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Cake day: December 13th, 2023
  • Bloom
    toWomensStuff@piefed.blahaj.zone•My wife doesn't like most of the meals I make and I don't know what to do anymore
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    11 days ago

    Oki first of all, it must be so difficult to put so much love and care into, not only finding recipes that work but also cooking them. Only for them to be disliked. Even if you love cooking it. I imagine it also sinks in some sense of fear(?) if the next meal would be good enough. That must be tiresome 💔 The fact that you’re making such an effort by itself is amazing ⭐ Aside from that, you also made a huge concession by switching from being vegetarian(!!)

    I know it feels like you failed, but please allow me to share a different perspective

    It sounds like she has different dietary habits. That’s okay. What’s not okay is if it affects your health. Vegetables, in my opinion, are just less tasty than anything else. But I also know it’s necessary for my body to function well. If you are not raised that way it might feel different or it might carry a connotation.

    On the topic of love languages, you are cooking meals and researching recipes. That’s also showing love 💖

    Oh and, my stepdad also hates vegetables. I believe he takes supplements to make up for the lack of nutrients. My mum often keeps the veggies apart so she can eat them and he can too if he wants. It is highly likely nothing personal to you or you cooking skills.

    I hope you can find a way that puts less pressure on you 🩷

  • Bloom
    toTransfem•Need to loose weight. Worried it will affect breast development.English
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    10 months ago

    Okay first off, you’re not being insane by having these questions… those are some totally valid questions. this would stress me out as well. It’s totally okay to feel conflicted about this. Is this something you could check with your doctor or HRT supplier? Preferably this is something you want to get from a qualified health professional.

    If I were to guess— it should be fine if you follow a healthy diet. Your body needs energy to grow and maintain itself. It will use it to create new cells, from blood cells, skin, hair, nails to breasts. Reducing calorie intake will make your body work to convert fats into glucose, as a source of energy, in order to keep your body going. So those fats will be used as a source of energy for your body. So by that logic it should be fine? It would be problematic if you don’t have the fats to begin with or if you reduce intake too much and your body cannot keep up at the rate of burning fats. So dropping calorie intake entirely would likely have impact. You need a healthy balance.

    Now unfortunately, burning fats is a slow process and this is high school biology at best so take it with a grain of salt. Best to check with a qualified professional. Or if you don’t have the luxury, ask around like you are already doing and find a person previously in a similar scenario. If you do have the luxury please ask.

    Hope this helps 🩷

    Edit: I also found these links:

  • Bloom
    toSocialanxiety•How do you usually overcome your social anxiety in everyday situations?
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    1 year ago

    To add to this: Start small if it’s too daunting and go from there.

    Sometimes steps you want to take are a bit too ambitious. First try smaller steps to make the big step not so big anymore.

    Go and ask your crush out? HUGE STEP. Just talk to them and make small talk, maybe also a bit too big? Send them a cute message on socials or leave a note? Be creative.

    What also helps for me is to voice my anxiety. To my friends or to the one you’re experiencing it with. “Okay so I am super nervous” already relieves me from a ton of pressure. It changes the dynamics and creates room for compassion. Let them help you.