its normal to feel that anxiety, this is a big step in your life :) try and get some sleep, do what you love to do, and stay true to yourself. you’ll be alright 💚

name ideas for various things and a last resort after hours of troubleshooting

issue is mainly that E hasnt shrunk anything yet so tucking is extremely painful rn. ive got a gaff already that helps but ita jist gonna take time till i can rock it

once i can tuck it should be okay but rn its just not viable

god i wish i could pull this off rn, still dealing with my extra hardware lol

I FOUND THE PICTURE

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please

if i could choose one thing to instantly change about myself its this, vocals are so hard to change socially and physically. it doesn’t help that my voice dropped harder than anyone else in my class :/

good luck with your training, itll be hard but i know youll pull through

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i understand. for now my focus is just getting my foot in the door and trying anything to see how my gut feels about the whole thing, from there ill make sure to keep all that in mind moving forward. thank you

i appreciate the kind words and absolutely agree with your philosophy. even if things dont work out relationship wise too, i would do anything to see her smile. as a girlfriend, wife, friend, anything that shed be considered to me as time passes and we learn about ourselves

in talking to her since and getting to know how things would work out i do question how important monogamy is to me. ive come to the point in my head of being happy with her attraction to others assuming everyone keeps good communication, and even if i dont feel that attraction am still happy to make new close irl friends. my biggest struggle is with the sexual side of things for sure, and will talk about that with her asap.

as it stands i am willing to try, and ensure my thoughts are not being locked up. if it feels completely wrong then i know where to take my leave, as vulnerable as ive been. but its an opportunity to learn about myself that i dont wanna pass up at this point. really the worst outcome is that its not for me, and that i end up with an amazing friend instead of girlfriend.

this all isnt trying to disagree with you, you make very valid points given what ive told in my post. just sharing my feelings and what info seems relevant. your input means a lot, thank you

thank you for the resources. the reason i am open to the idea of couples therapy isnt due to any issue in our relationship, shes truly the easiest person to work things out with that ive ever met. its mainly to explore how trying a poly relationship would affect us and how to navigate things, coming from someone with 0 experience in that area. more of a way to gather info than to fix a problem i guess, as its nice to talk to someone about it rather than just reading/listening

your input is very appreciated, thank you

Update: She said on our call that she will think about it, which is completely valid. I have concerns about specifics but that can be dealt with through conversations.

I was obviously raised in a monogomas culture, but never had issue with the idea of a bunch of girls loving each other. I like to think im open minded, but even with that this will challenge me in ways i am not gonna be able to predict even with all the advice in the world. I appreciate those who read my post, any additional words would be nice ❤️

thank you for the advice, thats really relationships on general for me in regards to the highlights and lowlights. i appreciate your words

thank you for the advice, a therapist is a lovely idea. ill keep your comment in mind in regards to communication and make sure were on the same page when it comes to what to say and when. I wouldn’t even consider this if we didnt already have the baseline trust in each other, so im confident that with time we can figure something out

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the only time ive used it and not hated the result was when working on an old imac g3, completely out of fourms and not knowing what to search to get my answer i decided to let the internet scraper do what it does best and it found some key combos i wouldnt have found on my own

got me further into project because of it, and ditched it from there cuz i felt dirty lol. was handy but not climate destroying mass surveillance handy