*realization at any time, but after talking.

Me, never. Thoughts come into my brain and go straight out my mouth with no regard for the consequences.

If it’s someone I am or want to be close with, then I’ve made the decision that I will likely longer want to be as close to them. I mean very small white lies which are really just being gentle, I’m OK with, but if it’s important to me, then nope. I can’t pretend to be someone I’m not anymore. It’s not worth it.

I’ve gotten a lot better with this by understanding that I don’t always need to share (or even have) an opinion on things. In fact, actively choosing not to have an opinion on the things that don’t need one is pretty healthy.

It’s so much easier to just shrug than make up a lie of any kind.

yes. life is too short to be doing things like thinking about what you’re saying :) well it’s a half truth I guess, I do think we spend way too much time lying to each other though