I (18F) am bi and polyamorous. I only have sex with women and I’m not attracted to dick. I also prefer to meet up with the person IRL and only date people within my state. However, I am bi because I would date men and women despite my preference for women.

Recently, a trans girl pre-everything (F19) (still a woman but looked kinda like a feminine guy with long hair if that makes sense) said she had a crush on me and asked if we could date. Mind you, we haven’t spoken until her chat.

I just told her the main thing, since she was from Europe and I am in the USA, I prefer to date people within my country and state.

But also, what I didn’t tell her is that even if she lived in my state, I couldn’t imagine dating and having sex with her unless she had surgeries and I feel so bad for saying this. It’s not her personally, I just don’t like dick 🙁

  • tacosanonymous@mander.xyzEnglish
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    2 months ago

    So you would date a man but only if they don’t have a dick?

    I think it’s totally fair to avoid long distance relationships as well as having preferences be they personality, anatomy, etc.

    • Angel(she/they)OPEnglish
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      2 months ago

      Thanks. I should probably word that better. Now that I think about it, I would date a man regardless, just not have sex with him and I guess the same for a preop trans woman.

  • Danquebec@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
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    2 months ago

    NAH, you said one of the reasons why and that was true. Unless you were mean about it I don’t see the issue.

  • manuallybreathing@lemmy.mlEnglish
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    1 month ago

    a relationship is more than sex, and sex is more than bumping genitals. Although dating internationally would be really draining so NTA