• teslekova@sh.itjust.works
    73·
    10 天前

    If it was just about a cute body, people would just get Realdolls with warming coils. Some people are satisfied by that, sure, but not many.

    What most of us like is a body animated by a vivacious and interesting intelligence of some kind.

    And here’s the fun part: the more interesting the spooky animating ghost intelligence, the less cute the body needs to be.

    My partner’s butt is, shape wise, probably pretty similar to many others. But when I squeeze it in a certain way, and it moves lithely in my hands like a big old disco cat… It’s genuinely the best butt in my universe.

    • cattywampas@lemmy.world
      21·
      9 天前

      If you think any kind of sex doll is in the same universe as even the dumbest most uninteresting person, you do not fuck.

        • arrow74@lemmy.zip
          17·
          9 天前

          Even if it’s strictly sex, sex with a real human being is leagues different than sex with 40 lbs of heated silicone

          • 6_Electrons@lemmy.world
            10·
            9 天前

            You do know in a significant number of languages in this world when gender is unknown the masculine form is used… Some languages, for example Spanish, would even use a masculine form for when the gender is known and a group includes both boys and girls. For example Tengo tres ninos… That sentence could mean I have three boys but it also could mean I have three kids of which some might be female.

            So stop trying to be provocative… You’re bad at it

            • TheThunderWolf@lemmy.dbzer0.comEnglish
              7·
              9 天前

              im not trying to be provocative im trying to be progressive

              this is english: we have gender neutral terms, which should for many reasons be used

              many people (including myself) find misgendering to be offensive, and many people (including myself) find complicity in the patriarchy offensive

              and also in those other languages people and organizations still often favour gender neutral language; in spanish the forms -e or -i or -x or -@ are somewhat common, i see signage using -x or -e, and spam texts sometimes use -@

              and also, why would you not adjust? saying “they” won’t hurt you

              • forbiddencherry@lemmy.today
                5·
                9 天前

                Intentionally misgendering is offensive, but that’s not what happened here, in my opinion. There’s nothing in their profile so sure going neutral with they/them is probably a safer option, but defaulting to male pronouns (which traditionally are all encompassing) is also fine, IMO. If they had a preference that they cared about then they would specify it.

          • teslekova@sh.itjust.works
            2·
            9 天前

            They guessed right, and if there’s no info to go on, I’m okay with picking one and correcting course if required. I don’t know if being butt-obsessed is a male thing particularly, butt…

    • fatcat@discuss.tchncs.de
      4·
      9 天前

      But when I squeeze it in a certain way, and it moves lithely in my hands like a big old disco cat…

      sentences i never even imagined

  • CultLeader4Hire@lemmy.world
    72·
    10 天前

    I’m getting to the point my tastes are… inverting. Younger men looking better and better these days since older men for me is now actually old men lol

    • did_you_find_violets@lemmy.worldOP
      43·
      10 天前

      I actually thought about this. I don’t think when I’m 50 I’ll be into older men anymore, since what I consider “older men” now would either be around my age or just old-old men, lmao.

    • RBWells@lemmy.world
      3·
      9 天前

      Huh. I have always liked guys my age, whatever that age is, and always for some reason have been pursued only by guys my age or younger (defining “my age” as a few years in either direction). Will need to see if that holds, but I didn’t expect it to still be true at this age so maybe.

      Looks wise yeah I think more younger guys look better but OMG when I see a fit guy my age, that strikes me much more.

  • sp3ctr4l@lemmy.dbzer0.comEnglish
    39·
    9 天前

    Perhaps inverting all elements of this…

    So, I finally made a fetlife account. I’m roughly 35, M.

    Looking through people in my area.

    See a fairly wide range of people, but notice that… a fair number of accounts are seemingly obviously lying about their age. In either direction, sometimes.

    Follow a few accounts.

    Surprisingly, one follows me back within like an hour or two … long story short, this woman has a fantastic body, but claims she’s 55. Isn’t showing her face on her profile, totally makes sense as a privacy measure, also leads me to think its more likely she’s listing a fake age, as another privacy measure.

    I say hello type words, including basically ‘theres no way you’re 55 right? you look to be 15 years younger.’

    Fucking nope, nope I am wrong, she actually is 55, and is just in incredible shape.

    So I guess now I am entirely unintentionally into MILFs. Still think she looks great!

    • velma@sh.itjust.works
      16·
      9 天前

      Why would a 40 year old lie about being 55? What a strange accusation hahah

      I’d believe people are lying about being older if they’re really young on dating apps.

      • sp3ctr4l@lemmy.dbzer0.comEnglish
        14·
        9 天前

        I mistyped, I meant to write 25 years younger.

        But why would somebody lie from roughly 30 to present as 55?

        Well really, the pattern that I thought I’d noticed was that people would just bullshit their age by a round number, 5, 10, 20, etc years, in any direction.

        An obfuscation/privacy tactic more so than like, a catfishing tactic.

        The other thing at play here is that … I was genuinely baffled, in disbelief.

        I literally have never seen a 55 yo woman in as good of shape as she is, she’s in better shape than most women I’ve known who actually are in the age bracket I thought she was in.

        • velma@sh.itjust.works
          6·
          9 天前

          I literally have never seen a 55 yo woman in as good of shape as she is, she’s in better shape than most women I’ve known who actually are in the age bracket I thought she was in.

          Sigh.

          • sp3ctr4l@lemmy.dbzer0.comEnglish
            11·
            9 天前

            ???

            Is… is this a problem for you, in some way?

            That I have a body type preference, on a website explicitly designed for people to seek out specific consensual sexual experiences?

            • velma@sh.itjust.works
              6·
              9 天前

              You’ve literally never seen a 55 year old woman in shape? I don’t believe you.

              Look up a list of celebrity women who are currently 55 years old.

              This idea that women are decrepit and ugly and old at 55 is asinine.

              Edit: Y’all really going to believe that women like Salma Hayek and Cate Blanchett don’t exist?

              • sp3ctr4l@lemmy.dbzer0.comEnglish
                11·
                9 天前

                Not in person, not in real life, not ‘in my local area and looking to mingle’, no.

                I don’t regularly… go to gyms where 55 yo women are, and … I think all of my intimate partners have been within a max of +/- 3 years of my own age.

                I’m not trying to nor did I say that all older women are decrepit and ugly.

                I’m saying that generally speaking, women (as well as men), kinda tend to let themselves go a bit, as they get older… and honestly there is nothing wrong with that, that is completely normal. Getting old hurts, it makes staying in shape hard… it would be ridiculous to have basically the same general physique expectations for both a 30 yo and a 55 yo woman, or man.

                What is very not normal is to actually encounter a 55 yo women in approximately similar physique condition as ~55 yo Selma Hayek or Cate Blanchette.

                It is so not normal to me, that I literally didn’t believe it.

                The internet and celebrities != real life.

                • velma@sh.itjust.works
                  3·
                  9 天前

                  55 years old isn’t really that old though.

                  You don’t notice women in their 50s in your day to day life at all? They’re all fat or otherwise disabled?

                  Like no, this is still mind blowing to me that a single 55 year old woman in shape left you “genuinely baffled and in disbelief”

              • MinnesotaGoddam@lemmy.worldEnglish
                8·
                9 天前

                honestly it’s more disingenuous and sexist to pretend that every 55 year old woman looks like Salma Hayek and Cate Blanchett, velma

                • velma@sh.itjust.works
                  2·
                  9 天前

                  The other thing at play here is that … I was genuinely baffled, in disbelief.

                  I literally have never seen a 55 yo woman in as good of shape as she is, she’s in better shape than most women I’ve known who actually are in the age bracket I thought she was in.

                  I’m responding to the assertion that a 55 year old woman in shape is enough to leave someone baffled and in disbelief because they’ve literally never seen a 55yo woman in as good of shape

                  I’m not saying every 55yo woman looks like Salma Hayek, but by existing they are disproving this original comment.

              • UnderpantsWeevil@lemmy.worldEnglish
                6·
                9 天前

                It’s funny, because you can just go to the gym and meet people who are both old and in shape. In fact, you’re more likely to meet people who are both old and in shape at the gym because… older people who are in shape are the ones who go to the gym in the first place.

                • 7101334@lemmy.world
                  5·
                  9 天前

                  I’m not single

                  or 55

                  but if I were single at any age, I would never approach a woman at a gym. Idk. Feels only a small step better than approaching them at work. “Captive audience” type shit, it would feel gross to me.

                • velma@sh.itjust.works
                  2·
                  9 天前

                  Exactly.

                  Literally one can go to the grocery store and find a woman who is over 50 and in shape. I would bet money.

      • UnderpantsWeevil@lemmy.worldEnglish
        4·
        9 天前

        Why would a 40 year old lie about being 55?

        So, on Tinder at least, there’s something I read about people under 40 being sorted and matched differently than people over 40. The end result being folks in higher tiers of service getting access to younger matches. But because it’s a semi-known exploit, you end up with people lying about their age to manipulate the match set.

        You also get a weird phenomenon such that you see the same list of people showing up over and over again on your feed, until you cross the dateline and suddenly they all vanish.

        • velma@sh.itjust.works
          3·
          9 天前

          Yeah I’ve heard of that. Usually it’s a person in their 20s that wants access to older people though, not 40 year olds trying to trick 55 year olds.

    • lost_faith@lemmy.ca
      9·
      9 天前

      Did you also notice how many people are from Antarctica and 99yrs old? So far as the “no face pic” I would bet she has a lot of hidden - for friends only - pics that will have her face.

      • sp3ctr4l@lemmy.dbzer0.comEnglish
        2·
        9 天前

        For whatever reason, at least in my area, no, people don’t seem to do that. I haven’t seen a one that used that kind of anonymization.

        • lost_faith@lemmy.ca
          4·
          9 天前

          It was fairly common in my area, and was a running joke. Just search Antarctica you will see a lot of people there, the people I knew were forthcoming in person it was just to stop random people messaging them

          • sp3ctr4l@lemmy.dbzer0.comEnglish
            2·
            9 天前

            Yeah, I’ve seen a fair number of people do that or similar on Steam accounts, but… yeah at least so far on fetlife, haven’t seen that.

  • TheDarkQuark@lemmy.world
    27·
    9 天前

    Yeah, I get all that. But, did you ever install a Linux ISO at 3am with a friend (or more)?! That’s better than sex!

    • sp3ctr4l@lemmy.dbzer0.comEnglish
      12·
      9 天前

      … even if it was a bit…

      It would still be a good bit.

      ‘Local unabashedly horny woman posts about sexcapades, again, more at 11.’

    • TrickDacy@lemmy.world
      11·
      10 天前

      So is this the same woman I’ve blocked twice now for awkward horny posts? Is she getting banned, or what? I don’t understand why the same person keeps coming back into my timeline even after multiple block attempts.

      • lemonhead2@lemmy.world
        14·
        9 天前

        I looked at her history. she was bullied off and deleted her account. then decided to give it another shot.

        honestly several people delete their accounts and start over every so often. no karma. so better to keep ur history clean

        • TrickDacy@lemmy.world
          7·
          9 天前

          Interesting. Every time I saw anyone complaining about her constantly posting sexual stuff, several people would come to her defense. Guess I have to keep blocking her.

          Also this is her third account I’m aware of in maybe 2 months.

            • TrickDacy@lemmy.world
              5·
              9 天前

              when she’s being horny.

              That’s her only mode as far as I can tell. Even when she’s supposedly not being horny she randomly mentions wearing a bikini. It’s not fooling anyone lol

                • MinnesotaGoddam@lemmy.worldEnglish
                  5·
                  9 天前

                  velma, every time you comment outside of womensstuff it’s to stir up some kind of gendered fight. what’s up with that?

                • TrickDacy@lemmy.world
                  2·
                  9 天前

                  And? One counter example is not going to change my mind when I previously looked at her post history and out of like 8-10 posts all but one were overtly sexual and the one that wasn’t was her “randomly” mentioning her morning activity involves a bikini. Something no one would mention like that without that purpose. Regardless I’ve blocked her again and apparently will need to keep doing so. It’s not a situation where I’m hating on women which seems to be what you’re implying. I’ve blocked other people for being similarly annoying. And it’s not worth mentioning if they don’t keep coming back. Which violet has…

      • T4V0@lemmy.pt
        8·
        10 天前

        Differents accounts my dude, the OP wants to use Lemmy without a fixed account, apparently.

      • FinjaminPoach@lemmy.world
        4·
        9 天前

        Tell me about it dude. Clearly same person, accounts all use “violet” or similar names, clearly creating repeated accounts to get around people blocking them or getting banned. So annoying. It feels like being specificaplly targetted when someone comes back right after you block them like this.

        I’m more concerned about the person pretending to be a repressed saudi arabian housewife, fetishising it. Same person or different?

  • Lushed_Lungfish@lemmy.caEnglish
    6·
    9 天前

    Would you like to?

    Or maybe we can talk about Battletech and great naval battles throughout history? Maybe trains?

    • AngryCommieKender@lemmy.world
      2·
      9 天前

      If you came to my house at 3 am, the only discussion you’d be getting is: “Zzzzzzzzzzzzz.”

      Midnight or 6am and that is a different story.