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This is easy to demonstrate. Hang a calendar on the wall in a prominent position. Observe that during August it displays April, and it’s the first time you noticed it.
I think mine is still on January… Or 2024.
Or January 2024.
Thank goodness the greed square is there. Wouldn’t know what to read otherwise.
Hands off my greed square (it’s a rectangle btw).
Rectangles are just squares that got greedy to take up more space.
Well, I didn’t see the square until you mentioned and read the whole thing. Had to scroll up to see what square you are talking about. The green square is background noise…
well if that don’t shove up your money hole i don’t know what will.
I’ll take Brand New Sentences for $600, Alex
600 is today’s daily double!
So what’s the answer, I need solutions
It varies a lot from person to person.
I’ve had a lot of success with setting alarms on my phone, but it’s still 80/20 if not 70/30.
You just need to try all the methods until you find one(s) that work for you
I need to write down some notes to keep track of the methods I use to write down notes of things I need to keep track of…
Ever tried traveler’s notebook? It worked for me. For a while.
Alarms worked perfectly for me. I might have dozens of alarms going off all the time, but I never forget stuff anymore! I make them automatically now, too; sometimes I’ll even go to make one after discussing plans with someone, and find that I already did it without thinking while we were talking.
Ive been putting all the stuff I need to remember on a cork board right above my desk. My trick for it to not become background noise is that every note I add to it is interactive in some way. I add boxes to check, lists to expand, or recently I just cut out 31 squares of grid paper and glued it to my note as a sort of calendar, just to fill in a box each day of August that I remember the importance of the note. It also helps to be constantly adding and removing things. If details relating to a note have changed, I’ll sometimes take the note down, toss it, and rewrite the note with a different color pen before sticking it back up. Constant change helps a lot.
A key is to have an ever-changing solution. Any one method for too long will inevitably fail, so you have to regularly change it up. This also plays on the “interest, challenge, novelty, urgency” way which our brains work by keeping our brain engaged instead of bored.
But still, the dilemma of having the energy (and availability creativity) to keep changing or rotating the method can be a regular pitfall.
Thank you!
What works for me: e-ink notebook (like Supernote, Remarkable, Boox Note). My “todo” notebook is like 2 pages long divided into stuff for today and stuff for future. I could use a piece of paper of course but:
- I erase things that are either done or no longer relevant (they don’t become visual clutter)
- I can reorganize stuff on my todo page when I feel overwhelmed or move it to other pages if I don’t want to focus on it today
- writing things down manually with a pen instead of using a keyboard makes it easier for me to remember
- picking the device I won’t get distracted by notifications or other apps because I don’t have any
Despite what this thread may claim, writing things down is still absolutely something that someone with ADHD should try.
It helps my wife manage hers a lot. Writing things down is functionally different than typing them out, and your brain remembers the physical act of writing much better.
Just minimise the number of places where you write things down. While there is a number of note taking apps I use at home and at work, it’s a small number, so I usually find stuff after a pretty quick search.
I’d say seperate places them by topic. All my study related things are in one app on my laptop, organization stuff in my phone calender. It helps so that I don’t grow tired of one system / the system doesn’t feel too cluttered, so it won’t fade into background noise. Everything has an alarm? Snooze 'em all! Write everything into that one app? Ain’t finding shit again and too tired to write everything in there, too much effort. The last thing for chores and workout is: make a habit out of it, maybe set a daily alarm if it helps you and do it, just starting is fine at the beginning, but make it a habit
I use a paper notebook, a page per week or month depending on how quickly I fill up the page, I scribble progress bars and check boxes all over it so I’m constantly referring back to it. Once one page fills up I’ll copy everything that wasn’t finished and is still worth tracking on the last page to the next one. The notebook stays in one spot and never moves so I can’t lose it, same with the pencil and the pencil sharpener
More active forms of reminders like alarms, calendar entries, date/time-based notifications (a common feature in to do list apps), or even just asking others to remind me help to keep me on top of things. It also helps to put things in a place where I will see them at the right time, if that makes sense. For example, my medication is in my bathroom because I’m there at the beginning and end of the day when I need to take my meds anyway.
At work, I have a kanban board containing a card for each task with due dates, a description, and any other info I need. The categories are various states the task can be in, including not started, in progress, waiting for someone to get back to me, on hold, etc. This works well for me because I have a single place with everything I need to keep track of and I refer to constantly, but this tool doesn’t work at all for me in my personal life.
For things like emails and texts, I will mark items as unread after reading them if they have an outstanding action I have not completed yet (this also reminds me to make a card for it on the work kanban). Nothing leaves the inbox until it is completely finished. This works for both my personal and work tasks, in large part because I already check my email frequently. Sometimes I will email myself with a task in the subject line so I don’t forget to do it.
I use two To-Do lists, one is an app and one is good old fashioned paper. I know exactly where these are, so it works reasonably well.
I do still struggle actually writing things down on them though.
smartwatch has proved helpful for me. a quick way to set timers and reminders and todo lists and calendar events and voice memos and such
Is this really an ADHD thing? I’m pretty sure the human brain ignoring repeated stimuli is a universal thing.
Most ADHD symptoms are things neurotypicals also deal with from time to time, only much worse and much more frequently.
This is one of those symptoms.
Got any source for that?
So you don’t have a source. Got it. You just wanted karma.
My sources are doctors, therapists, psychiatrists, and countless medical research papers is my point.
Weirdly enough, the people diagnosing, treating, and researching ADHD for a living know more about it than some random edgelord calling themselves “modern medicine isn’t” does 🙄
So link some research papers if they are so countless. I am more than willing to change my mind given evidence. Otherwise… you are just another karma whore making a meme and claiming to have all this data that you can’t be bothered to share. We should all just believe you. Why don’t you claim to be a doctor next. Or better yet, say you are a researcher on this very subject. And you are soo busy, you just can’t find the time to post a source. Though somehow, you had the time to post a meme.
The thing that differentiates between regular neurotypical people and those with ADHD is the last D, Disorder.
Everyone has little quirks and whatnot, different ways of seeing the world and thinking, but when it starts affecting everyday life is when it becomes a Disorder.
Another day, another person coming in to a neurodiverse community saying, “But that’s just human.”
Caution: there’s only one rule in this community and some might say your comment is breaking it.
Gatekeep much.
The phrase “visual exhaustion” has to do with eyestrain. This meme or whatever is completly made up.
The sysmptom described is an energy saving mechanism of the human brain. I have seen no evidence that is any more pronounced in people with adhd.
I grow weary of everyone blaming everything in their life on adhd. We have special challenges, but when people blame a challenge that everyone has on adhd, it causes people without adhd to think adhd is a farce. You are helping that along by trying to gatekeep someone who is basically asking for a fact check.
Had the same thought. If it is, does that mean post-it notes on the monitor actually works for people?
They do not. I have worked half a decade as coach/manager in customer support where certain things had to be said during calls.
Post-it on the screen will be effective until the next lunch break, then it disappears into the void for me and the 100+ people I worked with over the years experienced the same. I always recommended a reminder to pop up, having to click to get rid of it made it effective for an extra couple of days.
It definitely is, but it’s got way worse consequences for ADHD people, because we cannot remind ourselves to pay attention as easily. Well spotted, though.
Except I DO subconsciously process the clutter, so when I need a thing my brain goes “oh yeah it’s here!” Meanwhile since my wife started “organizing” things, I have no idea where anything is because I haven’t seen it in weeks. It’s gone. It doesn’t exist.
Me when I don’t eat any fruits because they are in the refrigerator
I’m used to ignoring the background noise in my brain. I am unbothered by the clutter because it’s just background noise in my living space.
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What?
yes, disabilities makes things harder.
Not saying this isn’t a lived experience, but anyone have a link to “visual exhaustion” in research? This sounds like a medical/scientific term but I cant find any references to back that up.
Right there with you, diagnosed about 25 years ago and I’ve never heard of “visual exhaustion” even though I understood it from lived experience before I finished reading the comment.
Ok so I’ve never been diagnosed ADHD, but I’ve also never heard a description of living with ADHD that didn’t describe my lived experience to a T. Maybe next time I have healthcare I’ll get around to getting it checked out. I never got around to getting checked last time I had coverage… or the time before that.
Fuck, suppose I have ADHD (and autism too btw)
Try to get a diagnosis. If you have it. Even if you don’t get medication, it helps to know for sure. Don’t screw around with this, go get a diagnosis.
Holy shit, so targeted. But why ? I immediately see a link with pattern learning and recognition Seeing something frequently absorbs it into the fabric of my mental world…?
This is way too personal for me.
Ah yes, Chekov’s post-it notes
Real life Mecca Chameleon with notes to self
how does this work in a Autism + ADHD case if at all?
I’m severe ADHD and my wife is AuDHD. I don’t know the how but it is true for us both. Lol
Same situation in my household. Plenty of areas where we differ in how our adhd looks because of her autism and my lack of it, but notes do nothing for either of us except build clutter.
One trick I’ve found though is to make the thing you need to do a problem. So much easier to fold the laundry when the basket is in your way
Quite true. Making things problems is definitely a good method.
Also, similarly, even if it’s not a problem per se - I remember things I need to take with me because they’re on my desk right behind my keyboard.
Of course, I almost and do occasionally forget the most basic things. Wheelchair user, I wear gloves and sometimes I forget. I also hate not wearing a hat, and sometimes I forget. heh. It sucks when it’s the KEYS I forget though.
I get that. You’d think I wouldn’t forget hearing aids nearly as much as I do. Fortunately I usually remember them upon stepping out the door
I think we’re in the right community here. hehehe
