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Transfem•"You cant expect us to get used to this [new Name/pronouns] for those few times you visit"English
7·6 days agoHey, I’m really sorry you’re having such a shit time :(
I wasn’t willing or able to compromise on the way I was treated just to appease the family. It took cutting my family off until the message landed – that there’s no relationship with me if they can’t get behind my identity. Around the 6 month mark I gave them a chance again and started to feel a change in the atmosphere. Years later and we’re finally OK now. (Not great, but OK, and more than teen me could ever have imagined.) I hope you can get to this place someday.
Sadly, a lot of email address fields know this trick and won’t let you use an alias like that.
Few things entertain me as much as people using “woke” in a derogatory way.
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AntiTrumpAlliance@lemmy.world•There's "Reality" and then there's whatever the hell this isEnglish
17·23 days agoHow on earth are you only paying £20-£40 a month for food?! My weekly shop costs more than £20, and I live alone…
BorgertoWeb Design@lemmy.ml•Ideas for building a slideshow of gifs with defined transition intervals on website? (html, js)
4·1 month agoMy suggestion would be a UI library that has a ‘carousel’ component. Those usually advance when the user clicks, but the component will either have a setting/property that you can set for it to auto-advance, or you can advance it yourself in JS/TS.
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Showerthoughts@lemmy.world•Emotional abuse of immigrant children by their immigrant parents probably contributes a lot to to why the kids hate their ancestral language(s).
29·1 month agoOh yeah, this is super relatable.
I have a very complicated relationship with my heritage. (I come from a Middle Eastern country.)
As a teen I would stay up at night wishing I was white (because my white friends’ parents were OK with me being queer. They showed me a kind of love my life was so sorely lacking in.)
Whenever I’d come home I’d have to put the proverbial mask back on, but no matter what, I couldn’t work my way out of being a disappointment to the family. I felt like a prisoner in my own house and I knew other people had it different.
My mother also used to throw my medication (antidepressants) away because “chemicals bad” and it’ll “ruin [my] brain”, essentially. And so I’d deal with withdrawal too.
I was victimised by a combination of difficult life circumstances, and (really, mostly) a rigid, conservative, and intolerant culture.
As an adult now, my feelings about this are not so black and white; I am proud of where I’m from. But I do feel for younger me. And I’m still damaged from my childhood. Always will be.
Honestly, she might have the same thing I do. I don’t know if it’s got a name or anything, but absolutely all red wine tastes like balsamic vinegar to me, almost indistinguishably so, even when I’m sharing it with someone who’s talking about how this one is “fruity” or whatever.
I went through a short phase of thinking I was being pranked. So I’m with your sister on this one, minus the sangria bit lol.
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politics @lemmy.world•As Dr. Oz Helps Prove 'There Is No Republican Health Care Plan,' Democrats Have Solution Most Refuse to Embrace: Medicare for All | Common Dreams
1·1 month agoI really don’t disagree about the government’s currently delusional priorities. None of those things are better, or even good uses of taxpayers’ money. I suppose it would be an expedient way to make use of already existing healthcare facilities and staffing, at least in the interim before they can start gradually streamlining.
My comment was influenced by my mentality as someone who does live in a(n actual) welfare state, but I’m sorry I was so ignorant about it!
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politics @lemmy.world•As Dr. Oz Helps Prove 'There Is No Republican Health Care Plan,' Democrats Have Solution Most Refuse to Embrace: Medicare for All | Common Dreams
9·1 month agoObligatory “not American” warning, but I think the problem is more complex than just making the government a customer. Countries with public healthcare generally don’t refer to private providers because the cost is orders of magnitude higher than a state run operation. (With few exceptions; my country paid for me to go to a private hospital once because I needed a specialist for something uncommon, and there weren’t enough in public hospitals / I was overspill.)
You don’t just have hospitals, you have an entire economy of insurance, administration, and severely inflated pricing to account for all the useless jobs and bloat. If none of that goes away, then I don’t see why the government would be incentivised to use them, rather than just set up state hospitals.
Also, unrelated but I just re-read the title; does Dr Oz still have any credibility whatsoever?
I do it by hand because I rent a small 1 bedroom flat. Those don’t typically have dishwashers here.
My last place had one though, and what an absolute godsend. I’ll definitely get one when/if I ever buy my own place.
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Linux@lemmy.ml•Pop!_OS 24.04 LTS & COSMIC Desktop Aim For December Stable Release
1·2 months agoFinally! I’ve been on Cosmic for months. Waiting for search results to be relevant again, rather than assume I use Gnome.
It breaks my heart that apparently most of the British public have never had good black pudding.
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No Stupid Questions@lemmy.world•Why are Michelin Stars so highly revered when they originated from a tyre company?
5·2 months agoTasting History with Max Miller has a video on exactly this topic! Highly recommend it.
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Ask Lemmy@lemmy.world•Do you think school uniforms are a form of authoritarianism?
29·2 months agoNot at all. On the contrary, I found them quite liberating, for 2 main reasons:
- not having to decide what to wear every day
- I was in a British private school, where students came from upper middle class to upper class backgrounds. A lot of the really rich students were shallow, superficial, and cruel. If we didn’t have uniforms we would have had a serious bullying problem against those who couldn’t afford to wear high end/designer brands.
The only downside is that we had to pay for the uniforms, and they were quite expensive compared to the awful materials they were made of. I had 3 sets on rotation.
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BoycottUnitedStates@europe.pub•Trump Commands War Department to Test Nuclear Weapons
18·2 months agoGod, I rapidly lose brain cells whenever I read a post of his. Reads like a Daily Mail headline.
I was referring to the streak of several photos OP was posting in quick succession to the same community, not that specific one.







Six London councils? Not a chance.
I do unfortunately still think Reform will win the next GE, but London won’t be the reason why.