Yeah. That reminds me of my friend.

She was embarrassed about it sometimes, but she was also at the heart of our friend group. I think those are related.

I think it sometimes, maybe often, made her feel small and vulnerable.

But she liked people quicker and better than I ever could. And she often did a better job than I could of telling people how she felt.

She was a warm person trying to fit into a cold culture.

I think she realized her own warmth was a strength, eventually.

Now I try my best to let go and feel and show love the ways she did.

Edit: To be clear - she would crush hard on someone new very quickly. Then she would share it and sometimes get ingored or hurt, or sometimes date for awhile and break-up.

But whatever happened, if they didn’t turn out to be total assholes, she chose to be an irrepressible friend toward them, afterward.

She was always self conscious about the whole cycle - but we all admired her.

We were pretty honest about that, but some people have a hard time accepting compliments.

I learned a lot about how to be a better friend, from her.

I wonder sometimes how her eventual husband (now widow) felt about her fan club of exes. I figure he must have been pretty confident - he would have had to be!

I don’t think it’s possible to ban drive-by down voters, but I wouldn’t worry about it.

The vote counts don’t mean nearly as much, here.

Places like Beehaw simply disable the downvote function, and I barely notice it’s gone, when I’m there.

I find downvotes most helpful as a warning that someone asking questions is actually arguing in bad faith. Beehaw is much more tightly moderated, and that sort of sensitive discussion just isn’t welcome there, anyway.

Which, I think is fine. The Fediverse is large and growing. We have enough room for lively discussions in some places, and an enforced chill vibe in others.

Liking or loving easily makes a person vulnerable so it feels like a weakness - but the ability (or just tendency) to do vulnerable things is actually a kind of special strength.

I had a dear friend who said similar to what your posted - how she liked anyone who showed her attention.

She said it was a weakness.

But I always saw it as a strength. I always wished - I still do - that I could learn to be more like her, in that aspect.

I’m too afraid of being hurt, so I hide or suppress my feelings by instinct.

My friend couldn’t do that, but through that she blessed everyone around her.

She always worried how it made her look - her close friends could tell how quickly she would grow affection for someone. She thought we looked down on her for it. But we admired her for it.

Sorry I’m talking in the past tense because she got really sick, and we all still miss her terribly.

But ways that she impacted my friend group live on.

I like to think we all make new friends a little easier and show affection to those new friends a little more quickly, because of her love for us.

now I like anyone that shows affection for me.

This comment reminds me of people I have found really inspiring. I hope this becomes a source of pride and joy for you, someday, if it isn’t already.

I would just ban folks who drive by with negativity in a positive space.

Lemmy is the best forums on the Internet, because of bans.

We have lots of room for diverse opinions, but losing input from someone who drops by a random space to spread negativity is no loss.

I hope that Lower Decks goes on to be as un-killable as Futurama.

Near perfect summary.

I just want to tack on that Tawny Newsome looks destined to be Trek’s next Jonathan Frakes - dipping in and out of Trek projects and leaving entertainment excellence in her wake.

(P.S. Dear Tawny and Jonathan, please don’t have done anything deeply horrible to someone while I composed this. Thanks.)

I want Miles x Bashir to be cannon so bad.

Miles x Bashir is canon. It’s just the exact details that are left to the imagination.

Gay assassin spy with daddy issues who is also an excellent tailor.

Many of these points are merely allegetions.

But one time it wasn’t Jeffery Combs.

Edit: I looked it up - it was Jeffery Combs, that time, too. Nevermind.

What happens in Quark’s holosuite stays in Quark’s holosuite, for a very reasonable privacy surcharge.

Edit: Now I’m thinking about how even an imagined obnoxious behavior by Quark is still somehow dramatically more ethical than average corporate policies in 2025…I need to go sit down.

True. But what about as an over the top art exhibit?

Oh no!

Edit: You uave brought pedanticness, rather than value to the discussion. You can do better.

Yeah. I just mention it because I’ve generally just used VNC myself; and wondered what the fuss with fancier tools was about.

But then I realized home Internet has getting worse for some folks, and so folks might be using a service to get VPN-ed together, or whatever.

Last time I set it up, i3wm basically does run “on top” or rather mixed in with componenets of other desktop environments.

Tehnically, one can run i3wm alone, but really, it wants a bunch of parts from another desktop environment to be loaded, and it’s not particularly opinionated about which ones.

If I recall correctly, picking it (a friendly i3wm meta-package) on Ubuntu gave me i3wm with a bunch of pieces of Mate pre-loaded to fill in the edges.

The previous time I set up i3wm, there was no friendly package (yes, I’m old), so I looked up the names of about a dozen Gnome services and applets, and added them to the i3wm config to launch them on i3wm start-up.

(Edit: missed an important not)

But he made up for all that by breaking the chronological prime directive, losing control of his ship to mutineers, and allowing his racism to nearly start a war with the Klingon empire.

So really, who are we to judge.

I could do the same analysis for Admiral Janeway, but I’m afraid she would shoot me, Tuvix me, or write me out of history.

I’m also a big VNC fan, but I imagine RustDesk is solving for CGNAT better? I’m not aware of anything in VNC that solves CGNAT being a PITA.

i3wm is my favorite window manager, but I find I can get a good 90% out of either Gnome or KDE Plasma, with a bit of settings fiddling.

I think I added “Metacity” plugin to Gnome, to get proper tiling. It was okay.

In KDE Plasma, I just poke the settings to maximize windows by default, and enable keyboard shifting windows into half screen increments.

It’s an annoying compromise, but it’s nice not to have all the jank that comes with tuning my i3wm setup to add basic features that KDE Plasma ships with.

Edit: And I’ll be reading along, hoping someone else has a better answer than mine!

I’ve watched Doctor Who in the wee hours of Sunday night on broadcast TV, on rented VHS tapes, animated on the BBC iPlayer, purchased as mp3s from Big Finish Audio, purchased from random providers in the early days of digital media, streamed through complicated VPNs from BBC iPlayer, and purchased or borrowed from the library on DVD.

But Disney’s shit-tier steaming (and streaming, sometimes) app for Android is what managed to kill my Doctor Who fandom.

I’ll catch up using my DVD player - which still works reliably - whenever I happen to catch a sale on the latest seasons at a used book store.

Long live Doctor Who.

And may Disney Plus rot in infamy.

Great points.

My family watches as a group all the time, and Doctor Who features prominently.

But my DVD purchases probably aren’t being accounted for in their stats.

Also, Disney almost certainly lied to the BBC about streaming popularity, to save on license fees or something.