It’s interesting you mention they’re encouraged to translate your paraverbal communication style; I didn’t realize that but it makes sense. I’ve often been intimidated by situations necessitating a translator, as a therapist, because of uncertainty in how humor would translate- so to speak- for clients with other family norms/cultures. But that moment of gold at the end made me laugh out loud! That’s wonderful! 😆

Chivalry, hardness (of features), simplicity

To add to what others have said, boundary-setting is a skill we develop over many social interactions. It may feel awkward or mean setting a boundary initially, but it’s essential to maintain one’s “social battery” and priorities/sanity.

Speaking of priorities, those are a good indication as to when setting boundaries is helpful. For example, you have an important appointment to get to, but a family member/friend is asking your help with something at around the same time. Communicating you have a prior engagement at the time of your appointment while being willing to help out after, or giving them suggestion on how else they can get the help they need, is you setting a boundary of what you can do with your time.

When we have concerns of feeling like an asshole, we want to consider from where that originates. Sometimes we’ve been raised around family members or “friends” who take advantage of another’s kindness and treat people maintaining boundaries as the villain (e.g. “Why are you leaving us hanging?/ Why couldn’t you help me/your Old Man out this one time?”). This is often a sign of emotional immaturity/ poor insight, empathy, and/or self-awareness. Healthy connections will respect your boundaries and maybe check in later if a raincheck is suggested. When interacting with people who don’t respect “no” as a full sentence and answer, sometimes reminding them of our limits and empathizing with the person’s situation can disarm them.

Well, that took a turn. Sorry to hear that! I love how picking/making a new together is becoming slightly more common that in earlier decades.

Right?! Who is cutting onions, damnit. Another example of looking for the helpers, per Mr. Rogers.

Tell me about it. The discipline it takes to not consume something the general public has been consuming as the norm is a struggle sometimes, but tasting the flavors I otherwise wouldn’t notice from something not deathly sweetened is a plus. As well as better teeth. My parents also restricted sweet drinks to family trips and parties growing up, and I don’t think I can thank them enough.

Yep, racists are going to be racist.

Back when I was using reddit, I found Uplifting News to be a helpful source of positive information. Some of it can be reminders of our boring dystopia, like students helping another by starting a laundry program at the school, but it’s something. Here is the lemmy version.

I feel like religion/conservatism plays a role in this mindset. There’s a lot of pride in self-sacrifice and at least appearing “strong” in the face of adversity even if it’s regarding your health. Not that I agree with it at all. I’m all for unlimited such days and self-care.

I saw it as an eyesore in contrast to the dark background. Plus, it just looked strange/random. No significant reason.

Bamboo sticks or a small trellis sounds smart. I’ll keep in mind to give it a taste of the outdoors before permanently moving it out there if I do. Much appreciated!

Thanks for the feedback. The last time I repotted it was sometime early last year, and I don’t know how frequent I should be doing that. Once the plant becomes twice as tall as the pot or taller?

I didn’t think about pruning being helpful for strengthening roots, so I’ll give that a shot.

So far the plant gets plenty of light. The window is north facing so it’s more indirect light, but plenty of light gets through as far as I can tell. I tried moving it, but maybe I’m doing that wrong. Do I keep it in the moved position for several days, a couple weeks, or until I notice the branches aren’t leaning as much and then move it again?

To explain in case you are serious, IMO I think they’re meaning you can obviously articulate the point to which you came from where you originated class-wise, and explain in detail at that.

But the “sucker” aspect is to point out how, even if we can find a way, the “game” itself seems to lead many to devolve into an existential thought-process of ‘what is the point,’ when it’s much harder now-a-days to get to ANY point of success like a couple of previous generations were able to (those in their 50s+). If a person still believes that “winning” at the game is still important, then they already lost. Or they’re just a bit bitter and using a mocking tone… hard to interpret tone in text.

Regardless of the source’s background, the information she mentioned actually reflects current knowledge of how infants and older children develop. In order to develop emotion regulation skills, healthy attachment, and social skills, we do naturally look away from our caregiver and others doting on us as a way to self-regulate intense feelings.

In fact, many children can develop attachment and emotion regulation issues if caregivers aren’t responsive and share compassion or empathize with a child’s behavior (e.g. a baby becoming upset and crying if- when looking away- the caregiver instead tries to get its attention repeatedly and not giving the child a break.) That’s why it’s important to have some level of emotional intelligence to develop healthy attachments with kids and them with us.

For more information, you can look up attachment theory and theories on human development (Erikson, Piaget, etc.). This is also mentioned here.

Source: Therapist

I know you’re joking, but for those who don’t understand sarcasm it’s more akin to a rebirth name when changing it after religious epiphanies or extreme cases of cuttingoff communication from one’s origin family/tribe.

You aren’t doing it right if you end up paying $200 during a sale. But you do you, boo. Granted, I know I end up collecting these games like pogs, so I can’t say much.

Your last line about hiding reminds me of a peaceful species, the Nox, from Stargate SG-1, who had many abilities one of which was to become invisible and shield their community from detection. But funnily enough, they were so powerful and advanced they may has well have been treated like gods by anyone else.

I don’t know about OP, but when I put rope on my cat-tree’s soft-fabric column I just wound it around the column (cylinder, don’t know if it would work as well on a squarer support) as tightly as I could and safety pinned the bottom end to the 2nd to last row. The tight coil encourages friction and prevents slippage when he scratches it. The rope hasn’t moved, aside from when I rotate it for a fresher side, since I placed it over 2 years ago.

I haven’t minded the extra bulk from cases used, but I also don’t use Otterbox or their alternate equivalents or have a high end phone. I’ve had a case for every smart phone since I’m a clutz sometimes and nervous about breaking it. To each their own 🤷 . But regarding the original topic, I’d feel weird without a physical wallet after so many years of using one.

Here is just one of the many videos I could find describing the difference between physical and chemical sunscreens. In short, both, to an extent the physical kind included, absorb and transform it into heat. Consumers can get chemical kinds that don’t leave a white cast, offer varying levels of protection, dry fairly quickly, and are easy to apply under makeup if that’s a concern. I know because I’ve used a couple brands with these things in mind and have loved them for years.