I feel like we often do 🤔 Celebrities publicize their newborns and children. Those children are then pushed into it/take up whatever their parents became famous for and might also find fame… Which is kind of unfortunate in some ways due to how exploitative the entertainment industry is to children.
I feel like I watch a good amount that I’d think might be super kid friendly. It’s been a little bit since I’ve watched some of them, so I’d recommend double checking their age ratings. Here’s some ones that are bubbling into my head that now:
This might be a question you’ll need to sit and ask yourself 🩷 I’m similar to her - I don’t enjoy people cursing, being vulgur, or being loud around me. It makes me incredibly uncomfortable. A few years ago I opened up to my friends about my feelings - they chose to understand and respect my feelings and those behaviors stopped around me. We all care for each other and accommodating the things we’re sensitive to is one of the ways that we show our love to each other.
At different times I’ve thanked them for making those adjustments around me and most of them were thankful I felt comfortable enough to express myself. One of two also mentioned that they learned a bit more about themselves and reflected on why they behaved in certain ways. They shared that cursing, being apathetic, and dark humor were behaviors they picked up when they were growing up to fit in, but they didn’t actually align with the people they wanted to be.
I feel like as long as you’re both comfortable communicating you can most likely work through this; maybe reflect on why you act a certain way - what reactions are you attempting to pull from people, and then try to find ways to get those reactions from her in a way that connects with her 🩷
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Body moisturizer - La Roche-Posay Lipikar Urea 10% (this will make your skin suuuper soft)
I was using prescription Tretinoin and Azelaic acid in place of my different exfoliator serums for awhile, but I didn’t like how angry my skin was getting everytime I had to pause for different things like laser hair removal or microneedling. I’ll eventually go back to them once I finish my laser and microneedling sessions!
Ironically so relate 🤭 Worked at my previous job for like 10+ years, transitioned and went through maybe a month of clunkiness at work before they downsized our team and I no longer had a job. Kind of was a blessing outside of the income anxiety 😵💫
I do very much prefer to do things with a friend or two, but that’s been the case for the entirety of my life. I do plenty of things on my own though- shopping, cafes, going out to eat, etc!
Feelings-wise, I’ve definitely come a long way. The first year of transitioning was a mental slog, but every step outside of my comfort zone made the following steps feel a little easier - first time wearing pink, wearing a skirt/dress, working on my voice and speech patterns, adjustments to my gait, etc. Every change felt super natural, but the fear of society weighed on me. At some point most of the anxiety melted away.
I am very much aware of people’s eyes on me, and I don’t quite mind if I ‘pass’ because it’s pretty irrelevant to me. I would get super anxious anytime someone came up to me, but in two years of transitioning I’ve only been verbally slighted twice (once by a bratty child and the second by an old woman in a checkout line)… and on the other side, it’s rare for me to not get at least one compliment while I’m out. People have been incredibly kind, affirming, engaged, and supportive. I focus on every positive interaction and let those encourage me to keep being me!
I would definitely give yourself grace 🩷 transitioning or not, I believe there’s a lot of people who feel awkward doing things on their own.
I don’t wear makeup, but I do have morning and evening skincare rituals which I never skip; I take so much pride in how nice my skin is now and don’t really feel the need or desire to explore makeup.
Fashion-wise, I do not ever leave the house without putting full effort into my outfit, accessories, and hair. I tend to look over dressed for a lot of things like store runs or briefly heading out to treat myself to coffee or lunch.
As far as the internal experience… I no longer have intense anxiety about how I’m perceived by others when I’m out. A big part of my transition, aesthetically, is representing the energy and feelings I want to see more in the world. I only wear floral maxi skirts that flow when I walk and cute tops/blouses. I dress myself in clothing that I find comforting, elegant, soft, and safe. When I look in the mirror, I tend to feel those feelings! I’ve gotten so much better about giving myself grace for the things I can’t change about myself right now. Yes, I can tunnel on this or that, but I can also celebrate the aspects of myself that I do super like and put effort into those! My clothing, accessories, and purses are where I channel my feelings!
I’ve gained sooo much perspective in sooo many areas of life, but I feel like one thing that has stood out is how inspiring we can be to the people around us and in our lives. I don’t believe it’s necessarily a transition thing as much as it is an authenticity thing.
Friends I’ve made during/after transitioning, along with friends I had prior, have all opened up to me about how much I’ve influenced their confidence to express and present themselves more openly and honestly. It was something I found super interesting because it’s their precense in my life that gives me the feelings of safety and comfort to be me. I have very much noticed that all of them have been leaning into their unique styles and have been shining so bright. Some have opened up about how they’ve noticed a change in how they interact with people throughout the day- less code switching and greeting and interacting with people with more warmth and less reservation and distance.
It has not been limited to friends either. I’ve had people I’ve never interacted with, or had limited interactions with, approach me to share how just seeing me on different occasions has inspired them in different ways. I feel like so many people want to shine but are afraid to do so, and I think sometimes our precense can be very inspiring 🩷
I can so understand that! I find it extra hard when trying to visualize how certain styles will look with my particular face too. I’ve brought inspiration to mine and she’ll take the time to explain how my features might not flow the same way while suggesting alternatives.
I think trying one or two more times, including the details you’ve shared here, is a good idea 🩷 other than that, Pinterest and IG are great places for inspiration. It might help you find images of styles that have aspects of what you’re looking for and see if they can bring them together (this length, with that shape, and this silhouette, etc)
If you have a good relationship and trust with your stylist, I honestly recommend just trying to talk with them and doing your best to explain what you’re looking for. They tend to have a better understanding of face shapes, framing, and styling.
I know my salon, one I’ve been going to for over a decade, has different stylists that specialize in different cuts and looks. They often consult each other and brainstorm with clients that might want something new or unconventional.
For anyone looking for a stylist, I recommend finding places that advertise themselves as safe spaces. You’ll have such a gentle and affirming experience, and they’ll often be extra patient and understanding of your anxiety and goals!
This is such a good suggestion! Sometimes a name might resonate with you on paper, but then speaking it or having someone hear it can be a different experience. I absolutely adore the name I chose; however, I never gave much thought about how certain phonetics can get tangled up when a name is a bit more unique 🤭 So many letters make similar sounds. D’s sound like B’s sound like P’s sound like V’s…
I will so be passing that idea on to others in my community 🩷
If you haven’t already, I would suggest looking into FODMAP. It’s not necessarily a diet, but more focuses on different molecules/carbohydrates that our bodies may be sensitive to that are in a lot of the foods we eat. It took me a few months of super focusing on what I ate and how I felt after to identify that I was sensitive to very common foods/ingredients (e.g. garlic, onions). If you eat something and feel gross, bloated, cramping, etc, you’re probably sensitive to something in that food. Fortunately, you can work around some of them by cooking/preparing an ingredient to breakdown wherever you’re sensitive too!
I was slightly critical of this post and tone, buuuut after checking all the recent posts…it is quite excessive.
I think the general post about the new instance is perfect, and maybe including a link to a nsfw specific ‘new communities’ sub that’s part of the new instance.
You might try changing the sort or filter to new or hot. Mine was defaulted to active I think, and no posts loaded until I adjusted sorting.
My favorite this season is most definitely You and I Are Polar Opposites. Omggg every episode is just soooo cute, and the characters are so adorable.
I’m also enjoying the 3rd season of Oshi No Ko (not surprised by this one as the series is in my top 3). Tune In to the Midnight Heart has definitely grown on me too! I started Champignon Witch and expected to like it more, but I kind of zoned out during the second episode. I’m going to try picking it back up this week!
I’ve been seeing some great discussions around Journal with Witch and will probably start that up before the season finishes!
I feel like the last few years have been amazingly consistent. Sooo many good ones getting new seasons, some great originals, and many thoughtful and beautiful adaptations. Sooo happy to see it!
Yess! Started buying those late last year and will definitely not be going back to any of the others! Sooo yummy and crunchy!
This is actually something I’ve learned more recently, especially with women, is pretty common. Reaching orgasm during sex often requires a lot of focus on feelings (physical, mental/emotional) and being present - ADHD brains can struggle staying present which then leads to less orgasm frequency during sex. I personally have had issues with this and have had partners with similar experiences - the best way I was able to help them was to be very vocal and engaging to keep them with me in the moment (talking in their ear, asking questions, etc) . One of my friends recently noticed that she’s enjoying intimacy far more now that’s she’s being treated for her ADHD.
Yesss!!! So happy for you girl!! I tend to find being honest with your feelings is the healthiest for you and others 🩷 I hope you have many cute and fun dates!
I’m of course not familiar with your communication dynamics with your friends, but your message feels like you are gently saying you’re not interested. Saying you kinda like spending time with someone doesn’t feel like your heart is into a ‘more than friends’ relationship. Also, saying you’re spending time with someone because you don’t want them to be abandoned is very different than honestly sharing that spending time with them makes you feel happy and you very much enjoy their company.
One of my best friends works for a language program at one of our large colleges/universities… The money and funding situations our educational institutions are under right now is abysmal. They’ve almost lost their job multiple times the last two years due to lack of money for programs like theirs. Each time they were briefly saved by their program being absorbed into another department or shuffling them around… And it’s pretty much happened again - unless there’s any big changes, their program is going to be cut and the few remaining people are going to be unemployed. The thing that has been most frustrating is the giant disconnect between leadership and what these various programs actually do. Old information is being handed around as current, people who aren’t even part of these programs are the ones representing them, and everyone at every level seems incredibly disorganized… All that said, your past may have nothing to do with your removal.
I’m sorry you weren’t provided any closure as to why you were let go :( and I’m even more sorry you’re now in a situation with so much financial burden. I would try not making assumptions… creating narratives that you can’t verify will cause you to spiral 🩷