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Cake day: July 19th, 2023

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  • We do read what you write, you’re just wrong. Or maybe lacking compassion. Or just don’t understand that everyone is different and that education systems generally suck.

    When I was a kid, I had two classmates who had accommodations due to their learning disabilities. Nobody thought, hey, they should “be moved to the institutions that will force them to study”, because they didn’t not want to study. They just needed help. Did the rest of us feel threatened or jealous of them? No. We either didn’t care or were happy they got at least a bit of help in this cookie-cutter system.

    On the flip side, I was surrounded by straight A students in HS, but 99% of them forgot the material once they were graded on it and ultimately retained the same level of knowledge (sometimes less!) than me who was a B/B- student. And then people like that go on to be shitty doctors, because all they do is learn by heart with little to no understanding of the material, and the educational system rewards that.

    The more I read your comment, the more insane it sounds.





  • Same why I’m still on Reddit. I’m definitely not getting people who struggle with the same illness that causes fatigue and brain fog to spend more energy they don’t have on switching to another platform that doesn’t even come up when you type it into a search engine to seek support from other people affected by the illness. It’s easy to say “don’t use this, don’t use that”, if all they use these platforms for is for memes and messenger.

    I had to create an account and use Facebook in my support job days, because that’s where everyone was posting shift exchange requests. An entire department won’t just switch to Signal for this just because the new person refuses to use anything not FOSS.

    Same witht cars. I prefer not to use my car, and I’m happy that in my day-to-day life I can just walk, cycle or use public transit. But if I’m visiting my parents in the countryside of another country, I’m sure not spending—checks notes—9 hours on train with multiple connections instead of just under 2 by driving the car.

    Do what you can to avoid using all these, but don’t go to the extremes where you’re not getting the info you need or getting to places you need to be. Should the the message.





  • I was groomed by a guy in his 40s when I was 16 to 18. He was also suspected to have sexually abused younger kids. I’ve been in a relationship with my current partner who’s my age for over a decade now. The abuser knew very well how to take advantage of vulnerable girls. And yes. That trauma will stay with me. I still have nightmares. For the first year with my partner I would frequently wake up from these nightmares and be so relieved to be next to my partner to comfort me. I found out very recently that the asshole is still out and about, but got cancer, so there’s some karma there.

    I’m sure that if I had better friends and wasn’t so lonely and had a better situation at home I wouldn’t have fallen for this. These abuser really know how to pick their victims.









  • Illiad was in our curriculum, too. But I think the worst I gave a shot to were the few works from my country’s literature several centuries old that literally over half had to be translated to the modern language for us to understand. It was exhausting to read.

    Lol, thanks for reminding me of something with the Achilles bit. We have state exams at the end of 12 year education that are also a requirement for college admittance. There are (were?) two levels of difficulty. I took the higher one. But the lower one had an especially egregious question. It was so controversial, it ended in newspapers, was debated among teachers and politicians alike. The question was which color a certain character’s ring was from a book we had as required reading at some point in school. Something, as you can imagine, absolutely irrelevant to test in the final state exams (which test knowledge of the four high school years on multiple subjects).

    School systems nowadays suck so much for so many reasons.


  • We had that basically from the first grade of primary school. Each month a new book. It started with just summarizing the text, then gradually went from writing what you think the moral of the story is, to giving a full breakdown and analysis. 12 years of that, for the books I found mind-numbingly boring, that I ended up weaseling/cheatig my way through most of it without even reading. I remember giving my best to try read through the entire Crime and Punishment, but giving up 1/3 into the book. All the classic literature—just not for my brain.

    Didn’t help that while my primary school teacher had tried to cultivate my creative writing (45 minute, graded assignment), my secondary school teacher was a snob who graded me lower just because she “didn’t like my style”. God, I hated school, lol.

    I still like reading modern fantasy and some other genres, so there’s that, but school almost completely turned me off from reading.