Walked my first pride parade and it was incredible. Unfortunate circumstances kept me a bit low energy and zoned out but I had a lovely time. My partner made my makeup and I got to borrow their leather jacket. For the first time I thought I looked hot (which later also lead to a giga-affirming comment from my friend who just said the same thing ❤️🙂‍↕️).

For the first time I felt like I could be me in public, just walking by as “another girl”, and it was amazing. Nobody questioned it. Nobody raised an eye. After the parade we grabbed some lunch and some kids looked at me at the restuarant. Two little girls, the boy just ignored me. Not a weird look, more that of awe of seeing someone really pretty. Afterwards we grabbed a beer and both the cashier and the guy serving us were equally surprised when they heard my voice 😂

All in all, amazing day today, so happy with everything ❤️

Brain always finds a way to say “we’re not ready for HRT” 🙃

This is legit what im afraid of. I realized ive just been dissociating my entire life and hence didnt have any reaction at all to the concept of death while my friends were having an existential crisis. I also realized if i do start to become a person when starting HRT I will most likely have to go through to that whole circus again. Unsure how much my previous conclusions will help in managing that. BUT THIS WONT STOP ME ❤️😤

It is so nice, knowing what is wrong, knowing what I enjoy and that its fine, knowing what I want and even if i dont know exactly what “label” is correct for me, it doesnt matter. The most important part is that I know where I want to end up and can work towards that ❤️

It also led me to actually be able to accept that what I am feeling is dysphoria, so you know, cant win them all. But ill just take it as a step on the journey. Id honestly rather have that as “temporary” confirmation than dissociative confusion as to what life is dull and hard. 😅

Hey I would assume we’re in the exact same position, kinda assuming we’re in the same country judging by your description. I was just very lucky regarding into the queue for the assessment. I was actually initially booked with a psychiatrist to get placed in queue for ADHD/Autism evaluation but gently posed the question on whether he knew anyone who could help me deal with gender dysphoria. Luckily they had multiple people on that clinic who had previously been working in trans healthcare and immediately booked a time (just the next week) with another psychiatrist/doctor.

The next weekend I had about a one hour meeting with her, she was amazing, basically just immediately put me in queue to the gender dysphoria team at the end of the meeting. But on top of this she went out of her way to say that she could take over all of my current in-progress evaluations, aswell as ensure we took proper values during those blood tests to ensure that “everything was fine if i started treating things on my own”. She “obviously couldnt recommend it” but also nudged me in the direction of “you seem like youve read up on alot”, “most trans people who do it are fine”, “it seems way safer to source now that historically”, and so on. Also reassured me that going DIY cannot stop you from receiving healthcare once youre get through the queue.

From all the horrors ive heard of how the gender dysphoria evaluation teams and doctors treat patients who has done DIY she really gave me the greatest reassurance a doctor could give. She just really wanted to help and I am so grateful for it ❤️

Not saying this is right for you or what you should be doing. I was just extremely lucky since i was already in the system. But we’re both in the queue now, 3 years to go. Atleast… Unless the next government fixes it. Pretty sure I wont be putting my life on hold anymore though. I managed 5 years of work after graduating uni but then i got hit with burnout and i realized i need to do something now, 3 years is crazy. I just wanted to share some positivity in our really garbage system, all of the best wishes to you ❤️

I think my brain had enough and just self-accepted out of exhaustion. It refused to shut up and just wouldnt let me focus on anything else except for constantly questioning if i was really trans, why i was feeling like i wasnt trans enough or why i was experiencing impostor syndrome. So after 3 days straight of researching, reading, pondering and furiously scribbling 10+ pages of whatever the fuck the coherency of my thoughts were i just somehow ended up in “yup, no, you are definitely trans”. And then it turned quiet. So for the first time since i came out as “possible/probably trans” to my closest friends (1,5 months ago) my head is finally quiet :)

Wowowow! That looks so flowy and comfy! Now I wanna get a pair aswell! Love the fit! ❤️ And also, black clothing my beloved 🖤

In this regard, I fucking love kids, theyre so innocent ❤️

Happy for you, girl! If its privacy you need i can only recommend Graphene OS (If you have a google pixel of course, DM me if you need any help ❤️)

Wanted to reply to this again. We’re celebrating midsummer today, no big party just a few friends over.

But couldnt be me literally jumping in front of the mirror about how good my makeup, dress and jewellry looks. 😭❤️ Damn brain got hands fr 😭❤️

Wow, thats a great way to think about it. I hadnt phrased it that way before but it makes so much sense. I have kind of gone there, thought wise, but didnt fully end up at the some place. I do know that this makes me happy and that should be all the reason i need. That is definetly some food for thoughts! Thank you ❤️

Idk why but something with the context made this click. I guess this is what my therapist tried to tell me like 5 times already 😅❤️

Hi, and thank you. I feel practically everything you’re describing. It is hard to describe it. Some days my gender identity feels super obvious, some days I question why I dont feel more terrible when it doesnt align and some days I do feel terrible when it doesnt align. I guess its alot of the “going back and forth” that makes the struggle hard for me? Like, 5/7 days a week I live in the old flesh suit since Im at work (I do just now realize that, even if I dont feel terrible every day im there, i do always long for getting home and re-dressing 😅).

Theres a huge pride parade nearby next weekend and Im determined to go out in fem clothing for the first time 😬❤️ Wish me luck, im super excited 😅❤️

Thank you, that warms my heart ❤️

Thank you so much for this comment. I do have atleast some of these thoughts but just a very hard time accepting my own answers as valid for some reason. The tone in this message is perfect and very much resonates with me, so really, thank you very much for this ❤️

Thank you! I have tried that but I feel like Im so used to being “detached” from myself that it doesnt really feel that terrible, although not right. I do know very surely that I would prefer a feminine body over a masculine one though. That is very apparent to me. I have had extremely litte or no interest at all at expressing or being perceived as masc.

Thank you for the comment. I think the “irreversible” thoughts might make this feel more like a life-or-death situation, but you are entirely right.

And you might be onto something. Ive been at the very least curious about exploring femininity for atleast 16 years. I grew up in a pretty old-fashioned small town and I dont even think I heard the term “trans” until high school. So alot of my teens was just confusion regarding why I didnt like my body and feeling ashamed for wanting to explore my feminine side. The environment was also reflected in my parents and although I felt, atleast then, that they were more well-read and reasonable than most people around there was still not communication or outwards acceptance to anything outside the “old societal norms”.

I tried to keep up the masc appearance, socially and visually, but that never felt right. The solution, which I guess was basically just to survive, was to just wear anything baggy clothes and oversized hoodies so that I didnt have to witness my body. And I guess I just got used to that? I mean. It never felt “good” to dress up but atleast it wasnt terrible. Also, since I didnt like acting masc I usually stayed away from most guys being overly masc, the football dudes acting up and playing macho was terrible so it usually ended up with me hanging out with the weird kids or the girls. Which felt way more at home.

I did have a wild experience when I got my first dress and my partner did my makeup, I think thats the first time I looked in the mirror and thought that I, me, not my clothes but actually my face, looked beautiful. So yeah, might just be used to the lows as you say? That also adds up since i have now noticed the “bad” days where I only see my old features in the mirror and that is a very noticable shift to the bad vibes.

One where I see through my own mask while at the office.

I’ll third it. A friend of my uses “dude”, ofc no ill intent, says it to everyone and really does mean it in a gender neutral way. I never expected to have such a gripe with it but it really fucks with your head

Also, if anyone has any information on the private health care and if they can speed things up in any way id be very thankful. I thought they couldnt do anything in this situation but reading through the other comments it seems like they might?

Hi, fellow swede here going through the same process, luckily i had another therapist who could refer me to the right person. However, heres the general outline of what you need.

You need a “remiss” from your health center to a special therapist that can determine whether they should actually send another “remiss” for a gender dysphoria evaluation. Not every therapist is allowed to send that apparently. Gender dysphoria is a required diagnosis to actually get help and only a limited amount of teams can actually do that evaluation.

You can always change your health centre on 1177 if they refuse to send the initial one but that might include more wait time before you can actually get in contact with them. Also, do remember, the current government has ruined the waiting queues for health care in general but trans care is especially fucked, worst case ive read is 6 years before an evaluation and then you havent even started or planned any treatment yet.

We do have “vårdgaranti”, dont forget that, which means if youre in queue for over 6 months you can ask any other clinic on the country that is allowed to do the evaluation to take you in, cutting the queue times if youre able to travel. I dont know how this affects costs though, you might have to pay for the visit then.

I wish you all the best of luck friend! Hopefully we can both get the help we need ❤️