Ada

Admin of lemmy.blahaj.zone

I can also be found on the microblog fediverse at @ada@blahaj.zone or on matrix at @ada:chat.blahaj.zone

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Cake day: January 2nd, 2023

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  • AdaAtoAsklemmy@lemmy.mlWhy NFC on phones?
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    35 minutes ago

    The difference is, phone companies and card providers between them can more easily lock down and restrict who has access to NFC compatible apps. There are no rogue payment apps popping up to challenge the status quo.

    So they see more use in richer countries


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    4 hours ago

    Expressing transphobia is not welcome on lemmy. You only have to look at the amount of upvotes “subtle” transphobia and “just asking questions” transphobia still gets to realise that there are still lots of transphobes around that have just learned to keep it close to their chest. They still express it through votes though




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    2 days ago

    lbz doesn’t do downvotes, which means communities hosted on lbz don’t do downvotes, and any downvotes received are ignored, without federating them out.




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    3 days ago

    This is the third time now I’ve removed one of your comments for this kind of gatekeeping of other peoples identity. You’re no longer welcome in blahaj zone communities





  • What’s interesting about this, is you post it as if it’s a question, and despite getting an almost universal “Fuck no” as the answer to the question, you’re just arguing that we should do it.

    If you want to do it, do it. But stop looking for validation for it. You’re asking for approval to celebrate and recognise someone who actively targets and harms trans people. You’re not going to get that approval. So either take that as the answer, or stop pretending it was ever a question.



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    8 days ago

    It’s a little different for me. I transitioned 9 years ago, and I largely resolved my struggles with dysphoria.

    What still gets me a little though is the life I didn’t get to live at a younger age.

    And if my transition happened “when it was meant to”, that means that life was never mine even in an ideal world.

    So I frame my own journey as having transitioned when I could rather than when I should. I didn’t get all of the opportunities I wish I could have, but I’m absolutely grabbing the opportunities I can now!



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    9 days ago

    For me, saying that I transitioned “when I was meant to” just doesn’t land right, because I know it’s not when I was meant to. Making me wait all that time wasn’t the right thing, it wasn’t what was “meant” to be.

    From my perspective, in an ideal world, “yesterday” was the time to transition. But the world isn’t ideal, and it made that impossible, so “today” is what I was able to achieve despite the world trying to get in the way! (though “today” was 9 years ago for me)



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    9 days ago

    I don’t love this meme.

    I prefer some variation of “The best time to do it was yesterday, the second best time to do it is today”

    Which is to say, I don’t perceive that my late in life transition happened when it “meant” to. It happened when it could. And I’m so glad it happened at all! But if transphobia hadn’t have gripped the world so hard, it also wouldn’t have been as late as it was.



  • If transphobia wasn’t rampant, that would be ideal. But transphobia is rampant, and it just means each and every sport defaults to exclusion. That’s how it worked before this IOC ruling. That’s how it worked at the last Olympics, in which zero trans women were able to compete.

    Idealised scenarios that assume fairness and good will don’t work. They just lead to exclusion, and worse, they make it impossible to gather more data.

    And the reason for that is that everyone thinks like you. Which is to say, everyone thinks “Biology matters”, but for some reason, is never working to challenge that assumption by acknowledging that trans folks biology changes with the introduction of hormone replacement. It’s also a space with a lot of bad faith and actively misleading research, because of the aforementioned transphobia.

    Excluding trans people from sport is an openly acknowledged “first step” of a where they’re using to normalise exclusion of trans folk in wider society. These are the folk generating much of this research, research that normally would be laughed out of the room, but when it’s about trans people and aligns with the “common sense” belief that trans folks have an advantage in sports, somehow the research gets taken seriously.

    That’s the environment we live in. And that’s the environment that tried your approach, as a stepping stone to the outright exclusion we have now.