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Cake day: July 9th, 2023

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  • Hey, I’m really sorry you’re having such a shit time :(

    I wasn’t willing or able to compromise on the way I was treated just to appease the family. It took cutting my family off until the message landed – that there’s no relationship with me if they can’t get behind my identity. Around the 6 month mark I gave them a chance again and started to feel a change in the atmosphere. Years later and we’re finally OK now. (Not great, but OK, and more than teen me could ever have imagined.) I hope you can get to this place someday.






  • Oh yeah, this is super relatable.

    I have a very complicated relationship with my heritage. (I come from a Middle Eastern country.)

    As a teen I would stay up at night wishing I was white (because my white friends’ parents were OK with me being queer. They showed me a kind of love my life was so sorely lacking in.)

    Whenever I’d come home I’d have to put the proverbial mask back on, but no matter what, I couldn’t work my way out of being a disappointment to the family. I felt like a prisoner in my own house and I knew other people had it different.

    My mother also used to throw my medication (antidepressants) away because “chemicals bad” and it’ll “ruin [my] brain”, essentially. And so I’d deal with withdrawal too.

    I was victimised by a combination of difficult life circumstances, and (really, mostly) a rigid, conservative, and intolerant culture.

    As an adult now, my feelings about this are not so black and white; I am proud of where I’m from. But I do feel for younger me. And I’m still damaged from my childhood. Always will be.


  • Honestly, she might have the same thing I do. I don’t know if it’s got a name or anything, but absolutely all red wine tastes like balsamic vinegar to me, almost indistinguishably so, even when I’m sharing it with someone who’s talking about how this one is “fruity” or whatever.

    I went through a short phase of thinking I was being pranked. So I’m with your sister on this one, minus the sangria bit lol.



  • Obligatory “not American” warning, but I think the problem is more complex than just making the government a customer. Countries with public healthcare generally don’t refer to private providers because the cost is orders of magnitude higher than a state run operation. (With few exceptions; my country paid for me to go to a private hospital once because I needed a specialist for something uncommon, and there weren’t enough in public hospitals / I was overspill.)

    You don’t just have hospitals, you have an entire economy of insurance, administration, and severely inflated pricing to account for all the useless jobs and bloat. If none of that goes away, then I don’t see why the government would be incentivised to use them, rather than just set up state hospitals.

    Also, unrelated but I just re-read the title; does Dr Oz still have any credibility whatsoever?






  • Not at all. On the contrary, I found them quite liberating, for 2 main reasons:

    • not having to decide what to wear every day
    • I was in a British private school, where students came from upper middle class to upper class backgrounds. A lot of the really rich students were shallow, superficial, and cruel. If we didn’t have uniforms we would have had a serious bullying problem against those who couldn’t afford to wear high end/designer brands.

    The only downside is that we had to pay for the uniforms, and they were quite expensive compared to the awful materials they were made of. I had 3 sets on rotation.