Women can self-loathe too. The mistake some men make is thinking they’re all the same.
Nothing more cringe than listening to either gender talk about the opposite gender as if they have solved the puzzle.
Women are not a unified organism controller by a singular hive mind? Isn’t that the job of Queen Kerrigan?
Nah, Kerrigan is the Queen Bitch of the Universe. Only controls bitches.
This sounds pretty typical to me.
They like each others looks, and start talking a bit. She realizes just how many red flags anon is raising, and starts to backpedal.
Fuck women impossible to understand amirite.
Edit: nothing is black and white, especially when it come to people. I was just pointing out one of the likely scenario that hadn’t been pointed out when I posted.
Thats not a problem with “liking someone back.” I think the post would have read along the lines of " i hate when someone isn’t who they seem to be" in your scenario.
Perhaps, that’s a good point. It is a green text though, and my bet is that the pic is unrelated.
It literally says “pic related” in the greentext itself what more do you want
I don’t really think it’s that simple.
I think it’s about that weird thing people (not women) do that makes them attracted to strangers but not friends. I find it mentioned everywhere, both online and offline.
I think that’s what anon is experiencing too.
I really don’t understand why people just lose all attraction as soon as mysteriousness is no longer a factor. And I’ve seen it happen with my own damn eyes, to me AND others.
I don’t get it.
It’s as if as soon as I become readily available to anyone, I suddenly become much more worthless and disposable too… Suddenly every other aspect of theif life takes priority and I’m number last. I guess because other things are only available conditionally whereas I’m pretty much always available? Idk.
Also if I’m not interested in someone, that someone always wants to interact. It’s as if life constantly works to spite me.
Edit: I’m so glad I didn’t get downvoted to oblivion…I feel so validated. Thanks y’all…
Getting to know people better can change your feelings about them… sometimes it makes them more attractive and sometimes less. I don’t know if anyone has found me less attractive after getting to know me but I’ve certainly had that happen with girls I’ve been attracted to.
If it’s a common experience for you it’s probably worth exploring whether or not it’s a you problem, and if so if it’s something you can and should correct. There’s no shortage of crappy, shallow people so maybe not but being introspective and honest with yourself is always good for you.
I usually need to get to know someone before they are attractive. I describe it as me being greedy, i want the full package not just one that looks nice.
I don’t think that’s greedy, I think that’s pretty normal.
I need to see how a person interacts in conversation to be attracted to them, as i am far more attracted to mannerisms and values than looks. A cute face is great, I couldn’t care much about body as long as a person is relatively healthy (this is a very broad range for me).
Strange that someone down-voted you for this.
I had to live 1/3rd of the time for 2 years with someone to realize I liked them myself, so yea, same
worth exploring whether or not it’s a you problem
idk, I am pretty weird, and not in a good “quirky” way…
Nah I was raised female and legit had friends like this some women (as with men) just never grow up. On a very tangentially related note I’ve been reflecting recently on the very primal attractiveness of a man who is visibly strong and horny enough to fuck me up but who is also visibly restraining themselves. The testosterone + self control combo is just an immediate vagina geyser.
There’s all kinds of people out there, that’s for sure. Some women (and men) do like the bulky, rough on the edges but overall caring type, but some don’t appreciate that virility and attention from a partner and prefer a more candid approach, others are almost self-destructive and inevitably go for guys that I wouldn’t give the time of day, to each their own.
My point is mostly that there’re a lot of reasons people don’t click, there’s nothing wrong with that.
How can you tell he’s horny? Is he rocking a hard on all day?
Edit: I’m cluing in this attractiveness was during sex and not just general attractiveness
Ideally
Yeah, the whole situation is too vague to read for certain, even if it really happened.
I do find it more likely that this was a “Never meet your crushes” than an “OMG wtf would they like me” just out of the blue.
Why should i never meet my crushes? Should i just chase people i feel neutral about instead? A good crush inspires me to be romantic, carefully plan dates, and even take better care of myself, which is a nice cycle cause some of those things boost my confidence anyway even if the crush doesn’t feel the same way.
It’s not literal, it’s a play on never meet your heroes. The core concept is that you project the best of your internal morals and values onto them, and then when you meet them, you find out they’re not as nice, loving, caring, or compassionate as you expected.
I guess thats where i got lost. I usually need to get to know someone a bit for a crush to develop.
Impossible challenge: write a greentext without making it about a ‘girl’
Most “greentext” is propaganda to make everyone hate each other.
And of course it turned out moot is directly linked to the Epstein class.
Which makes it all double gay and square fake
Go find some other greentexts then and post them here.
that’s not at all impossible, a lot of the time it’s really about a guy
- relax
- don’t get attached to the idea of the person, spend time and get attached to the legacy you’ve built together.
- be yourself, as quaint as that sounds. Nobody likes the stressed out “I gotta get her or Ill die” kind of vibe. Be a friend first.
- if she ghosts you then count your blessings, you probably dodged a bullet.
Think of it this way: remember that sleepover playdate that lasted two days too long? You both had enough before it was over?
Yes that thing, some people like to keep their eyes open for that kinda stuff before stepping into a relationship. And it’s a good practice. Other people have that “yes let’s go!!!” kinda thing and that clashes sometimes.
Anyway that’s what I’ve learned so far.
This is why you date, wheat from chaff and all that. The day you find someone perfect is the day you can stop looking
Or if you’re poly you can never stop looking a just enjoy dating and having fun.
I do not recommend poly for most people. It’s a lot of work, and it’s not for everyone.
Lets get these fellas one partner first before we start playing on hard mode
Not a rare thing, really. It’s a human issue, regardless of age or gender.
People can definitely get attracted to the idea of a person that lives in their heads. They fall for a fantasy, often nurturing it with daydream. That’s what a ‘crush’ is.
Reality hits when you see them as a real person with nuanced emotions, deep personal history, and a rich inner world. The reality of a person clashes with the fantasy of them.
Often that’s a good thing. People get relationship maturity that way. They grow their skills of empathy, patience, compassion. The fantasy fades for a beautiful tapestry. Even if your relationship ends, you can respect each other.
Sometimes it’s an inconvenient truth. The reality of a person isn’t what you want, and the fantasy of them withers in the face of it. You can even bitterly resent them for falling short of your daydreams, robbing you of their comfort.
As strange as it sounds, it is a blessing for it to happen so quickly. For many, it’s something they awake to in middle age. Feeling encroaching mortality, they realise that they settled in a life that was convenient, with a partner that was attainable, rather than either being truly satisfying.
So they sabotage it, flee it, resent it, or all the above. We call it the ‘mid-life crisis’.
This sucks and feels awful, but of the many ways this could’ve gone? This was actually one of the better ones.
>be anon with no relationship experience
>see girl tweet I don’t understand
>“damn those rascally foids”
>invent backstory for tweet that would validate my emotional response
Back in my day this post would be called fake and gay, not capped and spread like a venereal disease.
This is OP btw:
Who confiscated his neck? Or are they just a human walrus.
He ordered TRT on Temu, but they sent him FEV :(
Ah ha ha. Ah haha ha ha. Ah ha ha. Ah haha ha ha.
/> greentext about trying to woo a woman again
