Total bullshit, I remember a compliment about my hair from 25 years ago
Uh… did you read the comic or are you commenting purely on the title?
The title, clearly.
… Why?
I interpret it as “we (men) need no external validation, but it’s nice to get”. However, I argue that we do need external validation and denying that is toxic masculinity.
‘Guys don’t need validation’?
Bish some girl in the 90s told me I looked good in black and it informed every single clothes purchase I have made since
A PTA mom in the '90s told me she would kill for my hair and I’ve kept it long ever since
Gotta meet somewhere in the middle. Men stop catcalling women, and women give men more compliments, but men need to stop raping women first.
I’ve stopped raping years ago!
Dont like the implications of this sentence
The same vein as ‘So when did you stop beating your girlfriend?’
For those of us familiar with QI, I’m sure everyone’s thinking of this bit when you read this: https://youtu.be/uXom0OP3Rwk
Good on you
Women rape men too
I think it would be best if everyone just stopped raping
You’re not wrong! Also not super relevant here. This is like responding “all lives matter” to a black lives matter comment. Well, maybe not that bad, but I hope you get my point.
So men raping women is relevant to the topic of men receiving compliments, but women raping men is irrelevant to the topic of men raping women?
In a vacuum like that it sounds bad, yes. That wasn’t the entire context though. What I do think women raping men is irrelevant to is the topic of women being too afraid to give compliments to random men in fear of getting assaulted. Which is the whole reason rape was brought up in the first place.
Like, the other comment said I marginalized half the population. I do not mean to. I know its an issue and more attention needs to be brought to it because too many people—especially other men—don’t take it seriously at all and can even treat it as a good thing. I just don’t think now is the time to bring it up.
but women raping men is irrelevant to the topic of men raping women?
Uh. Yes.
You are looking for reasons to be upset. Knock it off.
If you must hear me say it: women should stop raping men. There you go. Mission accomplished.
What a great way to marginalize half the population
(I copied this from my other comment, but it was very relevant to this one so I figured I’d say it here too.)
I do not mean to. I know its an issue and more attention needs to be brought to it because too many people—especially other men—don’t take it seriously at all and can even treat it as a good thing. I just don’t think now is the time to bring it up.
We all know that. Go back to Reddit.
I can’t, they banned me for saying punching nazis was a moral good
This is part of the reason why I don’t compliment men. The first part is I’m just shy as fuck when it comes to complimenting anybody and will literally flounder in my mind about whether to say it or not, only for the person to walk away. mission failed
But the other half is not wanting to seem like I’m hitting on a man, because then if he harasses/pesters me, he’ll think he’s justified because I gave him a compliment so obviously I must wanna fuck him…
But yeah I’ll be thinking, “his fashion is so good!” or “that cologne smells nice!” or “I love that tshirt!” but then I worry about coming off the wrong way, so I don’t say anything…
Yeah. We need to teach our boys not to assume somebody is hitting on them and that they are not entitled to a person’s body, affection or attention. Then women will feel more comfortable displaying their feelings and men won’t have to worry so much about missing signs.
Completely unrelated but I just want to say you have a good taste in pokemon.
Haha thanks! Zard is for posers.
At this point, if someone complements me, my first thought is “Well that’s a fucking lie, they want something”.
I try and compliment my husband often! He is bad at accepting compliments so I keep trying!
That is awesome! And he doesn’t need to accept it for it to be good for him. Exposure is often highly influential.
In this comic, the woman has hair whereas the man just has floppy skin
Uh, yeah… That’s how gender works?
Usually it is the other way around though …
I was playing some drinking game with a few of my friends a couple months ago and one of the cards resulted in me having to take my shirt off, ever since then 2 of them have been gassing me up about what good shape I’m in and mentioning it to the rest of them about how I’m in good shape. I don’t work out to get compliments but I’d be lying if I said my self esteem hasn’t gone through the roof since this started.
I just got back from a doc visit for a shoulder injury. They told me “yea sometimes muscular guys like you fool us and we miss a tear because their delts are overcompensating”
All I heard was “you’re muscular”, going to be riding that high for a bit. Luckily no rotator cuff tear, probably just a bad sprain, will be back to bench press soon enough
Well, lets be honest.
Men in general do not put any (or at least as much) work in their appearance as women. When was the last time you or any man you know took over an hour to get ready because they were doing their skin routine?
There is definitely a significant cultural influence on this, obviously starting at a young age.
But as someone who did put an effort into their appearance during my college days, women did notice.
well the recent explosion of barbershops all around my country tell a different story
My niece has been getting heavily into skincare. As long as we’re being honest, most of a typical “skincare routine” is placebo, and some of it is actively counter-productive. I know a few women who have a laissez-faire approach to skincare, and their results are almost as good. I believe that the routine is more about the ritual, and psychic need to try to gain some measure of control in a crazy society, than results.
Boys are wecking their bodies because we have convinced ourselves that looking like Thor is normal
We didn’t do nothing, that’s all the media!
Controlled by men, appealing to the male ideal!
Ah, so those boys deserve it.
Why would you think men can’t victimize men?
Didn’t say that. How come you don’t think men can be victims?
I bought a guy flowers once and he was beaming with joy
Probably the first time anyone had made that kind of gesture to him.
I need it, desperately. My gf knows this, pays me compliments, and every single one is a core memory for me. Also working out and getting a bit swole means you get a lot of compliments from the boys, which is also nice.
If you really want to make a man’s day, compliment them on their dick.
I do the same at the urinals
Sometimes I get a “yours too” back
Ehm, no, it’s just a dick.
I reckon it’s pretty universally human to appreciate validation in any form.
I’ve had women ask me out who had literally never said a positive thing about my appearance a singular time before hand.
Asking me out is a step beyond complimenting my appearance though.
If they were so bold as to ask me out they weren’t afraid of coming off as creepy.
I wish I felt less socially awkward about making positive comments about others appearances.
Because it’s rude to comment on the physical appearance of strangers
Shen has a new artstyle? Is that his new avatar or is that a separate character?
I could be wrong, but I think they’ve been playing around with their style a bit while still maintaining some identifiable characteristics
^ ^ (*. u.*) me . . . . . .
