Actually, my own community is really nice and healthy. It takes a lot to get kicked out but people can choose not to hang out with people. Idiot.
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I’m not particularly experienced in online moderation, especially in managing serious issues in those spaces, so I would have to ask a friend about it, though I think the space she manages has different rules to her own views from what she has said. I doubt that the same issues that I am talking about occur as frequently though. The internet is much more anonymous and its full of trolls. I actually think its much harder to cultivate a culture online. I don’t really think that anyone is actively changing their mind through anonymous online discussion. The idea of that being a thing was part of an astroturfing campaign to normalise shitty views.
IRL, I work with others from all over the left and I tend to be someone who is responsible for the emotional labour of accountability. You can’t physically completely ban people from a scene without convincing as many people as possible not to hang out with them. You can ban them from chats easily enough, but people will cause a stink if you don’t “use proper channels” and the worst predators will still show up to events anyway. Most of the time garden variety bigotry doesn’t become enough of an issue to do that. Usually that only becomes an issue when someone starts hounding marginalised people and/or attending far-right events. People will often confront each other over bigotry before whisper networks develop but imo gossip is a really healthy way of keeping check.
What I mean is that prioritizing reducing infighting means that people within a community aren’t familiar with raising issues, which means speaking out isn’t normalized. It replicates the patriarchy on a smaller scale.
Leftist infighting is often people being bigots, predators, or defenders. The right will not be held to account with conversations and discussion but the left will - though you should listen to survivor’s warnings if they say someone has been dodging accountability for years and that they aren’t worth the effort.
As an organiser, a large chunk of my work is ensuring that certain predators, bigots and defenders don’t worm back in without changing anything. It means that survivors are safer to take part and that there is further freedom to speak up.
Prioritizing avoiding infighting to keep the peace is cop shit and is useful for predators, bigots and defenders to bide time. It also allows for a culture where those unaffected by those issues gain power.
I think that is the experience for anyone who doesn’t present as a gender conforming man who is conventionally attractive though usually when men do it towards me as a very femme presenting woman, it comes with some awful behaviour.
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 Asklemmy@lemmy.ml•What's a service you’ve been using forever that hasn’t enshitified?
1·7 days agoalternatively you could use your imagination. get used to it without porn and you’ll have better sex too.
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 No Stupid Questions@lemmy.world•Did it really used to be common for guys to go to a bar every night like in Cheers or The Simpsons?
3·8 days agome and my friends used to be regulars in a shitty pub where there was a group of older people who would be in there all day every day.
he was probably double my age but it didn’t stop him coming over to our table and pestering me and some of the other women.
we didn’t go in too frequently but the staff recognised us as regulars. we had to stop because some nasty people would come in on a specific day and one of our group wqs afraid of running into them.
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 Showerthoughts@lemmy.world•The people who protest against the Palestinian Genocide would be the same people who protested against the Holocaust.
2·8 days agoI completely agree. anti-Deutsch have be3j internationally condemned
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 Wordpress@sh.itjust.works•Automattic files counterclaims against WP Engine in WordPress lawsuit, alleging trademark misuse
2·9 days agoit would be nice for the court to give wp engine the trademark as compo for all this fucking about
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 Showerthoughts@lemmy.world•The people who protest against the Palestinian Genocide would be the same people who protested against the Holocaust.
3·9 days agoits a bit more complex, sadly. german antifascist groups have been leaning towards being very zionist
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 Linux@lemmy.world•Decided to try out Bazzite on my desktop PC - Distrobox feels like magicEnglish
5·9 days agoit does need activating and it installs an evaluation copy by default. no idea what the poster above is on about.
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 196•born to be a silly little guy, forced to engage in Tactical FrivruleityEnglish
4·9 days agoat protests people need to move as groups and frequently engage in dearrests. the inflatable suits put people at risk because it means that others have to hang back with them to keep an eye on their 6.
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 Asklemmy@lemmy.ml•men of lemmy, if you've ever taken estrogen, what was it like?
2·21 days agoYeah. I mean, it demonstrates that the wrong hormones do that ig
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 news@lemmings.world•Israeli couple who became symbol of Oct. 7 tragedy are reunited with a kiss for the ages — two years after being torn apartEnglish
5·22 days agoThe article doesn’t mention that Noa Argamani also served in the Israeli Navy therefore is not an innocent hostage like they are making out.
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 Asklemmy@lemmy.ml•men of lemmy, if you've ever taken estrogen, what was it like?
1·22 days agoI know its on Reddit and he is a bit of a crank but Dr Will Powers tried to do an “unofficial” study into it. His account is probably worth a read.
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 Anarchism and Social Ecology@slrpnk.net•No Kings, No Masters: A Call for Anti-Authoritarian Blocs at the October 18 “No Kings” Demonstrations
10·22 days agoReminder not to sign up to these demos and just rock up. They are likely to be a bit of a joke but it might be a good spot to find an affinity group who you can organize stuff thats halfway decent with in future.
Expect cops to be pushy and violent so make sure you are mobile which means to just wear dark clothing and a mask rather than an inflatable unicorn etc. like the libs have been doing lately.
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 Technology@lemmy.world•One iPhone led police to gang who sent 40,000 snatched phones to ChinaEnglish
12·27 days agoNah our cops are also absolutely awful racists who never actually do any good too.
I have been using a fairphone for about 2 years and its great. I drop my phone a lot and I’ve still not broke the screen, even though it deffo needs a case. I like carrying around spare batteries, even though you can’t do that on the fp6 apparently. The camera sucks worse than phones that some of my friends have that were 1/3 of the price.
With meth, it is frustrating that people don’t warn about the right things.
ADHD meds are made ineffective after they are used except from side effects, when people with ADHD have higher risk factor towards taking it due to impulsive behaviour.
It costs more than other drugs and is more addictive so dealers will chase up if people want it again, which they tend not to do for other things.
This meme is dead. I hate AI as much as the next girlypop but this shit isn’t it because racists have been using it as a shield.








Reflect on why I called you an idiot and OP got a proper response. Idiot.