I don’t think anyone in my family knows about lemmy, so I’ll just say it here. (might delete later)
I know usually this is personal stuff that I shouldn’t talk about online, but fuck it, he’s a shitty brother and I wanna make fun of it. He said some toxic shit today so now I’m just posting this to kinda get back at him.
Apparantly my older brother is going to do some stupid arrange marriage thing, btw it’s arranged by my mother and she knows the other side through like friends of friends or something… whatever, idk the details, and like… 🤣 dude is a worse version of me with even worse social skills… so I’m just watching shitshow with popcorns lol.
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He’ll be going back to China for some time apparantly. It’d be funny if the authorities there finds about about his anti-government politics.
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The return into US borders would be interesting as well. ICE lol.
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No idea if how the US government would even handle the spousal green card stuff for his future spouse, given the current us politics. Popcorn time for me to watch. 👀🍿
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I’m assming this means that soon he’s not gonna be near me anymore, since my mother is already about to buy him a house, and so him and his spouse is gonna live separately, meaning that I get spared from his toxic bullshit.
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RIP to his children… most toxic and nacissistic father in the world. Oh jeez, what a terrible life it must be born into that family. I feel bad for their future children… they’ll have a even worse childhood than I did. I mean he did so much damage to me as an older sibling, imagine how much damage he can do as a father…
Anyways /endofgossip
Any of you have werid/crazy family/relative stories you wamma share? Like just relationships/friendships dynamics (such as this stupid arranged marrage my brother got into) that make you feel laugh/cringe at?
(And yes this is an actual true story, no kidding, they still do arranged marriages what the hell lmfao. But knowing my brother’s behavior, I’m willing to bet he’s gonna disappoint he other family’s parents and they’re gonna cancel it lol.)
My mom is a vicious insane manipulative monster of a human. I don’t talk to her, estranged for years. My aunt/her sister has a distant sort of relationship with her, in that they see each other sometimes at family gatherings and will like loan each other a book or something, but don’t confide in one another or anything. My aunt knows what she’s like.
Anyway my aunt had surgery for cancer last year, didn’t tell my mother anything about it and told her immediate family not to tell her. Her kids and their families know what my mother is like and told her nothing. However my mother caught a whiff of it because someone they both knew saw my aunt going to the surgeon’s consultation appointment, and called sniffing for gossip. My aunt didn’t tell her anything, but my mom was an OR nurse, so she got a former coworker who was still working there to find out the details, and showed up and stuck her face in hers as my aunt was almost about to be taken to surgery. It was not a visit, you understand, she showed up to let my aunt know that she KNEW and she couldn’t keep it secret from her. She did not visit her once surgery was over at all, or send her a card or anything. Just showed up for a few minutes to make it clear that she knew.
So yeah my mom is crazy.
As someone with a shitty family, I can’t recommend therapy enough. It teaches you to dodge the bullshit like an Agent in the Matrix dodges bullets.
Definitely think i need some therapy… got a Christmas card today and i honestly think its the first time i was actually happy to receive a card from a relative.
No rambling wall of text full of guilt trips or “why don’t you talk to me” or asking for help or trying to give me money (which prompts other family members to start with the guilt trips to reach out to relatives i want nothing to do with).
Just… a nice looking Christmas card, and signatures. That’s it. I love it.
One thought. Wish him nothing but good luck and positive vibes publicly. If (when) things go south never say ‘I told you so’. Watch the drama from afar and never draw it your direction. Good luck!
Yeah. Popcorn is delicious, but the lingering kitchen smell is awful, so it’s better to enjoy it when you aren’t the one cooking it. Same deal with drama.
You need to try air popped popcorn.
