We are a women’s only community, so please no male comments.

Edit: thanks all for reporting the hostile remarks! You really are an amazing group of people. Really appreciate how positive so many men have been as well. I see you all and value you ❤️

  • Rose Thorne(She/Her)@lemmy.zip
    115·
    8 months ago

    “White men”(sexist and/or racist old dicksack) need to “walk on eggshells”(can no longer say racist and/or sexist thing in a corporate environment).

    I hate that I remember how to speak Fox News.

  • rizzothesmall@sh.itjust.works
    92·
    8 months ago

    Only bigots are afraid to “speak freely” at work. I speak freely all the time, and at work, you just have to not be marginalising or belittling or degrading someone else while doing it.

    • Lady Butterfly she/her@reddthat.comOP
      22·
      8 months ago

      I think this is an excellent point. Any reasonable person will accept a challenge if they unknowingly say or do anything inappropriate. Which they’re unlikely to do

    • Tar_Alcaran@sh.itjust.works
      19·
      8 months ago

      To paraphrase a quote I really like:

      “I say all the vile, racist and sexist shit I want to say, which is none. How much do you want to say?”

  • klemptor@startrek.website
    62·
    8 months ago

    Jesus christ. I saw a thread in some other community the other day about Women’s Stuff and the men wah-wah-wahing like little babies about this sub were ridiculous. Same thing - in that thread some man was saying that when he replied to threads here he felt like he had to walk on eggshells.

    You guys, all we want is one tiny corner of lemmy to ourselves. Somewhere we can talk about things that uniquely affect us -or- perhaps they affect men too but they affect us in a unique way due to our gender. And many men are cool with this concept and generally supportive (and a sincere thank you to those guys!) but a significant number are butthurt little babies about being unwanted here.

    Those are the same butthurt little babies in the Fox News poll. If you can’t keep it civil in the workplace I don’t know what to tell you other than you’re a low-quality human. Have some fucking empathy.

    Edit: here’s the post I was talking about.

    • Lumelore (She/her)English
      47·
      8 months ago

      I looked at that thread earlier and there were so many disgusting comments in there. It reminds me of why I left reddit a few years ago. The API changes and discussion of alternate places led me here, but I left primarily because of all the rampant misogyny, transphobia, racism, etc and the mods and admins who refused to do anything about it.

      I really enjoy Blåhaj and the mods and admins here who actually care about kicking out bigots.

      Also feel like this is very relevant here: comic strip

    • LadyButterfly she/her@piefed.blahaj.zoneMEnglish
      23·
      8 months ago

      Yep! They have the whole rest of lemmy to hang out in we’re literally ONE group. I saw the thread but I was heartened to see how many men were standing up for is, plus a man warned me about the thread so we could protect ourselves. There were so many men there moaning that they couldn’t come here and tell us we were wrong.

    • ZDL@lazysoci.al
      23·
      8 months ago

      99.44% of Lemmy is dominated by men.

      One group out of thousand (maybe even tens of thousands by now!) asks men not to post.

      The more emotional gender melts down.

      It’s the circle of life.

    • Cryptagionismisogynist@lemmy.worldEnglish
      8·
      8 months ago

      Love this, these men on Lemmy need some feminism 101 and some training. This is good for them and will improve the Lemmy community overall. (Which is why the misogynists are mad about it)

    • volvoxvsmarla@sopuli.xyzBanned
      2·
      8 months ago

      Unfortunately the link doesn’t work, could you tell me the name of the community? I’ve recently started using Reddit again because I lacked female content so much, knowing that such a community exists is amazing and I want to join

      • Hildegarde
        8·
        8 months ago

        I would guess the link was to a post on the lemmyshitpost community on lemmyworld. There was a meme that mentioned this community and is now gone.

        It was a meme about writing a “banger” comment and then deleting it to respect the women’s only rule. Discussion did what you would expect.

        This community here at womensstuff is a women’s only place that is quite nice.

      • Homosexual sapiens
        4·
        8 months ago

        This is the community. The link is to another thread elsewhere where they were complaining about this community

    • seejur@lemmy.worldEnglish
      18·
      8 months ago

      Tbh white women are equally as capable of saying racists shit, and work or not

      • foxglove (she/her)@lazysoci.alMEnglish
        1·
        7 months ago

        thanks for your comment, but this community is women-only and has a rule that only women are permitted to comment or post, so please don’t comment again. Thanks for understanding! 🧡

  • bacon_pdp@lemmy.worldBanned
    43·
    8 months ago

    So they think me demanding that they stop talking about my body in sexual terms is walking on eggshells. Entitled fucks.

    This sort of shit is why when my husband offered, I went with stay at home housewife. The pay might be only in love and caring but at least no one feels entitled to my emotional labor or my physical labor or my mind or my body or my sexuality.

  • Waldelfe@feddit.org
    38·
    8 months ago

    This reminds me of a former colleague. He’d always complain that he can’t say anything at work anymore and humor is forbidden. Examples were: Our suppliers don’t issue bikini model calenders anymore, even though that was some harmless fun! Also hanging up bikini model calenders is not allowed anymore! It was just some harmless fun. And back then female colleagues didn’t complain when you told them to make coffee for you. They are so uncooperative and easily offended nowadays!

    • nickiwest@lemmy.world
      28·
      8 months ago

      “You can’t even tell a coworker that you think she’s cute any more!”

      My brother in Christ, the new intern doesn’t need comments on her looks from someone who is (1) higher than she is on the org chart and (2) older than her actual father. Just stop.

      If you wouldn’t say it to a male coworker, don’t say it to any coworker. It’s not that hard.

      • krawutzikaputzi@slrpnk.net
        11·
        8 months ago

        Yes and then I get told from other people (even my boyfriend) that’s just nice of them. Fuck it I don’t want to hear from some old, higher up that I look good. Had to kneel down to do something at work and that guy said: oh so nice to have a woman kneeling in front of me. Yeah and then I’m paranoid and a snowflake. Just some innocent comment on my look for sure.

  • mad_lentil@lemmy.caEnglish
    33·
    8 months ago

    walking on eggshells

    Translation: considering who you’re speaking to when you speak to them.

    Even 8 year olds know that you should think before speaking.

    • LadyButterfly she/her@piefed.blahaj.zoneMEnglish
      18·
      8 months ago

      That’s excellently put. Many times I’ve had to be careful not to say anything feminist/inclusive around certain white men cos it’s professionally or even physically dangerous

  • Nikola Tesla's Pigeon@lemmy.world
    25·
    8 months ago

    If you’re a white man who feels like they have to walk on eggshells at work because of that white male identity, you’re pretty fragile. I’d hate to see you have to navigate the same social norms that non white males have to. You’d fucking crumble.

    • Tar_Alcaran@sh.itjust.works
      5·
      8 months ago

      The problem is that whenever they reveal that they’re terrible people, others treat them like they’re terrible people.

      If they weren’t older straight cjs white males, the odd of them being fucking terrible would probably be a lot lower, because it’s very hard to turn into an absolutely terrible person without a solid dose of privilege for a few decades.

  • Someonelol@lemmy.dbzer0.comEnglish
    25·
    8 months ago

    White men around my job site freely walk around with MAGA hats. The only eggshells I see are beneath those who would talk to them.

  • vzqq
    18·
    8 months ago

    I hope they cut up their feet real bad.

      • vzqq
        17·
        8 months ago

        I’m sure you can dedogwhistle the post without me holding your hand.

        • ZDL@lazysoci.al
          1·
          8 months ago

          Or you can speak plainly in an international forum who may well have people who don’t share your culture and thus don’t share your particular slang, you cubit.

          • vzqq
            1·
            8 months ago

            I’m not from anywhere you’d recognize. English is my third language. Don’t assume.

            Also, we make our own culture here.

            • ZDL@lazysoci.al
              1·
              8 months ago

              “Don’t assume” says the person who assumed I wouldn’t know a place you came from.

              Yeah, buh-bye.

  • EsmereldaFritzmonster@lemmings.world
    18·
    8 months ago

    Every time I start to feel bad for these men, I remember every time I was either victimized or made to feel uncomfortable on purpose and I no longer feel bad about it. I think there is an aspect of me that is able to sympathize, but a bigger part is fucking bitter and wants to see them get a taste of their own medicine.

    • Elkot@lemmy.worldBanned from community
      8·
      8 months ago

      You do realise not every man hurt you right? We have feelings too you know, attitudes like this is exactly why suicide in men is so high at the moment

      • Hildegarde
        17·
        8 months ago

        oh is it my turn now?

        ahem…

        please read the rules. Women’s only community.

        Sorry about how you’re feeling, I do sympathize, but please share it elsewhere.

        • Elkot@lemmy.worldBanned from community
          5·
          8 months ago

          I don’t care if it’s a women’s only community, the double standards is disgusting, how do you think it would go down if I went online and posted that I hate all women and want them to suffer because I had a couple of bad experiences

          • Dentzy@sh.itjust.works
            17·
            8 months ago

            I will break the rules too just to reply to you. She does not use the word “hate” even once AND she starts avoiding generalizing by saying “these men”… and here you are taking it personally, so I can just assume that you are one of “these men”, further proved by how you come to a women’s only space and then disregard their feelings/needs, thank you for proving their point.

          • ZDL@lazysoci.al
            16·
            8 months ago

            Of course you don’t care. You’re a man! You simply must be heard. Especially when your precious fee-fees are hurt. We all know, after all, how fragile and emotional men are, what with all the hormones coursing through their bodies turning them into unreasoning, quivering piles of fraught emotion!

          • EsmereldaFritzmonster@lemmings.world
            7·
            8 months ago

            Suffer how? Suffer from the consequences of our own actions? Fine! Let every person on earth answer for their crimes against others.

            Women have been walking on eggshells among other horrors for 99.9% of recorded history for no reason, but we haven’t had the privilege until very recently to call it out. Men have to suffer consequences by witnessing the harm of their own actions for .00000001% of history and expect everyone else to weep for them. Either take some responsibility or shut the fuck up and let us have our fucking MOMENT of justice.

      • EsmereldaFritzmonster@lemmings.world
        6·
        8 months ago

        Maybe every man needs a good reminder why hurting others is wrong. If some don’t hurt people they have nothing to worry about. Maybe those who are so resistant to seeing positive change have heavy burdens they are carrying and should look inward instead of outward.

      • aminoBanned from community
        1·
        7 months ago

        too bad, raise those numbers more with your whining

  • jsomae@lemmy.ml
    17·
    8 months ago

    Note to the men reading this, you can upvote comments you agree with freely.

    Remember, the comment section on every internet post about feminism only goes to show, um, how provocative this kind of rhetoric is.