Today’s weather forecast (Melbourne CBD, 3000): min - 15°C, max - 29°C. 100% chance of no rain

  • Gibsonhasafluffybutt@aussie.zoneEnglish
    17·
    11 months ago

    I just made an amazing contact!!!

    My uber driver is a semi retired senior project manager and he’s given me his number to catch up for coffee and he said he’ll keep an eye out for any account management roles!!!

    HOLY FUCK!!!

    • indisin@aussie.zone
      9·
      11 months ago

      That’s awesome and I hope that it pans out for you, just remember that despite the excitement you don’t know this person and to stay safe.

  • PeelerSheila @aussie.zone
    10·
    11 months ago

    Did the usual laundry/dishes thing, then went out with the Minipeelers and got some essential supplies. Also got nonessential supplies such as cheesecake and brownies from a local cafe, because cheesecake and brownies. They had a pistachio cruffin left and gave me for free🤤 Got home and had a beef sausage in a fresh roll with German mustard (it comes in a mini stein. I love that kind of thing). Going to watch something with the kids and do more laundry. After I eat the cruffin!

  • StudSpud The Starchy@aussie.zoneEnglish
    9·
    11 months ago

    So funny how people lie, in life and on the internet. It’s not even hard to pick up on, they always get something wrong, be it their age or the timeline of events, symptoms of a disease or mental illness, their work or experience, even what they do day-to-day. Even how they talk or type.

    There are so many valid reasons to lie, I certainly do. I lie to my family about being okay because I fear trauma dumping, and I’d hate for them to blame themselves.

    But to lie about illness or experience? I find that so weird. I have to imagine they feel lonely or unvalued, unworthy, unless there is something “special” or “unique” about them. A deep desire for validation that twists their initially good intentions into a gross facsimile of the reality.

    I find it foul when “influencers” lie about having a mental illness I have. They always get something wrong about it, the details don’t make sense, the symptoms don’t match their behaviours. They dupe the naïve into giving them money and sympathy.

    Tik Tok is the worst for that shit, Facebook, IG, Xhitter, reddit too, even lemmy. Any social media platform really. It’s a performance and it shows.

    /Endrant

      • just_kitten@aussie.zone
        4·
        11 months ago

        Thank goodness someone said it. I was a kid/teen then but there were certain accounts that really rubbed me the wrong way, it was the nascent beginnings of the current culture linked to outrage/cancelling/extreme “sensitivity”/whatever you want to call it. So much narcissism and cult building around being “special”, duping vulnerable kids who feel misunderstood. Only later did I realise the lies.

  • StudSpud The Starchy@aussie.zoneEnglish
    9·
    11 months ago
    I'm tired boss

    It’s up to me to fix my problems and I’m fucking tired of it.

    If I want a close relationship with dad, apparently I have to initiate that. He certainly isn’t going to. But why should I? Who’s the fucking parent here?

    I’ve already had to fucking parent my own damn mother, now I have to be the one to reach out to my dad!? Fucking fuck fuck! It fucking hurts when my partners parents call him, or his siblings, just to check in, because of course I’m fucking jealous.

    Dad can just be dad to my fucking cousins as always, as it’s always fucking been. I give up. I give up on this. They’re all so damn successful and supportive of each other, what the actual fuck have I done wrong!?

    I dream of just packing a backpack and fucking off by myself, throwing my phone away, deleting everything about me and starting elsewhere.

    But I can’t… Of course I can’t. I have my partner to support and Mickey to love and feed.

    I’m resentful.

    • Eagle@aussie.zone
      7·
      11 months ago

      I know how you feel… My Dad has chosen to not be an active participant in my adult life. He’s met my son once in 11 years. He only lives 20 minutes away, in the same town as my mum (his ex wife). It’s taken alot for me to get over feeling like I’m not good enough for him. He has a great relationship with one of my brothers but not me and the other two. Many of my own therapy sessions have determined he is probably neuro diverse but that’s not an excuse. In the community people speak highly of him, but we haven’t had a conversation in 20 years. I’m a good person, who does good things and I’m worth his time and effort, but apparently I’m not. But I’ve got to be okay with that. We’ll survive this, and worse, because we know our worth, and we give love freely unlike our fathers.

      • StudSpud The Starchy@aussie.zoneEnglish
        3·
        11 months ago

        I’m so sorry, it does hurt. A lot. In ways that are hard to describe with words.

        You are good enough, you are so much more than enough! You are an amazing parent breaking the cycle! Your kid loves you, unconditionally and always. You are an amazing, kind, intelligent, beautiful human being!

        The problem lies with your father, and while it is heavy to carry those feelings of unworthiness, it is he who threw it away. You haven’t done anything to deserve treatment like that, you are strong and awesome, and awe-inspiring 💜💜💜

  • Grackle@aussie.zone
    9·
    11 months ago

    Love walking near my window freaking out thinking that the heater underneath it has accidentally been turned on, only for me to realise it’s the heat coming through my blinds 🥵

  • just_kitten@aussie.zone
    8·
    11 months ago

    Pretty happy that I didn’t succumb to screens for too long this morning - woke up feeling better (probably less dehydrated…) and after about an hour of increasingly distracted scrolling I snapped out of it, changed clothes and hoisted myself to the Gleadell St markets. Proud of myself for walking 15 mins there, and then back with heavy bags rather than driving - saw not one but three! kitties, two were spooked by these scary dogs just behind me but I got to pet this friendly fluffball:

    First time at this market.

    ramblings and haul

    It’s ok, I don’t think I necessarily saved much relative to quality (except on the capsicums - Toscanos always has rapacious prices) and I’ve always wondered how much actually goes back to the farmers with these inner city markets. Don’t think I’d make it my primary source of veggies.

    But, it’s a good supplement that’s close by and a nice change for when I want to be around people and enjoy the experience (incl futzing around with cash). The back streets are lovely too… fun and diverse architecture, lots of lovely shade trees, dense but not overwhelming, diverse people. Just have to not think too hard about how I could never afford any one of those places 😂

    I did get a couple unusual things this time at least - a huge 2kg daikon radish longer than my forearm, and a bunch of fresh amaranth leaves! I’ve been yearning for stir fries these days so I’ll definitely do a big daikon stir fry and maybe wilted amaranth with garlic or ginger.

    Today’s haul for $26.50:

    • generous 1/4 pumpkin
    • one big beetroot
    • two medium capsicums (red & green)
    • one huuge daikon radish
    • one bunch amaranth
    • one ear corn
    • one bunch slightly holey Bok Choy
    • one head garlic
    • half cauliflower
    • two punnets strawbs (500g total)
    • one small head broccoli
    • four rope bananas

    Still craving snake beans and tempeh though… Maybe I’ll head to Laguna later today or tomoz. Thinking what to do with all that daikon. Stir fry a good chunk with carrot, pickle a small amount, and maybe do a Chinese style braise for the rest.

  • Llabyrinthine@aussie.zone
    8·
    11 months ago

    Scoffing a chocolate hot cross bun… Yummo.

    Fanged down to Apollo Bay, again. Hot damn this weather has just been absolutely glorious.

    I honestly think this is the best Summer season we have had in years.

  • Duenan@aussie.zone
    8·
    11 months ago

    Washing done, toasted cheese and ham linch done, aircon on! Stovetop coffee done!

    I’m all ready for a Saturday!

      • Duenan@aussie.zone
        5·
        11 months ago

        I’m probably going to make stir fry noodles tonight with the massive amount of eggs and ham I have left here with hokkien noodles that I bought from aldi as a test.

        I haven’t done stir fry in ages apart from yesterday when I got inspired.

        How are you spending this Saturday afternoon and evening and are you doing a stir fry as well?

        I’ve got the tennis on as Alex de Minaur is playing at 2pm.

        • just_kitten@aussie.zone
          3·
          11 months ago

          Oh nice. You’ve reminded me I do need to go to the regular shops for eggs and carrots and soy milk, maybe when it’s cooled down. I’m surprised you don’t do stir fry often, is it because you’ve had the good stuff and can’t be satisfied with what you make at home? I love a good stir fry though sadly my current place has just a wimpy electric stove that doesn’t quite do the trick. Might do a bit tonight with the veggies I bought from the market. Though it’s more of a saute I guess.

          I’ve been catching up on messages for a few hours, teed up a catch up tomorrow with someone I haven’t seen in over half a year, very excited for that. Made an iced chocolate and gonna enjoy that with more Severence binge watching today. Cook dinner and that’s it.

          Today is just 100% chillax/me-time. I realised I haven’t had a solo day with zero obligations or expectations for nearly a month, what with all the traveling and working in between. I’ll do my chores tomorrow afternoon.

          • Duenan@aussie.zone
            1·
            11 months ago

            I sort of go through phases with food at times. I’ve been big into chicken schnitzel and veggies and gravy the last few weeks.

            I was looking up a sauce recipe for hokkien noodles yesterday and just thought thought why not? And tossed everything in adhoc.

            If I had planned it better I would have had some onions added to it and green onions.

            I’d definitely go today for your stuff, tomorrow is going to be a lot hotter forecasted to be 33.

            Is there a trick with stir fry? I didn’t have the heat on very high or anything. Just enough to cook the eggs and warm everything up without searing it.

            This is what it looked like yesterday

            Noodle stir fry.

            Oh that’s awesome that you’re ducking out tomorrow to spend some time with a friend. I’m sure you’re going to have a great time out.

            I think you need more iced chocolate tomorrow, is Severence any good? I’ve been binging movies nonstop for the last week, almost thought about watching Silo but I think I’ll do Shogun.

            A zero obligation day needs to happen more often! I think you need to pencil in a few more of those when you go out to the market and then duck into a cafe to relax for a little.

            • just_kitten@aussie.zone
              2·
              11 months ago

              That noodle stir fry looks gooood, love hokkien noodles!! Honestly the best stir fries are the ones you can make with whatever you have on hand. I love their flexibility. My understanding of stir fries is if you can get the wok really hot that imparts a smoky flavour that makes it more authentic. You need a sufficiently strong gas burner though, I’ve never lived in a place that had one close to it.

              Severance is amazing but not for everyone, it can feel claustrophobic and unsettling because of the premise and they do a really good job with the cinematography to convey that awkward, discomforting sterile office setting.

              I’ve got to stock up on onions too! Better go now despite it being rather warm outside. Onions, carrots, eggs, milk. It’s only 3 minutes in the sun before I get into the shopping centre, I can do this…

  • indisin@aussie.zone
    8·
    11 months ago

    This is such a first world minor problem, but any advice on dealing with next door’s tree? Its shed so many leaves and bark in the past 6 weeks that it would easily take 2 full green bins to get rid of and not only can I not be arsed doing the clean up it just feels a tad unfair. The owner of the tree is a nice old guy so I don’t want to put him out with this issue, but we’re at the point of needing to either pay someone or sweep it all ourselves on to a public road which feels wrong. Ideas other than what I already have?

    • SituationCake@aussie.zone
      6·
      11 months ago

      I think best first step is have a chat with him. If he is elderly maybe he has someone already helping him with gardening, maybe ask the leaves be swept from your side too? But you would need to give them access. But genuinely, why not just sweep and put it in the green bin? Why would you blow it into the street? I live in a leafy area. Sometimes neighbours trees leaves fall in my yard. Sometimes mine fall in theirs. Sometimes street tree leaves blow in everyone’s yards. Put it in the bin and enjoy having a nice tree around.

      • indisin@aussie.zone
        3·
        11 months ago

        Definitely couldn’t get it cut back behind the fence line and it’s rough 15-20 meters tall so it wouldn’t help as the bark and leaves are primarily coming from their side as it’s shedding + wind. It’s a lovely tree too filled with birds so it’s not something I’d even want cutting back. I probably should discuss it with him and maybe I could fit some tall netting. I know my rental providers would be fine with it and he would be, but there’s gotta be a better way of dealing with this. Spitballing: even a leaf blower would just push the problem on to someone else which isn’t fair. Gahhh, my poor chillis covered in bark.

        • melbaboutown@aussie.zone
          8·
          11 months ago

          Would you guys be able to go halvies on a garden maintenance service/leaf removal whenever it gets bad?

          I know some councils have garden waste collections but I get not wanting to deal with it

          • indisin@aussie.zone
            3·
            11 months ago

            It’s a good suggestion and probably viable, I might give it a go. But at the point I’d probably just pay for it all to save the discussion. I’m just frustrated that it’s a rental and already too expensive so spending more money on something that isn’t mine to solve a problem that isn’t of my own creation just feels wrong.