So put him in some stressful test situation to satisfy your curiousity?
Hey lord, thanks for popping in! We’re a trans inclusive women’s only group, and ask men not to comment. Please see the rules at the top for more info ❤️
Nowhere is it stated that it is a lie. Why do you assume that?
Guilty conscience, usually.
Could this be true for everyone? Although, admittedly, women probably have had more opportunity to develop this skill over the course of their life.
True, I think most people are quick to defend themselves, even if they do understand and acknowledge how they hurt someone. Can be frustrating but I hear out people’s defensive points as long as they can work on ways to reduce hurt in the future. But I, being a man, rarely bring up things that may have hurt me. My feelings can duke it out in the bottle! (unless it’s a big deal)
Hey Pothetato (cool name) thanks for giving us your lived experience! We are women only so please don’t comment again and have a nice Sunday 🥰
Another man chiming in here, we see posts from this community on our “all” feed frequently. Many of us don’t assume communities have gender restrictions. Would it be possible to get that rule included in posts text so we know about it when dropping in from all?
Thanks fire, we tried that before but we found it was a red rag to a bull with the incel types. They attacked us far more overall. And we are women only so please dont comment again 🥰
But … but … but … he’s a MAN! Obviously he thought of something none of the mentally deficient women who post here have thought of and possibly even TRIED! It was IMPORTANT that he break the rules to tell us how to do things the Right Way™!
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Wow. Your comments and personality do nothing to help your cause.
And another man who thinks his (trite, oft-repeated, boring) thoughts are so important he has to break rules to express them.
Yep. These men are real heroes.
PieFed has a feature that pops up telling people it’s a women’s only community before they reply, so any PieFed users see it. It would be wonderful if Lemmy supported the feature, but as of yet, it does not
You hurt me
It’s absolutely true for everyone. Some more than others.
unrelated, but the angle of the light creates so much dimension to the writing, it looks like the pen was pressed deep into the paper and it’s so satisfying and distracting, omg
This is framing what should be normal communication for everyone as a test for for men.
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Stop it get some helpI fear I must be simple after having read this, thought on it for more than a day, carefully considered how it relates to me… and after all that time I must admit that I do not understand it. Is to know a man to be hurt by him? Is it that common? I feel as though I’m completely missing a part something that others seem to have.
I think the idea is that an emotionally mature man would be able to recognize how he hurt you, or at least be able to respond to that question with a certain level of maturity and reasonableness even if he is not aware how he hurt you.
Meanwhile, the implication is that an emotionally immature man is likely to blow up at you or otherwise react poorly when asked to explain how he hurt you.
To know a person is to be hurt by them because no one is perfect.
The point isn’t the hurt, the point is the way they react to talking about it, and whether they’re even willing to acknowledge it.
I strongly disagree with the assumption that every person you know, has hurt you in some way.
I know several people who have never caused me any harm. Whether I am/was in a relationship with them or not. And I can pretty much guarantee they feel the same way.
I’ve had relationships that fizzled out so thoroughly that both of us kind of forgot we were in a relationship at all and months later we caught up with eachother and we both liked at eachother and said, well, I guess we’re not a couple anymore… We stayed friends. Nobody got hurt.
Idk. There are ways to behave and act that prevent these kinds of things. Having high quality people in your life helps.
Don’t get me wrong, I know I’m incredibly fortunate to be in the position I’m in and not everyone can say the same. But the idea that it is impossible to know someone without being hurt by them, to me, is not the case. However unlikely, it is possible.
