And does the SF ever go away?
I have a friend who was in that situation. After a while he just started jerking it again. Not watching so much porn and not jerking it every day is probably good for you, but going no fap is just gonna give you wet dreams to clean up and won’t actually solve any problems.
The whole “rarely find a mate” thing is first of all a really weird phrasing and secondly is a solvable problem. That manosphere crap is a learned helplessness grift. Lower your standards a bit, get some hobbies, go socialize. As long as you respect people, you’ll find plenty of people willing to give you a chance.
It’s a little odd calling them a “mate” in this context. There’s nothing wrong with masterbation. If you think porn is had and don’t wanna watch it, that’s fine, but genuinely there is absolutely nothing wrong with masterbation. I think a lot of people take folks’ negative feelings about porn and twist them into negative feelings about self pleasure and try to get people to believe that living some “pure” life where you don’t touch yourself is inherently better than the alternative or something. It’s really not.
Sex is a big part of life. There’s no reason you can’t do it alone. There’s no reason why you shouldn’t do it alone. Go enjoy yourself. Have some me time. It’s not something to feel guilty about.
I’d imagine this is how you turn yourself into a psycho killer.
you can never make art again
I did it for a little over a month once just to see what it was like. There weren’t really any effects beyond just being horny all the time. It was basically like being a teenager in high school again. Other than that nothing changed. I didn’t experience any of the benefits you see people talking about. I probably had more trouble focusing on work but that’s hard to tell because that’s always been a problem.
Personally I find being horny incredibly distracting. It’s so hard to focus on anything and makes interacting with people you could theoretically “mate” with much more difficult because my mind is constantly preoccupied with “would. I wonder if they’d be interested.” Really annoying.
Yeah I’m the same way. I have a much easier time interacting with women if I keep the edge off.
the “benefits” are mostly people with addictions losing their executive disfunctions. re-realizing you can just…do things you want to do is powerful experience
Your balls will explode!
I’m a woman.
In that case, your balls probably won’t explode then.
You’ll grow balls and then they’ll explode!
That’s fatal.
I know it’s not what you asked, OP, but NoFap is a purity cult. Cross reference the mods from r/nofap and you’ll find heavy correlation with religious sub’s.
Despite claims for helping porn/sex addicts, their intent is to get their foot in the door.
If you want to live a life of NoFap for reasons you decide for yourself, fine, but don’t do it to gain any of the benefits those twats claim.
Worst case scenario is you get prostate cancer.
My apologizing for not understanding that it’s a cult. All I know is what it means to me is “making a personal decision to refrain from masturbation because I feel energetically stronger when I save that energy for [whatever/whoever].”
You do you, if you feel energetically stronger, that’s almost certainly due to your personality.
Research has been done to discern whether athletes should refrain from sex before sports. The results showed that there was no meaningful performance difference is clarity, concentration, or energy levels.
And by the sounds of the olympics, good luck getting the athletes from around the world that you put in one place to stop finding other athletes attractive XD
Covid era proved this true, the risk didn’t stop them.
If you’re making a decision for yourself, because you feel better for not doing something, where the alternative is to do it out of habit or some form of compulsion that makes you feel bad or like it’s a waste of energy, then you definitely don’t need strangers on the internet telling you anything about it (doubly so if it doesn’t hurt anyone.)
I’m in it, last relationship was 17 years or so ago
I mean it ain’t all bad. So long as you don’t mind the actual loneliness, the physical touch gets easy to forget.
But I dunno if I’d recommend this to anyone tbh
Oh edit because I didn’t address your question. No it doesn’t go away, but it gets easier to ignore over time. Also I’m on 1500mg oh lithium so that may impact things.
Using the term “NoFap” in the title is a bit like putting “AI” in there - it pretty much guarantees zero productive conversation in the comments and instead acts as a bug light for certain people to just chime in with their personal views on that one thing.
I don’t even bother writing a response to the actual question because I don’t want to spend the rest of the day defending views I don’t even hold.
You’re asking a bunch of chronically online lemmy nerds what they think of masturbation. So if you’re looking for an impartial response then you’ve come to the wrong place.
🤣 You’re not wrong.
You ll just be alot more horny and you will have more sexual daydreams. The rest normalizes, but keep in mind sex is healthy for the body in general.
One of the side effects is compulsive posting on 4chan /pol
I can only guess anger, depression and extreme irritability. Especially in such a sexually charged culture.
I’m a woman to start.
There’s two modes I’ve found myself in when not masturbating - I’m either purposefully staying aroused and denying an orgasm to heighten sexual tension and pleasure OR I’m not masturbating because life is busy for whatever reason and my libido diminishes over time.
So it depends. And I think everyone is a little different as well, so you might want to play with not masturbating to reduce sexual frustration to see if it works for you.
purposefully staying aroused and denying an orgasm to heighten sexual tension and pleasure
Honestly I think I’m in this camp! I have a strong feeling the best is yet to come and it’s not too far in the future, I look stunning in a bikini and I just bought three sparkly new ones and I live at the beach and so many beautiful people around here ✨
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I’m a woman.
Edit: aww he deleted his comment 🤣
He said: “Stop being a pussy. Man up and castrate yourself.”
Which would’ve been scathing to a man. But it lands hilariously when said to a woman 🤣
There is an extensive catalog of toys for you to make you feel things no man will ever do
Oh I have all those toys. And believe me that might be part of the problem. No man has ever satisfied me like those toys do. But I’m tired of wasting my energy on robots. I want the love & oxytocin & presence of a human.
This response reminds me of my favorite comedy podcast: SuperEgo.
After reading through the whole post, I doubt that.
You’re doubting that I’m a woman? 🤣 Ok you keep enjoying your mental gymnastics. Whatever entertains you 🤷🏼♀️
How would mental gymnastics come into this?
Do you know what gymnastics is? It’s doing a bunch of flips & tumbles to get from point A to point B instead of just walking there, sometimes going the opposite direction and ending up back where you started, or in a completely different place.
Mental gymnastics is when you read something that’s pretty straightforward but your brain goes & unravels it & turns it inside out & upside down & comes up with an entirely different idea than what was presented. Sometimes it’s necessary to do that which is called critical thinking, but sometimes it’s unnecessary to do that and that’s what you did here. Because everything I said was straightforward, I am not creative enough to tell lies.
I know what mental gymnastics is, don’t be condescending. It doesn’t apply here.
Well it would’ve taken you a lot less effort to read this post at face value than to do flips & tumbles in your mind to come to your own conclusion that I’m the opposite gender than I stated.
