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one of my favorite things is the meta text that calvin is imaginative and quick witted like his dad and empathetic and creative like his mother. he’s ultimately allowed the amount of leeway he’s given because at his core he’s a good kid and they’re proud of him, so they let him express himself
something tells me that calvin was insufferable in his twenties. i grew up with the same kind of “support”, and i learned that you only get told the truth when you aren’t cute any more.
I really felt this almost sense of justice when extroverts were forced to quarantine and were getting cabin fever after like 3 days.
Explaining to them that the discomfort they felt is what I felt every single day I had to go out into their world with all their eyes always looking at my face and making noises at me.
As a introvert, I do.
I call their loudness out. Tell them to fucking chill.
You can be introverted AND direct.
Yeah, often people confuse “introvert” with “shy” and learn about “sarcasm”.
Well I’m both. There’s a few people who I really feel comfortable telling how I feel and it’s so nice to be able to tell them that I’m overwhelmed and then retreat to watch them from afar. Almost all others I instead feel like I need to escape from.
It’s for the same bullshit reason that any difference in preferred communication style is always won by the person who responds to an email or text with a phone call. Buddy, if I actually wanted to talk, I would’ve called. It’s not my fault you have the reading ability of a drunk 5 year old.
A life hack is that you don’t have to answer what I would perseive as an aggressive phone call. Stand you ground and keep the communication in you preferred way.
You’re not wrong at all, but when it happens at work telling them to stop is tricky depending on where they are in the hierarchy.
I always just ask people to email what they just said so it’s in writing, so it’s clear, and I have all the details, and it’s on my to do list. Make me look like I’m detail oriented, like I want to please them and do it exactly how they want.
I know, its hard. I’m dealing with a colleague like this higher in the org. Some are jerks, but I find most people respect the honesty.
I feel like I’m that jerk 😒. I need a way to leave a not for the guys to work on when they get to work in their morning, long before morning in my time zone. But they don’t do email so I have no choice but to text. Apparently a text is something urgent that they feel like they need to respond to immediately. I can’t win
Sounds more lika a necessity. I usually clarify that’s it’s an FYI in a case like yours. More formal, but prevents misunderstandings.
I’ve been trying to remember this
Personally, I love chatty extroverts. They just talk at me and I get to sit there in silence and daydream. They don’t care if you’re listening.
Or when they demand the introvert start talking but they complain that s/he won’t shut up and talks too much.
“Hey, aren’t you into (special interest)? Tell us about that”
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“No, not like that”
Ever been to a library? They tell extroverts to be quiet
This is why libraries are one of my most favorite places. The truly shared space.
Feeling like people who are very talkative and/or loud do often get in trouble for that as well. People with a lack of self-awareness of one’s own volume and monologuing about things of interest can mean the same people who typically are on the receiving end of trying to be “pulled out of their shell” are also sometimes the people who get told to be quiet.
Because when someone is alone, they might start thinking for themselves. Dangerous shit right there for those lacking the honesty to make actually win-win kind of deals
My wife is an introvert, I am an extrovert. When we are at home she will not shut up, she is constantly talking. I however do all of my talking away from home and want quiet.
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Gift them books, a microscope, minerals, a vintage computer… Maybe something will stick and make them more introverted. Or maybe they’ll see the gifts as an abstract validation of their ways and store them in the basement or the trash can.
end extrovert supremacy now!
I’ve definitely been told to stop talking my entire life so idk about this
Ugh I’ve heard both. I talk too much and I don’t talk enough, which do you freaking want?! Cause I can’t win either way and I can’t win by being myself. Lately I just decided fuck it, I do what I want.
