I’ve seen people consider even 5’7" as short for some reason so i’m curious if it has happened with someone
I’m guessing you’re a man ?
I’m 5’4 male and average looking and a bit chubby
Dude, if you have decent hygiene, are a basic human being and treat people with respect, you will rise above all the other men who are stupid, racist, sexist, entitled pieces of shit
The bar is set REALLY low
Really Really low
Also if someone rejects you for your height consider he/she is doing you a favor by signaling he/she is not mature / has fucked up priorities for a relationship
This absolutely. I’m a 5’1" lady, and I do like my partner to be taller than me, but basically everyone is taller than me.
If you lined up every man I’ve dated over my lifetime, you’d see men from 5’2" to 6’4".
The right people are there for the person, not shallow bullshit. Hygiene is the best indicator, yes. Good hygiene, nice person, you’ll find success.
When my now husband told me he was 6’3" my jaw dropped. Sure I was happy (he can reach the top shelf for me) but I seriously wouldn’t have batted an eye if he was shorter
Date kind people, not shallow cunts and you should be okay.
I dated one guy who told me he was 5’10". He was kind of a cunt. He was actually 5’7". It just showcased his insecurity. I didn’t like that. Wear yourself with pride. No one choses to be short/tall. Accept yourself and others will too.
The bar is set REALLY low
There’s a saying “the bar for men is in hell”
I thought it meant there was a drinking establishment for men in hell. They go and drink with the devil, and that’s where they get all their bad ideas. They’re doing shots and the devil’s like “say she’s fat”, and the guy is like “good advice bro”.
Turns out the saying just means the bar is super low. So low you don’t even have to jump. It’s so low, it’s deeper than the depths of the earth and in the fires of hell that burn below.
But yeah, so many men are so horrible, it’s shockingly easy to rise above them.
How old are you, im curious if its a generational thing, like mid 20s women will straight up openly say theyd never date a man under a certain height openly in public lol
I’m ~40, so I don’t date or spend much time with people in their 20s.
I have seen the occasional profile demanding a certain height, but I just skip on it immediately.
I wonder if it correlates with other attributes? I’m also very left wing so I don’t interact with conservatives much, for example. Maybe “I need a tall man and I’ll say it out loud” happens more there?
ive seen both political ends say it, some ppl are hung up on height for whatever reason
idk im thankful for my friends but ik its a bubble forsure, everyones divisive and shallow lately, woman especially, because modern woman, have infinite choice, you wont feel content, compared to modern average dude with minimal choices desperate to keep what they can get coming off desperate and insecure lol
People do get rejected for their height lol, ppl are shallow, all woman aren’t saints, what you should be saying is you should avoid anyone that cares about height, theyll remove themselves and its a non issue, ive had girls attracted to me calling me 6 foot be less atteacted to me visibly when I corrected them and said im actually 5 10 no logic in it lol
People do get rejected for their height lol
People also get rejected for not being 300 lbs. Everyone has tastes.
I think the number of girls out there ACTUALLY rejecting people for height is not as many as you’d think. And good riddance.
Lol ok I feel dumb after looking at the comments. I thought you meant like… On rollercoaster rides or something.
lol you and me both
Is that a problem I’m too tall to understand?
Being 205cm (6’9"), yeah what kinda problem is that? Now let me go tend to the bump on my head from running into a doorframe again
Fuck that, how expensive are your shoes?
it’s fine I only have a 47 (13.5) so I can still buy them in regular stores. usually around 50€ if it is everyday wear1
I’m at 13 and have a hard time with availability in stores sometimes. I’m so glad they didn’t get any bigger than that.
P.S. thanks for the translation.
You should check out the Dara o Briain comedy bit about buying size 13 shoes.
Once you know what brand you like, you can usually get them online pretty easily. That’s what I do most of the time nowadays
13 too, I usually go with the Ecco brand. Last forever and the shops usually have a few models in stock that aren’t Runners.
At a mere 6’5" over here, how do these examples make you feel?
Bus seat, airplane seat, powered car seat, Toyota RAV4.
rolls on the floor crying
Laughs in back and knee pain
My ex did tell me I’m shorter than she wants her bf to be. I was still talker than her by 2-3 inch but she wanted me taller than her in heels. And suggested I do exercises to get taller.
I ended it with her soon after that. I think if someone has thought like that, there are other common patterns that makes the relationship too much to worth it. My wife now is same height as me and we’re happy about that, height difference of several inches seems weird/difficult to imagine now.
Regularly throughout my life. I’m also 5’7". It seems to be less of an issue now that I’m older. People are going to like what they like. But people who limit their choices to strict deterministic traits tend to completely skip right over awesome people, and then they wonder why they’re partners are so terrible.
So yeah, this shit is going to happen. You’ll also get chosen for your height. Focus on improving those physical traits over which you have control.
Weird; I mean, I know it’s anicdotal but I’m 5’6" and I’ve never had anyone so much as even mention my height (maybe when around other men when I was younger once or twice but the bulk of my friends have always been more women such that I don’t truly remember).
I guess it doesn’t really contribute to the thread but I was just genuinely surprised at such a difference of experience.
But people who limit their choices to strict deterministic traits tend to completely skip right over awesome people, and then they wonder why they’re partners are so terrible.
True as Hell, though.
ive never Been rejected, (i dont ASK people out)
Same, I just awkwardly glance at them few times of I like them and hope they will ask me out. So far nobody asked me out.
That’s the spirit!
Someone cracked the code i think
No. I have doubts that it actually happens except in extremely rare instances. I wonder if some women blame a lack of attraction on height because saying other things gets an ever worse reaction?
Possibly.
Not particularly tall but have had someone mention liking it. Mainly just kissing up.
It’s not gonna really matter for someone who is into you.
I’d guess young women do this kind of thing more frequently than women whose prefrontal cortex is fully developed.
Some people put expectations on what they want, and then get confused where they can’t find it. Live life with no expectations, and you’re less likely to get disappointed.
Rowing club coach at a university I was interested in told me I was too short to bother trying out but if I dropped all muscle to squeak under 120 lbs I could try for coxswain.
Jokes on them, rowing generally requires waking up before the ass crack of dawn which was not conducive to my preferred college experience. I found rugby, which has way broader allowance for body type and no sunrise torture sessions.
I (woman, 5’10") was dumped for being too tall.
Condolences my dude.
dudette, I think
Is dude not back to being gender neutral again? What are we going with?
Would you have sex with a dude? If yes then it’s fine
That’s one hell of a standard
Why? If dude is gender neutral, then you should be comfortable using the phrase “I’d have sex with that dude”.
I’d say it’s a expression that does have gender associations, but it’s not offensive or anything to call a woman dude in the right context. If anything it is usually used as a gesture of camaraderie, in this case because a woman has suffered in a way that men can understand.
now that you say, I’m not sure anymore
Can be agender, can be a gender.
Fuck dudes, hanging with the dudes, “… Duude…”, “sex with dudes”
Same with bro or man. Also, progressively, defaults shouldn’t be masculine and people shouldn’t push that narrative.
Like, “I like having sex with multiple dudes at the same time”, but, also, my gf is not a dude, dude.
But ALSO to complicate things further, sometimes chicks ARE dudes or bros just because they want to be and that’s okay. And the more you think about that sentence the more your brain will hurt.
I dunno. Just… Don’t be a dickhead and respect people, and it’s probably fine. “Gotta know the rules before you break the rules.”
I am 5’4" and though no one has ever outright told me they rejected me because of it directly, it almost certainly is a leading reason I have fewer interested parties. It seems like most women specifically mention height in their requirements. It’s too bad, I’d date a tall woman. Karlach is my favorite.
Being short helped me grow a personality and learn to be charismatic to overcome my height, and I’ve done okay, but it’d be foolish to say it’s not a huge hurdle in dating.
Not to my face. But as someone else said, it’s rare for you to be told the rejection reason (for early dating). There are a lot of reasons for this, but part of it is people kind of suck at taking rejection. And on top of that, a significant portion of men are dangerous.
No one wants to risk the man flipping out, spewing cruelty, or worse. A gentler letdown seems safer.
I lucked out into being born 5’10, not tall enough to need special clothes, but short enough so the shallow “6ft or nothing” women self filter themselves and I don’t have to deal with them myself. I had a buddy who was 5’4ish who was an absolute disgusting human being but always blamed being alone on his height, also have a buddy who 5’2ish and married to an absolutely wonderful woman
I lucked out into being born 5’10,
RIP mom
I’m 5ft11 and I think I just get rejected for being myself rather than my height 🤷🏼♂️
This whole height thing is an artifact of dating apps.
Of course women are going to judge based on one of the 6 data points they have available. It’s not that they’re shallow by “nature”.
Women will almost never confront a man face-to-face with the reason she rejects him because to do so is physically dangerous.
I saw a meme on reddit today that suggested that an obese woman could have all the partners she wanted and that only men suffered from being rejected because of their body and this incel shit is gotten out of hand.
EDIT: here is the meme: https://i.redd.it/yyp4m7axn25f1.jpeg
Do you think they realize that they made her look fun (smiling) and him look awful (scowling, wearing a school child backpack, bad haircut) ?
Yes. Rejected to ride on the adult-sized go karts. Has to ride the kiddie bumper cars instead. But this was when I was younger.
