I already did). She also told me to disappear, shall we say, and told my friend that I was just a dumb dog.

  • derekabutton@lemmy.worldEnglish
    12·
    13 天前

    Sounds like you wanting to be her friend or not is moot, because she doesn’t want to be yours. Move on. She owes you no explanation. Sorry that this is harsh. NTA

    • hitmyspot@aussie.zoneEnglish
      4·
      13 天前

      She doesn’t owe an explanation, but it is not unreasonable to ask or expect one. If she chooses not to give one, that’s on her, but a sudden change and being abusive and offensive is not ok.

      • derekabutton@lemmy.worldEnglish
        2·
        13 天前

        Totally glossed over the “insults and threats” until rereading because I didn’t understand what was abusive and offensive at first. That changes my opinion. That’s an AH move, absolutely

  • Angel(she/they)English
    9·
    13 天前

    I agree that you should move on, there are plenty of better friends, but the way she sent threats snd shit makes her TA. So NTA.