So I’m lying in bed and thought I’d ask Ada what she thought about it.

@ada@lemmy.blahaj.zone said that “I think the rise in popularity of the Ada language on Ada Lovelace day is ADAmn fine thing”

I also find a lot of cis males that find out I’m in a poly relationship, by their reactions think poly is like having a “real” partner and then a bit on the side that’s somehow sanctioned by your real partner. “Allowed cheating”.

But that’s not it at all, at least my little polycule. It’s instead like how a family exists. Everybody chips in and instead of having 2 people, each having to prop up half the relationship, it’s 3 people and you each prop up a third of the relationship. It’s not harder, it’s easier. It’s not more complex, it’s simpler. More people, more love, more support. We’re all friends, if I’m busy for whatever reason, the other partners can help out each other.

I find strictly monogamous partners are often jealously guarded that adding an extra person into the relationship will result in them losing something tangible as if love and attention are material and finite things… Kind of in the same way that an only child in a family worries that a new child will somehow result in their parent’s loving them less, when often it actually means that there’s MORE love to go around.

Anyhow, hopefully that little explanation helps answer a bit of your confusion.

I found that the Caddy handler above blocked many third party clients and even Tesseract.

So instead I’m using this CEL expression to return a 444 error on match of the unscoped old-sorted 50 per-page comments past page 99:

@block_comment_spam expression <<CEL
    {http.request.uri.path} == "/api/v3/comment/list" &&
    {http.request.uri.query.limit} == "50" &&
    {http.request.uri.query.sort} == "Old" &&
    int({http.request.uri.query.page}) > 99 &&
    {http.request.uri.query.post_id} == ""
CEL

handle @block_comment_spam {
    respond 444
}

I’ll check it out. See what this alpha API thing is all about.

Guide also updated now, too.

That one is old, maybe Ada forgot to update.

blahaj-20250508 is the new goodness.

@ada@lemmy.blahaj.zone does a fantastic job of moderating, and it constantly amazes me that she manages to keep her cool (and calms me down when I get riled up too!).

Thanks for being the moderator to my sysadmin, babe. I couldn’t do it without you.

Ada, by far, has the most moderation experience and level head of the both of us.

If I was moderating this place it’d be a barren wasteland with salted and scorched earth as far as the eyes can see and a list of rules as long as your arm which keeps getting longer every time you look as I try to keep up with the rules lawyers.

When we first setup Blåhaj Zone with Ada, we discussed exactly this scenario and Ada said that you’ll never create a set of rules that are comprehensive enough to defeat those that are intent on being horrible human beings and trying to make a safe space for queer and gender diverse people unsafe. And instead of keeping the space safe you’ll spend all your time and effort refining and defending the intricacies of the rules.

Instead of doing that, we want a safe space, so the guiding principle is don’t make it unsafe.

Obviously some people need more clarification on what safety means to us, but really if you need more than what we have provided to “get it”, then you are the kind of person who would make it unsafe just by being present.

Most decent human beings can grok “be kind and respect each other” as a set square.

There’s only two (really one) admins

Ooof, that’s a bit unfair don’t you think?

While it is true that I do the majority of the work keeping our servers running behind the scenes for you all, it’s still a bit rough to say Ada doesn’t pull her own weight! 😊

Poor li’l blighter got attacked by a bin chick’n and was limping away last we saw em… after goin’ the bin juice drinkin’ irrit of course.

Apparently I was wrong, it’s decided it’s done and working again now.

The pict-rs upgrade is ongoing.

From what I can tell it’ll be about another 5 hours. I’m going to have to go to bed and check on it in the morning.

Unfortunately the stock-standard lemmy-ui doesn’t like it that pict-rs is migrating to a new version of database and not serving images, so it’s stubbornly just not working at all.

So this was at the very start of the s02e10 episode - “Pegasus”.

Not that I am aware of, and not that it’s not possible, but the protocols are quite different, the Lemmy API, the Misskey API (with various dialects for Sharkey, Iceshrimp and Firefish) and the Mastodon API (with Akkoma, Pleroma, etc) are all very different from each other and even making a third party UI that completely understands and implements a single API / dialect is an enormous undertaking.

I think it’s because a lot of her fans were like “hang on, she’s just misunderstood, she’s not really transphobic, just doesn’t want those fake transes going into women’s spaces”, and Rowling kept it pretty vague, open for misinterpretation, not really ever able to be pinned down as actually being provably transphobic in the minds of many.

But something happened recently and it tipped her over the edge, from keeping her donations low key and her transphobia aimed at the theoretical “not really a woman ‘trans-identified-male’ boogeyman-woman” (who doesn’t really exist), to outright making open donations to anti-trans groups and attacking real trans women.

All the sudden her supporters are like… Wait, this is not who we thought you meant… Where are these scary men? The ones invading women’s spaces that you were talking about?

Wow, okay that’s weird. It’s doing it for me too, must be some debugging option

I’ve been using alexandrite and haven’t noticed.

I’ll take a look tonight.

For a desktop client, it actually works pretty nice on mobile too.

okay, i’ll take a look… probably something to do with the media proxy or the pictrs config.

Yeah, you just need to login again and put in your totp code this time. Kinda annoying that it doesn’t provide a field for your totp code on the first page.