Ich war so beeindruckt, dass man in dem Alter noch Joggen geht.

Schade.

Wtf they should be writing this stuff into the sky and spamming the net with ads for it.

My sincerest thank you for the post. Maybe Me-Time for women in the future won’t mean “I finally got time to do the Kegels” …

It is to a certain degree. You don’t bring your love for milk shakes to your “business attire only” office job. You may love Hentai, but you’re not telling the person next to you during an opera visit. These are aspects of you that don’t match the occasion, so you skip that. Most people do this naturally, they don’t spend much thought on it.

Then there’s “masking” as used by neurodivergent people. That’s an entirely different matter. More info an that is over at neurodivergentinsights.

You’re not dangerous, so no you’d not be locked up. What you need is decent boundaries, not a response.

You’re entirely separate from your mom. It’s unlikely that there’s a chip, so the question is how you can enforce that separation in a sustainable (for you) way. A simple “I don’t agree” would probably help you feel less submissive without giving her grounds for more debate.

Guilt is a part of depression, it’s built right into how you stay passive and sad. But you’re not guilty, you’re just struggling and that is - ask anyone except maybe your mom - really just part of the human condition. 90% of western adults have a depressive episode at least once in their life (stats by a therapist I used to go to), so you’re in good company.

In addition ask yourself this: If you had kids, would you think they owed you in return for your support? As a parent it’s something I feel you opt into when you decide to make babies. You don’t just pop them out and then make demands for the years you had to change diapers or drive them to school.

What your mom thinks or not ultimately hasn’t more or less value than your own thoughts and opinions. Let it go and focus on you and how you can limit your exposure to her opinions.

Hey friend, this has your email, name and picture in the images. You wanna set this to private.

Best of luck in your search!

Ich glaube es lohnt sich durchaus, den Artikel bis zum Ende zu lesen. Es erscheint hier ein wenig, als sei das vielleicht nicht passiert.

It looks to me like they’re trying to make the best out of a bad situation. There’s more tariff now on EU goods, but it may keep the US involved in Ukraine while the concessions made on the EU side aren’t massive in the grand scheme of things.

At the same time this deal says to everyone who’s looking “We try, despite our differences”, which makes it rather difficult to paint the EU as the bad guy if he reconsiders.

At the end of the day what the EU wants to be internationally is a reliable partner. That’s what trust is built on.

• Ladekabel
• Verhütung (Gerade bei Pille/Ring/…)
• Allergietabletten, Medikamente
• Sonnenschutz (Creme, Brille)
• Zweitschuhe, gerne komprimierbar (faltbare oder rollbare Schuhe falls die Turnschuhe doch mal nicht passen)
• Reise-Yogamatte (Echt gut, sich abends nochmal strecken zu können)
• Sport-/Schwimmsachen falls sowas vor Ort verfügbar (Business Hotels haben auch gerne mal Pool und/oder Gym)
• Creme/Lotion
• Zahnbürste/Zahnpasta

Unterwäsche und Kleidung vergesse ich quasi nie.

No, we do actually appreciate when people speak good German, we just know it’s an absolute pain and want to be nice.

I get teary eyed, but I rarely cry. “The penguin of my life” was my last big challenge, so mean. Great movie though.

And yes, at some point you really want Red to have his little piece of heaven.

I think I am more open for this since I’m older (40s), when I was young I would’ve never let myself be that open.

Ich bin freiwillig in der GKV, weil ich gesehen habe, wie Leute sich verrenken, um vor dem Ruhestand noch schnell wieder in die GK zu wechseln. Das kann aus meiner Sicht nicht sein und ist das, was unser System überfordert. Eine Versicherung für alle, vielleicht mit optionalem Zusatz (Chefarzt, Einzelzimmer, Zahnzusatz, Brillen, … ) wäre insgesamt funktionaler und günstiger, ohne dabei diese irre 2-Klassen-Medizin zu erzeugen, wie sie aktuell besteht (Hautarzttermine, super Sache in der GKV).

Eine Angleichung der Beitragsbemessungsgrenze ist ein Schritt, wenn auch nur ein kleiner.

I think I’d like myself as another person, but am still properly critical of myself as me.

Absolutely is. Had a colleague who also looks like a sad puppy when just looking normal/serious.

Hmm vielleicht bin das nur ich, aber da ich immer auch mindestens einen Freund hatte, der gern mal Röcke trug, war das für mich nie ein Thema. Wenn du dir das Teil über den Arm hängst, muss es schon ziemlich girly Farben haben, damit es als Frauending auffällt.

Aber jetzt mal ganz doof: Scheiß drauf, du stehst da mit den Klamotten, die dir gefallen! Meine Mutter musste noch um ihre Jeans kämpfen und ich erinnere mich an Jobs, die ohne Heels als Frau nicht gingen. Du bist mit deinem Rock Teil der allerbesten Tradition!

This is beautiful. Thank you.

Quit school (college level, but where I am it’s just another part of school) when I could (I had the right age to make it my business), without ever discussing the matter. Just came home and said I quit school.

Edit: Oh damn you wanted a reason. School was hell for me, I hated everything about it. I had spent about 6 months exclusively doing the classes I was interested in and nobody even took notice. I figured they weren’t gonna kick me out at that point, so I quit.

It vastly depends on everything else.

You can be a dude with a normal life, who just makes conclusions faster and you’ve learned that everyone likes how smart you are and you enjoy this.

You can be a restless mess, because you’ve known all your life that there’s nothing to compete with and it’s difficult enough to find someone to even have a somewhat decent conversation on your level with. These people come with or without the arrogance you’re thinking of right now. Some are just genuinely kind and thoughtful, but always a step ahead without even really appreciating their ability much.

You can be an absolute underachiever, because being smart was never rewarded in your life. Maybe you even learned that “You’re not special” so much so, that you punished others for not being able to draw the same conclusions as you in the same time, because you always thought they were just being lazy on purpose.

You can be entirely unaware and may say funny things like “I don’t think we’re all that many really smart people in $techplacewithclearlysmartpeople. I talked to most of them and I don’t struggle at all”.

Source: High IQ myself, working with other people who increasingly talk to me openly about this and their overall situation. So much of who we become is about what our parents do to us and if there’s understanding and love and support on that end.

Obviously there’s the whole spectrum thing as well. I don’t think a higher IQ means “more autism”, as someone suggested. I think it increases your chances of struggling with a regular (neurotypical) kind of life, for example because you are supposed to be interested in 1 subject (to make a career), but - similar to people with ADHD - may care for all the subjects.
If you think about what is neurotypical though, you can classify people with a particularly high IQ or people with particularly high sensitivity as neurodiverse in just the same way you do that for people with Autism or ADHD. Now if you think about humanity as a whole, we may all to some degree be diverging from the norm in any or all of these ways, but still be more or less free of struggle, because it’s not by much, while for the more extreme cases, they stand out for better or worse.

Ja, das ist immer doof. Je jünger man ist, desto schwieriger ist das für beide Partner und daher kommt auch diese Idee, dass man sowas vielleicht besser lässt.

Aber man kann’s auch trotzdem machen und danke einfach glücklich sein. Einfach ist hier sehr relativ, weil Lebenserfahrung auch Erfahrung im Streiten ist und es manchmal (und ich spreche aus Erfahrung) echt schwer ist, jemanden seine eigenen Fehler machen zu lassen.

Ohne jede Menge gegenseitigen Respekt, viel Geduld und vor allen Dingen die Fähigkeit los zu lassen, wird das schwierig. Und mit 20 machst du halt Fehler und sagst blöde Dinge, die mit 33 sofort auffallen. “Das wächst sich aus” ist nicht gerade die ideale Basis für Beziehungen.

Ich schreibe das nicht, um dir da reinzureden, sondern weil ich inzwischen an einem Punkt bin, wo es bei uns klappt mit etwa 10 Jahren dazwischen. Viel Glück!

Immerhin noch Haufen, kein Fluss. Das hätte auch anders laufen können …

Nur für den Fall, dass es irgendwann doch einfach furchtbar ist:

Work-Life-Balance gibt’s auch mit wunderbaren links-grünen Kollegen. Das ist keine entweder/oder-Situation.

Bis dahin: Viel Erfolg und offene Ohren!