I was a big fan, Jax’s story and their very non-traditional trans story pulled it together for me.

There is no “algorithm” in the common use of the word - there is no machine learning black box running what you see, if you can read source code you can see exactly what it’s doing: see the listing types, and how those types are used and sorted. Either you’ve subscribed to a furry community (I’m assuming not if you’re complaining about it), or you’re on all and seeing the content because other users are upvoting it.

The site is filled with furry porn because the internet is filled with porn and this site is filled with furries.

It’s an honour for my community to even be mentioned.

Yeah turning off nsfw filters and searching “furry” or “yiff” is probably the best bet to find anything.

In my career, I’ve had the most luck finding jobs through networking. If you have the ability to (and I will fully acknowledge not everyone has the ability), networking can help you get your foot in the door.

Aside from that, yeah, spam your resume.

I am very happy with this outcome as well. This should be the final ruling on this case unless it is accepted by the high court (highest court of Australia, like supreme court), which is unlikely. That said, we aren’t in the clear yet - all the major conservative parties and even the “left wing” state Labor government in NSW have pledged to amend the federal or local equivalent act to add back “biological” definitions of gender.

Absolutely not, some of the smartest people I’ve ever met have zero emotional intelligence. You can be incredibly accomplished academically and still be totally unable to work productively with others. A lot of these people lean towards aspie/AuDHD supremacy as well funnily enough - they think everyone else is just far too irrational to agree with their horrendously undeveloped philosophies.

I think the world would have less conflict if the average “emotional intelligence” went up 50%

Gaol is just the old way of spelling jail, the US also used to use the same spelling. It’s pretty rare I see the spelling in modern use today, even if we kept it longer than most (until the 60s officially). Americans shouldn’t throw stones in glass houses though, considering their large number of strange and unique spellings of common words compared to the rest of the English speaking world. A little part of me dies inside every time my spellcheck incorrectly changes “colour” to be spelt as “color”. Likewise, I’d like to point out that the term thong referred to footwear well before G-strings were invented.

I’m not actually convinced most Americans even know what true Aussie accents sound like. Most imitations are poor attempts at the Broad accent caricatured in American movies, even though most people speak with the General accent. My friends who speak with Cultivated are even assumed to be British.

In my opinion, it’s not about trying to prove you’re a genius, the key is that confidence and passion is infectious - people want to be around interesting people who are interested in them. Being skilled and well-read, as well as having hobbies lets you engage competently in deep conversation and have interesting qualities you can connect over or other people can grab on to.

I took estrogen and everything worked itself out from there~

Seriously though, there were a few factors. It was a combinations of building up my confidence (that’s how estrogen helped, turns out when you stop hating your body and life, you get more confident) and actively constructing situations that allowed me to connect and build relationships with people. I started a book club as a not so subtle way to get people in a room and talking to me, I reached out to people to have them round for dinner, I put a lot of effort into being thoughtful and kind. Developing a variety of hobbies and interests means I have plenty to talk about and lots to fill my time when I’m not doing that - a creative hobby is especially great for that.

I’ve done it because work is ✨desparate✨ and required I try it to learn it for some reason. I’m at a senior level. Generally I instructed it on the exact architecture and patterns I wanted, along with the broad classes and algorithms required. That meant it was left to do the individual procedure implementation that I might have instructed a junior developer to do while I managed more macro level concerns. It did surprisingly well, but this was on a greenfield project, so It would probably become excessively slow and error prone on a sufficiently large project.

I feel like I’ve met/seen all three of these women. Yeah, the proportions are just right

Boss described the company’s situation as “not dire”

Ukraine had guarantees before they were invaded

Most people don’t have the skills to improve UX themselves and it shouldn’t be a requirement of any software aiming for mass adoption. Frankly if you have users familiar with the product space reaching for a manual you’ve failed at UI design. It is entirely possible to design a new UX that people can still pick up and use largely without assistance

I’m finally at a place in my life where I like how I look and I enjoy the expression that an outfit + makeup affords me. Plus I get compliments from other queers! I generally dress pretty alt so I have a lot of options regarding shades of lipstick and looks for my eyes.

I don’t do this every day but if I’m going further than walking distance from my house and I’ve got the energy (which is pretty often) I will.

Have you considered that the reason the community isn’t curious about your opinion is because they’ve heard it dozens of times before? Or maybe your opinion is just rude, or maybe you’re posting it in a space that was never for you in the first place?

The entire internet is not and should not be an endless space for you to engage with the MArKetPLAcE OF idEaS. There are plenty of dedicated spaces for that in which every party has already consented to that kind of discussion.

I was an ally™️ before I transitioned so already fairly invested and educated on the trans community, I spent a lot of my time advocating for us. So I knew that what I felt was gender euphoria when one day I saw a boys vs girls meme and imagined myself as a woman in a way I guess I never had before. It was pretty wild because I knew enough about the trans community to pretty accurately appreciate how much the trajectory of my life had changed in that moment.

It made a lot of things line up as well. One time I told an old therapist that the discomfort I had with my body felt a lot like what trans people described as gender dysphoria but “I didn’t want to appropriate their experiences” 🤦‍♀️. I don’t know how I didn’t put two and two together there, but my therapist must have been asleep at the wheel jfc. I also remembered being a kid and reading Calvin and Hobbes and thinking I’d set their transmogrifier to girl and be a girl and getting a fuzzy feeling from that. Few other things too.

• Transition immediately
• Tell my partner to transition immediately and not put it off
• Don’t date the ex that traumatized me
• Seek therapy sooner

Not much else tbh.

You’ll definitely want to study DevOps and SysAdmin if you’re looking for general knowledge. O’Reilly textbooks are a good place to start.

If you’re website is entirely static, you can actually host it for free with Github Pages. For deploying a .NET (or really any dynamic) app you probably want to look into how to package it into a Dockerfile. That makes it platform agnostic and bundles every dependency into an easy to deploy image. After that you probably want to look into setting up Heroku to put your app on the internet. You’ll also want to maybe register a domain and configure DNS if you want a proper domain name, but that’s comparatively simple.

If you’re going the AWS route, you’ll want App Runner or EC2 for the app itself, RDS for database, and maybe even API Gateway to sit in front of your service and route requests/terminate authentication. You could even configure everything with code using an Infrastructure-as-Code tool like Terraform.

If you can’t tell from the number of links, the barrier of entry to AWS is much higher but it’s worth getting your head around depending on where you want to go. Maybe leave it until you’re a bit more comfortable with building an deploying apps though, I’m mainly mentioning AWS to give you an idea of what you might want to head towards, you should probably stick with Heroku for now.

Deploying and administering a website/service covers multiple fields separate to programming - you’re going to want to primarily look into DevOps, SysAdmin, and infrastructure. Like programming, there are a lot of areas to specialise in as well that depend on what stack you need.

Considering your inexperience in the field, a Platform-as-a-Service product like Heroku might be a good place to start. If you need something more serious with more configuration, an Infrastructure-as-a-Service product like AWS may be better (plus they have many hosted Software-as-a-Service products for things like authentication). If you want to roll your own servers you’ll want to look into Docker, which makes it simple to deploy isolated versions of your project (+ any databases) on any machine.

All these products are well documented with guides aimed at beginners - the trick is knowing where to look ;) If you give me some specifics about your project I can probably point you at some basic guides for AWS.

I should also give you the warning that all of these options carry some security risks if you’re careless - they can be all configured wrong or exploited through vulnerabilities in your code, which can result in a large bill or (if you’re running on your own infrastructure at home) put your personal data at risk.