Married in '91. Wore mine for the first few years, then took it off on a jobsite to wash my hands, left it on the sideboard of the sink and it was taken. No big deal, it was made out of a 10 dollar length of silver. Eh. My husband lost his a few years later, so we decided to not bother to replace them.
The metal isn’t what’s kept us together for 35 years…
as a woman (and maybe this is more of a thing in the Southern US), I find it’s important to wear a ring to signal to men that I’m not available (not that this is like foolproof, there are men who will still transgress those boundaries, but … it feels like a kind of social shield for sure)
and it is also important to wear both the engagement and the wedding ring together - conservative culture is weirdly catty about that
The fact that I know you mean the South of the United States of America exactly because you did not say the country annoys me so much. Sorry for the off topic rant.
ah good point, I edited it to add the country. It’s true there is a US-centrism both in the mindsets of Americans, but also online in general (at least in English speaking spaces), so it does become a kind of “default place” that way
yay imperialism 🫠
Yeah, I’m not the kind of woman that men would hit up on (too butch…) and now of course I’m old and weathered and other than the really old guys that appreciate someone that can tune up their own car (I have had men decades older than I am, come up to me and shake my hand when working on the car in the driveway… go figure!) no one looks twice at me. What I wear also doesn’t help. LOL!
Yup. All day, every day.
Same. Only take mine off if I’m washing my hands and need to dry under it.
Mine doesn’t even come off for that. You’d think it would get nasty under there not being dried properly, but it’s been about (two wives with a gap between - can’t be bothered working out the exact time) 35 years and zero problems.
Yes and yes. I dislike jewelry, but I never take my ring off.
I don’t like jewelry so my wife and I got matching tattoos on our ring fingers. It’s our first initials in Morse code with a heart between them.
The other day i was saying i had to go pick up my wife and the tea-shop attendant instantly laughed and asked, “Then where’s your wedding ring?”
So i had to think of a polite way to say that the state can fuck right off out of my relationships and take it’s bullshit patriarchal ownership rituals with it. That sounded something like, “oh ah we’re not actually … we didn’t need to… so we haven’t… so i don’t have… yeah.”
… Did I miss out on some state sponsored wedding ring!?
take it’s bullshit patriarchal ownership rituals with it
Righteous.
My wife and I made our own wedding rings from wood. We don’t wear them since they are fairly fragile.
My skin is an asshole and the ring didn’t help. After some days it started itching and peeling and I just wore it on special occasions afterwards.
We’re divorced now, but I kept it out in the open, because it reminds me of the good times we had together. And we had a lot (and we’re still friends).
Neither of us do. We stopped after the first year or so since neither of us like rings.
Same here. It was just annoying
no it hurts when I jerk off
I’m right-handed, so this isn’t a problem for me.
You don’t make use of “the stranger”?
I guess he wears a wedding ring, but he doesn’t turn up all that often, and the wedding ring hasn’t caused me any issues.
No. I occasionally have to lift heavy objects and if there’s one kind of injury I really want to prevent it’s degloving. Do not look it up if you’re squeamish.
Yes, and no - I only wear it when I leave my house (but I don’t wear it around the house).
I remember my parents wearing their wedding rings all the time, though 🤔
Yes because I can’t trust myself with(out) it. There was this one time I removed it to put hand cream and I popped the ring on a bottle of nail polish next to me. I immediately forgot what I did and spent a good couple of hours on the verge of tears because I thought I lost the ring. It’s very dear to me, it belonged to my husband’s grandma who got married in 1944 so I can’t exactly get a replacement for it.
Husband only removes it when he showers because he’s not a scatterbrain.
We picked out rings for our wedding, and wore them for the most part for the first couple years. We both worked at jobs where we couldn’t wear them, and I work with my hands a lot at home so mine would come off there too. I haven’t bothered putting it back on in years; my wife started wearing the silicone bands which are cheap and comfortable for her. Ring or not, married all the same after 20 years.
My partner and I wear silicon rings. We started out with regular rings, but we both ended up having sensory issues - mine was a giant heavy tungsten ring and theirs had too many sharp edges. I lost my massive ring and bought a silicon ring to wear while I looked for it. Never did find it but I loved the feel of silicon so much I bought my partner a set to wear too. We’ve been wearing them ever since, probably 10 years now. Highly recommend.
Marrying soon. My partner wanted a ring, but after seeing the prices changed minds.
I got a cheap $10 stainless steel ring off amazon. Later upgraded to a $50 dollar ring when in Peru on vacation. Screw spending a fortune on jewelry. No average person cares about it anyway. Value the meaning, not cost.
Yep, got mine off amazon too. Actually got a spare just in case. On for ten years shortly.
Technically not married (long uninteresting story, not worth getting into), but for simplicity let’s pretend that I am.
I have a ring, yes. White gold. And I always wear it, but I do so Frodo-style d/t rings being incompatible with a lot of my work. I started putting it on a chain only when I was going offshore, but I found that I prefer it that way, so now it’s there permanently, even if most of my work is done from my couch these days.
Plus that way I don’t run the risk of it slipping off and disappearing.
