Melmi

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Cake day: June 11th, 2023

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  • Melmito196validation rule
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    16 days ago

    “Daddy issues” isn’t a kink term, and entirely refers to having a poor relationship with one’s father. I think you mayhe misread their comment as claiming it was a kink term?

    The whole disagreement is that they think its lightly misogynistic to say that the only reason to engage in CG/l, or diluted versions of it like calling your partner daddy during sex, is because you had a bad relation with your father. In other words, using the term “daddy issues” at all was the issue, and you doubled down in this comment.


  • I know a fair number of conservatives who are fiercely capitalist and are very concerned about tax policy/abortion/gun rights, but are ostensibly pro-trans, pro-queer, nonracist, often pro-immigrant etc (incidentally, the ICE stuff seems to be a wakeup call for a lot of these people). They often vote for people who actively harm those very same minorities, but they personally have no issue with those minorities. I guess they just consider their personal wedge issue more important than minorities’ lives.

    Idk if that counts as “nice” by your metric, but they can be very nice on a personal level, it’s just when it comes to voting that they have very skewed priorities, in part due to the way we’ve all been propagandized to. Talking to this sort of conservative can be very frustrating because often they’ll have so much empathy one moment and then the next they’ll just fall back on some tired conservative cliché.



  • Unarmed strikes with kicks and elbows and such aren’t just flavor, it’s written in the rules that you can use any part of your body.

    Instead of using a weapon to make a melee attack, you can use a punch, kick, head-butt, or similar forceful blow. In game terms, this is an Unarmed Strike—a melee attack that involves you using your body to damage, grapple, or shove a target within 5 feet of you.

    The mechanics don’t state you need a free hand anywhere.








  • I definitely feel the lab burnout, but I feel like Docker is kind of the solution for me… I know how docker works, its pretty much set and forget, and ideally its totally reproducible. Docker Compose files are pretty much self-documenting.

    Random GUI apps end up being waaaay harder to maintain because I have to remember “how do I get to the settings? How did I have this configured? What port was this even on? How do I back up these settings?” Rather than a couple text config files in a git repo. It’s also much easier to revert to a working version if I try to update a docker container and fail or get tired of trying to fix it.



  • MelmitoAskTransgenderDo these terms bother you?
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    3 months ago

    The other layer of all this is that AGAB and “biological sex” aren’t necessarily the same thing. There’s a wide spectrum of people who were legally assigned one binary sex or another at birth that doesn’t actually describe their sex, let alone their gender.

    Centering AGAB as much as we do erases intersex people in addition to being bioessentialist and reductive.




  • I think I just don’t understand how monosexuality works when it intersects with trans/GNC/enby folks. Do you wait until you know someone’s gender until you are attracted to them? Are certain pronouns a turnoff? Some femboys are suuuuuper fem, and some trans women present more masc. And I know some lesbians use he/him pronouns.

    It seems like the sharp lines between genders just completely collapse into a fuzzy cloud when you get too queer with it.

    Maybe I’m just too bisexual and nonbinary to get it.


  • I occasionally use middle mouse paste, but I switched my partner over from Windows recently and they were used to scrolling by holding MMB and dragging which seems to be the default on Windows…

    I expected there to be a toggle to turn off middle mouse paste but there just wasn’t. I had to go into multiple different places to disable it and enable autoscroll for all their apps. I ended up installing a hacky tool that would just clear the clipboard whenever MMB was pressed.

    If anything can make this process easier, I’m all for it.