• TheYojimbo@lemmy.world
      97·
      4 months ago

      I mean, first you have to know eachother since you were 14, your parents change you schools because her comportment is being problematic but she finds you anyway… Then you can lie about being neither left nor right while pandering to the alt right, and only then you get to be president.

      • loutr@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
        31·
        4 months ago

        Very important step you missed: be scouted out by the financial elite early on, then have them groom you every step of the way.

  • Washedupcynic@lemmy.caEnglish
    146·
    4 months ago

    If this is true, holy shit. I once dated a woman 16 years older than I was, I was 26. She had 4 kids ranging from 8, 17, 19, 20. I never attempted to parent the older 3 kids, and they never asked me my age; it was an unspoken agreement. I did parent the 8 year old. The older kids asked for my help a handful of times over the 7 years I was a part of their family, and I happily helped them and stepped up when I could. They were shocked I helped. I was like look, I’m not your parent, I’m not gonna tell you how to live your life, but you are still family and I got your back.

    In retrospect, it was a pretty unhealthy relationship, but I was dumb in many ways in my 20s.

    • UnderpantsWeevil@lemmy.worldEnglish
      47·
      4 months ago

      I was dumb in many ways in my 20s.

      You’re not really in your 20s if you aren’t doing a certain amount of stupid bullshit

      • icelimit@lemmy.ml
        8·
        4 months ago

        Want to get older? Pass a competence test. Want to stay old? Pass a competence test.

        Fail? Straight to the recycler

    • ramble81@lemmy.zip
      26·
      4 months ago

      I read “She was 26” and kept trying to figure out that math because I didn’t like the answer I was coming up with. Turns out it’s just my reading comprehension that wasn’t working out.

        • Hugucinogens
          3·
          4 months ago

          Sounds to me like you weren’t dumb, you were just doing a bunch of Shit trying to heal from a shitty hand dealt by life. Healing requires dumb shit I believe. Were you not doing your best by the people around you? That’s what I would call dumb shit instead, if so, yeah.

          But your comment shows a really stand-up side of you, so damn, congrats on becoming this person after all.

    • captainlezbian@lemmy.world
      12·
      4 months ago

      Yeah when I was being the young hot piece of ass for a woman with a kid my age I knew where I stood: proof mom is a cougar

    • BarneyPiccolo@lemmy.todayBanned
      8·
      4 months ago

      Not dumb at all, it was a core life experience, not much different than many people go through. It’s fairly common with the gender roles reversed.

    • Harvey656@lemmy.world
      3·
      4 months ago

      My wife is 14 years older than I am. Honestly things are great for the most part.

      We have one thing you, nor the post have though: no kids. Kids would ruin this relationship honestly, but a big part of our lives is being selfish for teach, if that makes sense. But its great, wouldn’t trade my woman for anything.

  • pseudo@jlai.lu
    56·
    4 months ago

    And that, young people, is why you should not post your photo on the internet.

    Be glad that’s not even something sexual.

  • burntbacon@discuss.tchncs.de
    38·
    4 months ago

    You have to act like the father figure, and best to do it in a way he can’t turn down.

    So pay his fucking college bills, dumbass!

    • abbadon420@sh.itjust.works
      19·
      4 months ago

      Haven’t had a problem with it. Life’s expensive, I couldn’t afford anything, but I still can’t and I don’t think I would’ve otherwise.

      I dropped out of collge at 23 and didn’t know what to do with my life. So took a job in a factory and we had a kid.

      Now I’m 35 and I’m older, wiser, better. And I’m now finishing my bachelor and starting my career as a software developer. All while many other software developers my age are dropping out because of burn out or bore out.

      I’d argue it’s much more fun to figure out parenthood while you’re young and relatively free with plenty of time and energy for your kid. than to figure out parenthood when you’re older, more tired and have to work a demanding career.

      • Ghostalmedia@lemmy.worldEnglish
        7·
        4 months ago

        Everyone is different, but a lot of studies show that late 20s / early 30s is a sweet spot for stability and not encountering big risks with conceiving.

        That said, having kids in your early 20’s, and early 30’s both sounds miserable to me.

        • i_dont_want_to
          2·
          4 months ago

          I had mine in my early 20s. Sucked. Laying the groundwork for my own stability was a lot harder than it should have been, but I got it done anyway with a combination of a mountain of determination, an incredible amount of work, natural talent and smarts, and so much luck.

          But the child will be an adult by the time I am 40, so I got that going for me.

      • baines@lemmy.cafeEnglish
        4·
        4 months ago

        you missed the best time to figure out parenthood

        but good on you for self improvement while working and raising a kid

      • Ghostalmedia@lemmy.worldEnglish
        9·
        4 months ago

        Most of human history also didn’t live to 80 and have to manage payments on a certified preowned Kia and a 3 / 2.5 in a good school district.

        • BarneyPiccolo@lemmy.todayBanned
          5·
          4 months ago

          Correct, they had to worry about the King’s soldiers coming to their village and taking all the men to be slaughtered in the King’s latest pissing match with HIS enemy, or Vikings or Romans or Sea People, etc. swooping in and murdering EVERYBODY.