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Cake day: June 20th, 2023

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  • I studied German philology for far too long because of sunken cost phalacy, while I had a monotone student job localizing e-learning presentations until I got laid off. Then I took part in a programming bootcamp and have been a Frontend Web developer for the last 4 years.

    Recently, I’m feeling a little unsatisfied because I’m very much a jack of all trades, master of none kinda person, and to get further in my field I would have to have a really deep understanding of how things works under the hood, and those abstract things are very hard for me to grasp. Even harder since I had covid two years ago with ensuing brain fog for more than half a year, which still makes it harder to learn new things and keep them in my memory, which is quite sad because I always learned pretty fast…

    Now that I have been part of this hamster wheel of corporate bullshit for quite some time I feel that I want to do more creative stuff with programming, as I was always interested in art and making music (which sadly also has declined because of perfectionism and anxiety), and creating visual stuff brings me into the zone where the hours fly by, but adapting some configs or working with abstract data stuff does not.

    Should my job get taken by AI I want to do something with my hands, like wood or metal working, or something where I can help people, but let’s see.

    On the other hand I should be glad that I have a stable job that pays well and the people there are really nice, but I feel something is missing in my life. I tried to buy happiness and materialism, but somehow I was happier when I had less
















  • All the better, mate! Don’t do them off you don’t want! Maybe in Europe I’m safe® from the fentanyl mess.

    and it’s really understated how much a good night of sleep can do for your mental wellbeing!

    Anyways, wishing you all the best in the many upcoming greatness and craziness life will throw at you! :)


  • Just my two cents:

    Why can’t those rave friends be more than that? You said yourself those are great people. I don’t know if you do drugs on these raves, but those helped me to connect to other people and talk without shame about my feelings (although I’m not recommending it to anyone), but also without drugs, a rave settings could be used to talk to these people and tell them that you like them and you’d like to spend more time with them outside the rave context.

    You mentioned those are artsy people. Go to the cinema with them or a concert or the museum. I bet there is a technical museum in your city. Maybe even a venue where tech meets art. I don’t know if you are into music making, but a cool intersection of art and tech is electronic music production, especially with analog gear. It’s also a creative, cathartic outlet for your emotions, and although it can be a solitary hobby, it can also get you to connect to people and maybe even jam with them in person in the future.

    Apart from that, try to find stuff that interests you or maybe probe for new hobbies. Maybe pottering, wood working, sports, etc.

    I’m also currently in this predicament of doom scrolling after work and just trying to buy happiness, but every time I overcome my laziness I reap the benefits almost immediately after or while doing the activity.

    All in all, you, me and a lot of people are in the same boat.

    All the best!