Now, realistically, we’re probably not gonna last forever. We’re 18 and 19 years old. But whenever marriage is brought up somehow, even when it’s around non-homophobic people or queer people themselves, she always says “he”, “my future husband”, “If I get married, I hope it’ll be to a man/guy who does ____.”
My girlfriend is bisexual and with the fact that we likely won’t last to get married, I understand this, but I feel confused and also a little sad for some reason because I’m not a man. IDK why I feel like this, I know it’s irrational and that she loves me, not a guy, so why do I feel this way?
She broke your heart by not even considering another woman as long term option and basically telling you she will break up with you eventually.
That is asuming she isn’t just saying it this way out of habit. So maybe talk to her about your feelings.
Do take everything I said with a grain of salt since I am a straight guy.
sounds like compulsory heteronormativity. but it’s still disrespectful to you. she should be single or at least be upfront about only dating casually til she figures herself out.
18-19yo should not be thinking about marrying you are too young. maybe at 22 when you are done with college, thats a big if.
Don’t sweat it homie. You’re 18/19…if you’re thinking about marrying someone at this age… You’re fucking up.
Relationships aren’t about being realistic on the future, they are about caring for each other, having fun. I think she’s not caring enough about you when she says these things and expects you to stay
Have you told her this?
