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Same, except when “malicious” also qualify the acts themselves.

Fortunately for us, the homeowners not only owned the homes but also the property each home sits on and there was no community property or services to deal with.

Dose “homeowner” in the USA refer to someone that eihtre don’t own the home or the land on which it sits ?

I don’t know if it is legal in France cause I have no skill in property right, but I never heard of this case. The closer I heard of if a shop “owner” (franchisee) that builds and open a franchise shop, but the franchise owning big company actually owns the land and the building. Never heard anything like it for homes, despite knowing the existence of systems like “viager”.

My point still stands though. HOAs are just a smaller form of private government which requires involvement, voting and understanding of the homeowners involved.

True, with limitations. As said by others, there can be conflicts between multiple duties for a homeowner. (e.g. HOA meeting VS work obligation.) So the HOA should also have some systems to adapt to external constraints, like a procuration system for votes.

Also if some members of the HOA commit abuses, the responsibility of thei abuses will mostly sit on them. The non commited homeowner share a part of responsibility because of their negligence, bu the biggest part of responsibility is always owned by the perpetrators themselves, never by the victims. This part should never be omitted when communicating about abuses, as its omission carry a strong risk of shifting the responsability to the victims of said abuses. (That’s probably why there are so strong reactions to your point.)

I’ll fininsh with a fun fact about French HOA :

• The HOA themselves are mostly infamous in very big complexes with many units, because of the difficulty to make so many interests align (that formulation is meant to include absentee/negligent owners.)
• The really infamous ones are the “syndic de copropriété”, commonly perceived as being greedy bad faith companies, abusing power despite merely being service providers for the HOA. (But from what I understand having one is mandatory, which plays a part in their disproportionate power.)

They require residents to be involved though. Anybody who lives in an HOA or similar and doesn’t participate (go to meetings, read their bylaws etc.) contributes to the organization being abused.

That’s actually wrong. Homeowners associations require homeowners to be involved, not residents. There is actually a very strong difference between the meanings of “homeowner” and “resident”.

In France a form of “HOA” exists for what some countries call condominium: co-owned lot of houses (FR: “lotissement”), or co-owned multi-appartments complexes. Only co-owners can participate to the full general assembly or be elected as a representative member in the “Conseil syndical” (aka. “CS”, the council of co-owners representatives) ? Whether these owners reside in the complex does not matter, and such owners can be “moral entities” (ex: companies). On the other hand, residing rentees are not invited to participate, even remotely, to any of these general or CS-restricted assemblies. Usually these HOA and their provider named “syndic de copropriété” manage the complex as a whole, as they managed any part of the complex that is not a part of a unit. (aka. “common parts”) The rentees are usually not even supposed to interact directly with the HOA.

Personal anecdote: residing as a rentee in an appartement inside a co-owned complex can lead to some interesting conflicts. For example, when the HOA doesn’t maintain common water pipes, and these pipes flood the rented appartment, whose owner is neither available nor reactive. I’ve experienced the rentee side in this situation. Not fun. And it wasn’t the clean water input. (And if you claim the owner wasn’t fit to be a decent landlord, I’ll actually agree. They weren’t a malevolent, bad-faith greddy scum of a landlord, but they were indeed an incompetent one.)

I use

1. sublime-text when not confined to a terminal
2. nano for example with git’s CLI
3. vi/vim when the others are not available.

I didn’t see this one coming… And I should have.

Glad to see you feel better.

Chiming in just to express my support, long with the other commenters.

It seems that you’ve at least found a tupportive and minful community here. I wish you to find one IRL too if that’s not already the case. A good community really helps being well, happy, and attenuating anxiety.

I also wish that your family learn to identify and avoid hurtful acts and words.

In other words, I wish you conditions that help being at least safe and happy.

(Again, sorry if my message is clumsy.)

How does it work with non binary / isogender gender configuration (including agender, multigender, etc) and with gender fluidity ?

Well, considering that “transgender” and “non-binary” are both umbrella terms describy a great variety of experiences, it would be hard. NB even lies ousidet of the classical concepts of gender (at least in the cultures inheriting from the biggest colonial empires). So it’s hard to undertand all who are under these umbrellas.

I am not able to properly communicate how I experience my own non binarity. I just, for as long I can remember thinking about my gender, have undertood myself as mostly a man but with fractions of me that were not a man. (three gender in toal) But how to make it understandable to someone that doesn’t share the same experience ? I genuinely don’t know. Even more complicated, even though I have a dominant gender (man), it is mostly linked to my body. I think my main gender would very easily switch if my body magically switched to be mainly female or mainly asexual. (Beware the polysemy, i’m not talking about the asexual orientation.) I guess I do not feel that connected to the notion of gender itself.

For the daily struggle, well… Let’s just say I’m quite lucky I pass well as a white cishet monoromantic man, and don’t suffer from gender dysphoria to my knowledge. And although I currently hae no IRL community to discuss with freely about this kind of experience, that’s mainly because of social difficulties unrelated to my queerness.

All that, though, is the individual experience of a single enby. It cannot and must not be generalized in any way.

Would I be able to understand the experience of another enby ? Maybe, maybe not, it will depend on said experience. Same thing means I don’t fully understand transgender experiences. I understand what transgender people manage to communicate, and I learn from that. But since I don’t share their experiences, some aspects will always elude me. Still the same thing with the cisgender experience. I easily understand what can be externally observed, because the society I live in is built around cisgender people with traditionnal roman catholic christian gender roles.

The good thing is : fully understanding someone is not a necessary condition to fully accept and fully respect them. (But it is a contributing factor.)

WTF ?!?

Nothing but the true truth.

Good. Not enough, but good.

Oh, guess I learned another useful label for me, an AMAB trigender (man, woman, agender) demiboy. Pretty sure “AMAB demiboy” is considered loosely cisgender by most.

I personnally don’t care about whether LGBT+ people and allies consider me transgender or cisgender, but I don’t want to cause discomfort when presenting myself. (Especially since I’d like to join a local LGBT support and advocacy association, when I find one accessible enough from home). “Non binary” was already fitting enough to my taste, but “isogender” gives me a more tightly fitting option. It’s litterally the first case described on the “LGBTQIA Wiki” page.

I wonder if the french equivalent is “isogenre”.

EDIT : I see, in the other post in this community, that other labels that work too. For example, “demicisgender”.

We know that Trump is only the chaotic mouthpiece for a much larger and much more problematic power structure in the USA.

A power structure that has been quietly and increasingly fucking the rest of us for decades. Trump simply ripped the mask off and got loud about it.

Not just in the USA. All around the world, mainly among the self proclaimed “(representative) democraties”, which are many countries. (The openly authoritarian regimes are already authoritarian, but can still progress toward more intolerance.)

And yes Trump, while himself being the symptom of these systems current state, has acted as a catalyst for the march toward hateful authorianism.

Exactly why I created a new internet identity when I joined the fediverse with the intent to be open about myself.

My usual web identities are too tied to my civil identity, and the socio-political context in France is not so good, while still better than in the USA.

Moreover, I don’t come from a very tolerant social background. I had to be really independant to begin deconstructing my previously learned biases. (A never ending effort.)

Which one are you

• Male
• Female
• Walmart Bag

Somehow all of the above ? (Except I never had anything to do with Walmart. Wrong country.)

If we’re talking about D.J. Trump, then I’m pretty sure we can expect at least some sighs of relief in many countries, but not from those in power. This guy is a nuisance for more than just the USA, because of the USA’s geopolitical dominant position, and also because of the international networking between supremacist leaders and similar.

Agreed.

There was a famous case in France several years ago, around the freshly dead heinous monster named Jean-Marie Le Pen. His “orator talents” were praised after his death, both by dominant media and dominant politicians, including supposed to be ennemies with him and his legacy. Those who still publicly stood against him and his legacy were told to rospect the dead and were vilified. But as some members of communities he targeted said: “I will respect him in death like he respected us while alive.”

The man was a white national-supremacist with ties to the OG nazis. Racist, imperialist, xenophobe, LGBT-phobe, redheaded-phobe(?), … He very probably participated with enthousiasm in torture and other mass crimes from the french side during Algeria’s independence war. (Also, colonialisation is a mass crime in itself.)

So yeah, fuck forced reverence. This guy was a hateful mass criminal, and his death didn’t change this fact.