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Cake day: June 28th, 2023

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  • I’m so sorry you’re going through this.

    First off, yes, take the pill immediately. The side effects are no worse than having a period and they are not compounding. It’s not ideal to use it as your first line of defense and therefore very often, but you don’t need to worry about taking it a third time (or fourth or fifth time).

    Second, get yourself a hard “no sex with a new person while drunk”policy. If you find you can’t stick to that when already drunk, then yes drinking less is necessary. You can’t really properly consent when you’re not sober.

    If you’re having sex that you don’t feel good about having, it might be wise to step away from the social situation that has been leading to that happening. Do you have or can you find a social group that does things that don’t involve drinking with strangers? Maybe a hobby or hiking group?

    If you are drinking too much in situations where not everyone is drinking, it might be a touch of social anxiety that you are trying to self medicate away. Cognitive behavioral therapy is the best proven method for managing this. It’s not like regular talk therapy, it’s very goal oriented with practical steps to take every day and not much (if any) talking about everything bad that’s ever happened. If you can’t afford to see a therapist there are excellent self guided resources and workbooks available.

    I don’t know you or your situation, only what you stated above. I’m sure there is a lot more going on than you’d care to share with anonymous strangers. But looking into both why you are drinking and what is leading to regrettable sex will be your best bet.

    Go get that pill, lady.