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Cake day: July 9th, 2023

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  • Obviously I can’t make an accurate inference since I don’t know you or your family, but I’d hope that over the years your brother has matured, or at least through a real relationship that he would mature. Not the girls job to do it of course, but maybe meaningfully connecting with someone would be enough for him to gain some self reflection to better himself? A hope than certainty of course.

    I’m Chinese-Canadian so to some extent, I have some kind of insight. Definitely haven’t been the best to my own brother and have suffered my own abuses from my parents. But I think self reflection and my own growth in my 20s, both from living on my own while in uni and living on my own, as well as having been in a long term relationship during that time, I was able to improve. Not perfect and still a product of my past, but hoping your brother is able to be better if he does have kids and a family. Not inflict generational trauma. Or at least, I hope things work out for you.


  • Tired has always been my answer but especially as of late. Feels like I’ve been in a fog for the last month. Not a chronic disease as far as I’m aware but just tired of trying. When I can’t get as far as I’d want to be. Like I’m hitting a wall.

    I mean, I know at one point or another I’ll probably find a way around it, or through it. And I know others have it way worse than I do right now. But feels like I’m losing the drive to try. I’ve had enough rest, I just want out now.






  • I’m not entirely confident in my answer but I think my initial issue with Disco Elysium when I first tried to play it was because I expected the typical high action and quick cause-and-effect outcomes I’m used to in most RPGs. At least IMO, most RPG choices in games usually end up with a relatively clear outcome, whereas DE felt more gradual. Similarly, DE is more detective than action, which might sometimes benefit from gradual clues all coming together.

    Not to say anyone is wrong for not liking this approach, it does take a bit of commitment to engage with it. But I think being willing to engage with it on its level might make the initial hump more bearable. I’ve honestly come to enjoy the slower approach of DE, but refreshing compared to everything else.


  • At the very least, it’s not a live feeding. I personally couldn’t do that myself, even though it’s a natural process and normal enrichment for many animals.

    I personally can’t criticize too harshly on the zoo though. At the end of the day, zoos aren’t generally money makers (to the best of my knowledge) and their animals need to be cared for. If anything, I’m more judgmental of owners who may willingly donate healthy pets (perhaps those with unhealthy or close to death pets are more understandable).

    I do wonder if this some kind of publicity stunt. It has to be cheaper and easier just to get cash donations for livestock right? Less costs for euthanasia and you can buy in bulk. I’m sure they wouldn’t say no to free food for their animals but it feels like a weird angle to draw attention to the zoo. Maybe some of this nuance is lost in translation between Dutch and English news media.


  • I like playing as Yosuke too, but it’s hard to keep playing as him as it’s an Assassins creed game so much of the open world relies on being agile and climbing, which he can do somewhat but not enough that I don’t need to switch to Naoe (really fun doing a leap of faith with him though, I expected they’d just spawn me on the ground). It is nice being a one man army and all but really, his only use value is when I want to have an easy fight and the handful of quests/activities that necessitate him. His character doesn’t feel like an afterthought but he doesn’t feel like his play style is fully utilized.

    Generally, I’m still happy with having the two different characters for different gameplay, but I just wished I had more reason to play as both instead of sticking to one and switching when it’s necessary.






  • Finally started graduate school and seems pretty okay so far. Haven’t been able to connect much to my cohort, but a bit closer with my actual area. I’m not too down about that given I’m trying to treat this as a job than as school, and have always been shy and anxious (though not so much anymore). It’ll just be something that comes naturally over time I hope as my nerves settle down a bit and Im able to meet more people in the department and in my classes.

    Trying to learn Python then leapfrog from that to do more advanced analyses with AI. Good and bad, good as it seems to give me a bit of an edge on my cohort (not to validate my worth on my status to others) but bad as I didn’t really expect to be doing this so early and no one has any real resources to learn. So it’s up to myself to figure it out.




  • So bit of a stretch recommendation but I can never turn down a chance to recommend this author.

    If you like the general idea of an author exploring what-if premise of people living (like how the Fallout vaults are given specific scenarios to live in), you might like Ted Chiang’s short stories. For example, “Hell is the Absence of God” explores what life might be like if angels (heaven and hell) were real but come into societies like tornadoes or hurricanes due to their supernatural power (think tornado chasers). There’s world building in it to realistically support the premise of the story (e.g. support groups for those affected) and is generally really thoughtful.

    Again, very much a stretch to Fallout vaults, but really deserving of a read if you are more interested into exploring the realism in a world built around certain premises.


  • Honestly, I do wish more people used Lemmy, especially for more posts and engagement for certain communities. But also, I like the smaller user base on Lemmy. I only lurked on my old reddit account because it was too populated to have real discussion. Here I feel more comfortable commenting or posting because it feels like there’s a chance my comment will be seen. Also, I just don’t care all that much about being on social media anymore. Feels better to have more healthy activities.

    If Lemmy ever picks up, great I guess. If not, oh well. As long as I don’t have to use that godforsaken reddit app, I’m fine.


  • I think aquariums tips, outdoor movies night, etc. sound like fun ideas. But one thing to keep in mind is how much of an “event” a hangout might be, and whether that might turn some people off.

    It’s like the difference between planning for a beach trip with friends versus just taking a spontaneous dip in the pool with your friends on a hot day: one feels more effortful than the other. And the beach trip, or planned events, might be the more fun choice. But after a long week, etc. a lot of people just want to do something social but more chill and effortless. Just being able to enjoy the moment with their friends. Which might be part of the reason why bars are really attractive for that kind of thing. You just go out, grab a drink, chill with your buds, and go home to relax. No real structure, more just down time.

    Again, not dismissing those ideas. Definitely good in moderation. But just chatting with a friend over lunch/dinner, at a cafe. Hang out at the park at the end of the day. Things of that nature and effort should also be important. Even if it feels small, it can be the nicest part of friendships.


  • Yeah I’ve been applying for some operations and analyst roles, though not as much as the healthcare/science/nonprofit stuff, but I definitely should try anyways. I guess I am a little discouraged not having a background in finance or anything, but I’ve worked retail and warehousing/factory work before so I could try to find positions closer to those industries (not that I’m begging to go back).

    And funny that you mention it, but iam taking Google’s PM Coursera too and utilizing the tools in my current research work, for experience and to improve project processes. I hate the corpo style of PM classes (at least Google’s presentation of it) but I do enjoy managing projects. Demonstrating this kind of Initiative and experience hasn’t given me much of an edge though. Just sheer bad luck on my end I guess