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Cake day: October 25th, 2024

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  • There are somethings to worry about here, but the biggest red flag is the motivation. Buying someone you barely know a gift “so they can match” screams manipulation and control.

    Buying a brand new friend a new phone because theirs broke? Cool I guess. Buying a new friend a new phone so they can look like you? That sets off alarm bells in my head and I’d have a serious talk with your kid about boundaries and power and control dybamics.















  • I’m an old man and have had that problem my entire life. I recently found out about pathological demand avoidance (PDA) and it describes me perfectly. Since then I’ve been able to recognize when I’m avoiding a demand and sometimes work around the avoidance to do what I need to do. Maybe PDA is something you’re experiencing and can find ways to work around it.

    PDA description

    Sorry I don’t have better advice. I know the shitty feeling of not doing the things you need to do, so I wish you luck getting it sorted out.