probably should go up against the wall in the corner (feet facing the viewer, head facing the AC unit)

I added plenty of things not in the recipe, but 2 bay leaves are explicitly listed in the recipe:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b4BU8kmWwtc

every man just wants to be one of the girls, right? (right!?)

hey, just so you know blahaj.zone is not a tankie instance, it’s an instance aimed at protecting oppressed minorities (it hosts a women-only community, protects LGBT+ users from bigotry, etc.).

I think technically the instance doesn’t take sides in terms of political ideology and is thus not a “political instance”, but the top community on blahaj.zone is vehemently anti-tankie, so I would say they’re the opposite of the people you’re worried about

You can read more about blahaj.zone’s intentions as a space here:

https://lemmyverse.link/lem.lemmy.blahaj.zone/post/14736607

First and foremost, blahaj zone lemmy exists to give a space for queer folk to exist, with their needs explicitly protected as the highest priority, and with a particular focus on the needs of gender diverse folk. Most lemmy instances are not run by trans folk, and whilst many are still inclusive, they don’t always prioritise our needs. Others barely consider trans folk, and react only to the most blatant of bigotry.

We are not a political instance, however political communities have a space here, as does any community that is actively protective of the needs of queer and gender diverse folk. Given the impact of politics on gender diverse folk, that means lots of dialogue and strong opinions exist, and as long as those opinions are honestly held, and not bigoted or exclusive, people are welcome to have and express those opinions here.

For what it’s worth, I am a member of the Greens Party in Australia. I have no time for the middle ground politics of the Australian Labor party, let alone the right wing beliefs of the Australian Liberal party. Yet a community of queer Labor Party aligned folk would fit on blahaj lemmy, because the parties ideologies, are not explicitly anti queer. A community aligned with the Australian Liberal party likely would not have a place here, unless the goal of the community was to work at actively challenging the anti queer policies of the party.

basically you’ll only have issues with blahaj.zone if you’re transphobic, homophobic, etc.

it’s when the combination of age and testosterone kills the twink’s young boyish looks, and the twink then looks too much like a man to be a twink anymore

seems like the current trend is consolidation - it will be more expensive and less accessible to own your own computer or run your own servers, programs will continue to bloat and require more expensive hardware (see LLMs for example), and this will all lead to greater consolidation under fewer and fewer entities

You’re right, and I think the minority of allies is much smaller than the minority of problem men, too. To be honest I don’t know a lot of male allies (and one of the biggest ones I know IRL is a trans man).

I have little hope for future generations without a path forward for education and impacting positive change in society - and as far as I can tell at least the US is significantly sliding backwards on those fronts. It would be nice to think the future will be more progressive, but I have concerns and doubts.

oh, that makes sense - sorry for misreading you, I was confused and thought !womensstuff@piefed.blahaj.zone was being viewed as a FLINTA space.

Thanks for teaching me about FLINTA as a term and concept, too - that’s helpful to know!

huh, somehow I missed that we left Afghanistan because of Trump:

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/2020–2021_U.S._troop_withdrawal_from_Afghanistan

Because the troop withdrawal happened under Biden, I thought it was Biden that withdrew from Afghanistan.

It’s so ironic then that Biden was so criticized for the consequences of Trump’s agreements with the Taliban 💀

yeah, I was going to say - patriarchy ironically is the biggest source of misandry - it perpetuates norms about men being predators, blames them as a category for the crimes of a minority, and distributes power unevenly among men participating in the oppression of men through class and race differences, etc.

just to be clear, !womensstuff@piefed.blahaj.zone is a women-only community that allows trans, non-binary, agender, etc. folks decide whether they feel they belong in a women’s group

(as opposed to a “women + others” group)

I don’t think it’s unreasonable to feel anxious about this turning into a toxic space where generalizations and othering are common, because tbh I think that’s usually how it goes. Victims often generalize, I think it’s part of the fear and survival response to constantly be looking for similar patterns and anticipate threats - so to some extent I even think this is hardwired.

Not that every bad interaction with a man results in PTSD-like symptoms or anything, but some of those bad interactions do turn out that way. I’ve been inappropriately touched by a man and once I was in a safe place my body started to shake uncontrollably, and I assume based on that, that I had some kind of trauma response from my experience. I just assume this experience is going to make it harder for me to trust men, esp. men who remind me of the person who victimized me.

I definitely think as a culture we have to find a path to both validate women’s experiences, but also not let that turn into dehumanizing rhetoric based on inappropriate generalization. It’s admittedly hard to do both.

I don’t think so, this is more like a venting / frustration post over bad experiences with men, and a statement of relief and gratitude for safe spaces.

You don’t have to twist that into strict “othering”, even if that’s often how that goes in practice.

I would prefer we hold both as true - that we don’t invalidate women’s experiences with men, but that we also recognize that those bad experiences are not absolute or guaranteed with every man. I see no reason we can’t be mature and recognize the compatibility for both truths here.

pretty accurate

+1 for growing hair out, I think that would help ✅

The bowl cut look in particular leans boyish to me.

In general yes, though most of your photos are from the same angle which makes it hard to actually tell.

The last photo is clocky imo (probably from the way the shadows lay on your face?) - but still androgynous boy at worst (more ambiguous than obviously male, if that makes sense).

The other photos lean more fem for me - if I try to see a boy I can sorta make my brain do that, but what I see by default is a girl (maybe partially because the t-shirt primes me to see that, but your skin is also soft, there’s no beard shadow, etc.).

(Take this all with a grain of salt, not everyone will be able to see you like I can - I also have the brainworms. Just like for you, gender dysphoria warps my perception of myself and others.)

yay, you fixed the comic!

it’s just human farming tbh

bye, Felicia!

personally the texture and nutrition are major reasons to substitute pork with something like TVP.

I really hate the way TVP tastes generally, it has this chalky off taste that I don’t know how to get rid of. So this time, determined to eliminate that weird taste, I rinsed the TVP thoroughly in hot water, then boiled it in a separate pot with black pepper, no-steak better-than-bouillon, vegan Worcestershire sauce, etc. and then drained it again before putting it with the onions to fry it up a little bit.

The TVP dramatically increases the protein per serving, it would have been probably 10 g or less in a bowl / serving without the TVP, and then it wouldn’t have seemed like chili at all - just a thin bean soup. I try to aim to have around 20 g protein per 500 kcal meal, and it’s even more important when vegan to pay attention to the protein content.

The reason I want protein is mostly for energy and satisfaction reasons - I’m less hungry when I eat more protein, and I notice I have more energy, which is important for supporting healthy habits like exercise (besides generally making life easier, as fatigue makes getting your tasks and work done more of a drag).

Also, adding the TVP didn’t feel like too much of a hassle tbh - it was certainly easier to prep than cooking dry beans for hours, and having to do that prep a whole day in advance.