The only way I’ll ever have children is through adoption but it seems most guys want biological children.
Most of the guys I met would say that they fear that they wouldn’t see an adopted child as theirs which honestly breaks my heart a little.
I did some research and apparently most adoptive parents generally chose that option because the man is infertile, not the other way around.
So it would seem like most men are only contemplating adoption if they’re infertile themselves but if their partner is they’ll prefer to just get a different girlfriend over adopting kids.
Let me know if you think this is not the case, I want to believe you.
I want zero children.
But, I will say this: if you are with a person who won’t consider adoption, but you want that to be an option for you, then you should communicate that in a healthy way.
Its not something that I would bring up on a first date, mind you. Sometimes the “kids” conversation comes up. You could always say that you have always dreamed about having a family with a spouse (if that is your thing), x number of kids, white picket fence, 2.1 cars, and a goldfish. It helps to get that kind of stuff out of the way.
But I would wait until a couple of dates before bringing up the nuance of how you would make that dream come true.