People in Beehaw are nice (thank you all for that), but I am put off of the idea of reddit-like sites because of how toxic Reddit became (and also because of it lumping all USians as you-know-what), and when I select “All” for all lemmy instances in post view, it brings back bad memories of reddit.
I am very sorry if i anger anybody in Beehaw. this is also the reason why I am not active in beehaw.
I’m kinda agreeing with this, but not as much for the reasons others are stating here.
Lemmy reminds me of reddit moreso in the fact that there is a lot of conversation here that just… isn’t really conversation. People read a headline, immediately form conclusions, and slam one-line comments down that state the bare-bones of that without any thought, without even checking if someone else has said the exact same thing.
And I don’t think most of that’s bots, either. I think it’s the structure of the software. Lemmy seems to be trying to be “reddit, but federated” with absolutely nothing more changed, and I think that’s a massive mistake. I’ve seen what thread-based social media can be like if an attempt is made to actually improve on reddit, and there’s several methods of doing so that work. Methods that encourage healthy interaction and behavior instead of whatever drives numbers the most. Beehaw even already implements many of them in the form of its core principles and moderation strategy!
But that still leaves the software. And the software doesn’t seem to give a damn about the problems inherent to downvoting, upvoting, having visible votes on posts at all, having the easiest thing to interact with be the comment box, etc. Lemmy copies an engagement-oriented site without stripping the toxicity of that. And it shows.
I’m not planning to leave or anything right now – I came here for Beehaw and I still like Beehaw, and I don’t browse outside of it – but man if I don’t have my frustrations.
Take care of yourself, do what you need to do and don’t feel bad about leaving or taking a break.
If you want to try something different, subscribe to communities that aren’t politics focused. Block users like me, if I come into a non-political thread and make it about politics.
It sounds like you care about other people which is great trait, but don’t let it overwhelm you. Engage with social media at your own pace.
You can block lemmy.ml and lemmy.world and you’ll remove most of the toxicity from your feed.
The USA is stirring the pot, so you’re being upset with people here disliking the USA?
I get it though, a lot of recent accounts are just the same trolls, edgelords and shitposters you find in any community. We all have that uncle or aunt IRL.
Lemmy though has been much better imo, than F, R and the likes. I see more genuine conversations on here than elsewhere.
I do hope you stay, because voices like yours is what keeps us as a platform from turning into the one we shall not name.
Not just the US, all of the people even if they are against IT
I think it’s less Reddit vs. anything, and just the basic fact that most humans are kind of stupid and prideful. That quickly turns into bigotry when other people seem to do something dumb en masse.
The same thing that has Republicans blaming black people for how bad “the hood” gets has Europeans et. al. blaming all Americans for Trump.
Humanity itself is just kindof a piece of shit, IMO…
If that can help, Piefed has a few features such as built-in keyword filters or community titles filters that can help curate the All feed a bit better.
Piefed.zip is a well managed instance.
I’m not much on Lemmy myself, and I got similar flashbacks when hitting the “All” button. So I tweaked the communities I follow and tend to stick with Beehaw.
I still don’t post much. I’m prone to a quip here or there, or even a terse comment. But I lurk mostly, more mindful of not adding toxicity.
Pls note this is mostly about why I left reddit and when clicking “ALL” brings bad memories back and has me fear people on lemmy will do the same things
