I’m new as in this is my first day using lemmy. I don’t know anything about lemmy etiquette and don’t want to do anything bad

thanks and have an amazing day! also plz be kind :D

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    One thing to note is more often people here reply with genuine comments and in good faith. There is also a lack of clever snarky comments and baiting due to the lack of karma system.

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        Karma on reddit tracks the accumulated likes and dislikes a user has gotten on all of their posts. Lemmy does not have a number like that.

        Edit: What this means in practice is that on Reddit there are some users who make a lot of low-effort posts to get that karma number to go up and get a sense of accomplishment from that (even when they get a negative reputation among the other users), whereas on Lemmy that’s not really a thing. Lemmy has power-users that become well-known, but they’re more well-liked because they aim to gain actual reputation instead of just farming a karma number.

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      No they don’t. You’re lying and you know you’re lying. You’re just trying to suck up to the thread so you can get more karma. No one at Lemmy does that.

      “lOok aT Me, i kNoW leMmY eTiQueTte. More oFteN PeoPle heRe rEply wiTH gEnuIne ComMenTs aNd In gOOd fAiTh.” You’re so full of it. Watch this, my comment will recieve more upvotes than you

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      This was the first thing that threw me off: people here tend to comment in good faith. I’m so used to people begging the question and generally having iron clad closed minds…from Reddit.

      …but here conservations have often come to conclusion where I and another user agree to disagree amicably, or one of us moves towards the other in light of new information or a logical argument.

      it’s really weird…but I hope it stays like that so I can get used to it.

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      I mean, yes and no. Most of the userbase is that way. But there are some users (and instances) that tend to be massive pains in the ass. So build and curate your blocklist too.

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      Don’t forget GrapheneOS and Jellyfin! Anything else you can think of? It’ll be a lot easier if they can convert everything in one go.

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        I plan on using mint for a while to adjust, and as a daily, and trying to install arch for the 546782376th time (I haven’t tried to install yet) when I’m bored

        Mint’s good for my purposes

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      Working on it lol.

      Dad doesn’t want to switch to linux, because “his files” or something (libreoffice and ddg??? he uses ddg on some devices already and libreoffice is like free ms365) so if I get Frankenstein the Floor Computer running, yes, I will linux (I plan on dual booting mint/arch, but not being toxic about it)

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    Take advice from Detective Frank Drebin

    “Like a blindman at an orgy, I was going to have to feel my way through”

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        “I’m sure we can handle this situation maturely, just like the responsible adults that we are. Isn’t that right, Mr. Poopy Pants?”

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      Fair, I just like to check these things so I don’t offend anyone or do anything mean. Thanks. Have a great day!

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        I was making light of your question … partly to have a bit of fun … and partly to show that the community enjoys sharing these silly little bits of movie quotes that act like memes. The one I was using is from the movie “The Naked Gun” (the original film from 1988 with Leslie Nielson)

        A lot of the meme communities enjoy old slapstick movie content as there is a lot of memeable content there … films like ‘The Naked Gun’ series, Hot Shots, any of the Mel Brooks films and Monty Python.

        Don’t be afraid to test your boundaries, comment as you like but with an open mind and kind heart … people will let you know if you’ve said or implied anything negative or positive. Don’t be discouraged if you get no response either … it’s not a popularity contest. The longer you stay, the more you comment, the more you get to know people and the more they get to know you and eventually you become a regular part of the community.

        Welcome to Lemmy and welcome to the fediverse.

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          Thanks, and I’ve seen Monty Python and the holy grail and flying circus! Very silly and memeable lol. Have a great day!

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    Please do not drag the same tired jokes over from reddit (e.g. broken arms). Stick around long enough to learn Lemmy’s tired jokes.

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    It’s smaller, but more personable. It’s full of neurodivergent, queer, and tech oriented people. It has its own inside jokes—you will want to read up on beans.

    Overall, I have enjoyed the experience. Sometimes, I have been surprised when people can’t detect obvious jokes or sarcasm, but then I remember how many people here are neurodivergent and try to reply with something kind and straightforward so we’re on the same page.

    People tend to be very leftist compared to the rest of the internet, so it’s good to remember that the opinions here are not always representative of the world at large.

    A huge chunk of Lemmy is German, and that part of the community remains a total mystery to me because I don’t speak German. They seem cool from afar.

    Which communities you are able to see depends pretty heavily on which instance is your home base—I’m with DB0, and we federate with pretty much everyone who isn’t doing something detestably illegal, but LemmyWorld is much more exclusive with who they federate with, so their users don’t see the same instances that I do. Pick a home instance that fits you best because it will matter a lot as you find communities.

    You will see interactions between communists and anarchists. Try to remember that you don’t have to comment on everything you might disagree with.

    Welcome to the Fediverse—we’re happy to have you.

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      Speaking of federation, do you know if there is a site that compares federation from instances. It would be nice to make a good decision before creating an account. Like I am on lemmy.ca and have no idea what you may see that i don’t. Personally I feel like lemmy.ca is good but have no comparison point other than lemmy.world I used a little.

      And for OP if you browse on mobile I tried a lot of apps and settled on “Summit”. It’s great and stable.

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        There used to be this website, but the url just loads up a scam site now (I’ve created this issue on the project’s tracker if anyone has additional info to contribute).

        I don’t know how technical you are, @VieuxQueb@lemmy.ca , but you could try running the “defed-investigator” project locally.

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      Thanks, have a great day! :D

      I have more excuses to learn German piling up lol (I have a German friend… 2 actually, and also this platform. I wanna learn something that seems interesting to me)

      Also I have diverged neurons (joke, I mean I’m nd) I’m AuDHD.

      Please don’t treat too different just because I’m nd yall (I’ve had bad experiences with ableism, long story)

      Anyways thanks again :D

      Wait a minute… I’ve seen you before… forgot where on here though.

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        I get around, lol. I’ve been on Lemmy for quite a while now.

        My girlfriend is also on the spectrum, so I try to handle neurodivergent misunderstandings here the same way I do with her: cunnilingus, uh, I mean, a clearly worded rephrasing of my statement.

        Glad you found us, it sounds like you’ll fit in well here.

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    Each Lemmy instance has its own rules, and each community as well. Please read them before posting, because rule #3 for this community is:

    1. Not regarding using or support for Lemmy: context, see the list of support communities and tools for finding communities below
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    Don’t do shit like “lemmy etiquette”. Just follow human etiquette and be a pleasant human and everything will be fine.

    Also stop worrying so much about “doing anything bad”. Sometimes you fuck up, sometimes you upset people, it’s no big deal. You’re good.

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      I’m a pleasant human but find myself often downvoted for what I consider an average social democratic view; taking the viewpoint that, in my country, cops are generally trustworthy, the market works when regulated by a well functioning democracy and it’s ok to be wealthy, but expect to be properly taxed.

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        cops are generally trustworthy

        Oh man, you must not deal with cops a lot.

        the market works when regulated by a well functioning democracy

        I see you believe in fairytales

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          Or I live in a country with better cops than you?

          In terms of delivering the highest proven outcomes for the broadest amount of people I’ve not seen evidence that anything beats a well regulated market. If new evidence is presented I shall gladly revise my opinion.

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        You really need to stop saying “average” when you mean “well off, white, westerner”.

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          Where I live, well off (seen in global scale), white, westerner is the average. Would you prefer me to represent an opinion that doesn’t reflect what I observe in my surroundings?

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            I’d prefer you remember that your double doesn’t define objective “normal”

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        i am sorry for being insulting but claiming the cops in the UK are generally trustworthy is delusional and just insulting to a LOT of people.

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      I have a really intense fear of getting in trouble and making people mad, due to stuff that’s happened at school.

      I never expected a comment to be so hard to write. Have a great day, thanks.

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        I was heavily bullied at school, so I understand. Have fun undoing the damage others caused you :D it’s an adventure.

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    Don’t be a jerk and you will be fine.

    We are all mostly human here. Just remember that. Hope you have a great time on the fediverse!

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    Each instance has its own vibe. You joined .ml, just a fair warning that a few instances and a chunk of Lemmy users have defederated/blocked it, so you may miss out on some content. Otherwise, pretty chill for the most part.

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    Because lemmy is much smaller, you tend to rub into the same users more often. So if someone comes off as abrasive, blocking them can have a notable impact on your experience.

    Dogpiling is worse, and it can pay to know what instance the community you’re posting in is, as the games community on hexbear is going to be different than on world.

    It’s much more “left” than reddit. Notably, while this instance, lemmy.ml, is the flagship instance run by the lead dev, the “ml” stands for marxist-leninist.

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        Didn’t take long to get banned for my radical opinion that all forms of Us-vs-Them tribalism are dehumanizing.

        it’s always the pro-genocide people acting so injured on when the vile stuff they say gets a negative response

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            You are rather quick to assume I am one of the “pro-genocide people”.

            Oh, I’m not assuming.

            I try not to “both-sides”

            "I try to not both-sides this, please ignore that I just did and am about to do so again.

            I was trying (poorly) to show that the same standard was not being applied equally.

            “Don’t you mean all lives matter?”

            pretty emotional topic.

            It be an emotional topic usually makes people more sympathetic towards the victims of genocide, not more inclined to start going “but what about both sides!”

            Anyway, good luck fighting against everyone until they agree with you.

            Go back to reddit, you insufferable loser.

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      does ml actually stand for marxist-leninist? i remember using domains with .ml tld a long time ago with freenom’s $0 domains lol.

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      Alright thanks! Also I don’t know what marxist-leninist is, but it sounds like politics, so I’m gonna try a few more instances along with this but anyways have a great day! :D

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    If you follow these, you’ll be fine:

    Don’t hate on minorities
    Don’t post AI content outside of communities made for it
    Don’t insert yourself into communities where you don’t belong, eg:

    • Don’t comment “As a man, …” in WomensStuff
    • Don’t debate the validity of trans folks on Blahaj
    • Don’t criticize China in any way on lemmy.ml

    DO NOT post anything negative about Linux (unless you’re comparing it to BSD, of course)

    Sometimes it’s a bit harder not to offend than on reddit, because posts may hit your front page from an instance that was created as a safe space for a group you’re not part of, and they may react harshly to you budding in.

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    Welcome! Lemmy is like Reddit was in its infancy.

    Don’t be a jerk and you’ll be fine. :)

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    Well here if you disagree with someone do not engage just insult their beliefs and type ‘tankie’…wait you’re on .world right?

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      stop calling me racist and engage with me!

      Same energy. If you’re getting called a tankie maybe stop simping for authoritarian regimes.

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        Unless your politics are to the right of Joe Biden, you’re going to get called a tankie.

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              That doesn’t seem true though, most actual leftists don’t like tankies and the people on Lemmy complaining about tankies seem to mostly be leftists themselves. Tankies are like LaRouchites, no one takes them seriously because the things they profess tend to be silly and they usually have that obnoxious College freshman master-debater energy. It’s not a left or right thing.

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                It gets thrown around too much honestly, if it was just people simping for authoritarian regimes, sure, but it really does get tossed toward anyone “too left”.

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                The whole point is that there isn’t really any clear cut difference between “tankies” and “actual leftists” because it’s a pejorative term that each person using it defines differently based on their own personal politics. Is critical support for Vietnam tankie? Cuba? Makhnovshchina? Ukraine? The Nordic Model? The Black Panthers? You’ll never get consistent answers from people yelling about tankies.

                one takes them seriously because the things they profess tend to be silly and they usually have that obnoxious College freshman master-debater energy.

                Ironically, this better describes the people who rail against “tankies” better than it describes anyone else.

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          I’ve been here a while, but I might need some help here. Everyone left of Biden is a tankie? Am I understanding you correctly?

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            Well, ultimately tankie just means “person too far to the left of me”, so for some liberals, that does indeed mean everyone to the left of Biden

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              Are you a tankie because you are to the left of Joe biden or because you idealise the soviet union and the ccp?

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                I’ve been called a tankie for lots of reasons: criticising Elon Musk, condemning Israels genocide of the Palestinians, opposing invading Venezuela, condemning the US’s destruction of North Korea, not believing that far right American think tanks are trustworthy, calling Kamala Harris a genocide supporter, calling bullshit on the claim that Mao had one in ten Chinese citizens executed for being a western spy. Calling bullshit on the claim that Che Guevera committed genocide. Basically anything that runs counter to the average American neo-liberal’s world view.

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      I’m on .ml but I have seen people on a few instances (mainly .world) doing that.

      I also don’t really have too much interest in politics (unless it will directly affect me) so hopefully I should be good?

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    No need to show off. Don’t be a snarky asshole. Be nice to people, but be real. Don’t be afraid to be weird or answer with an autistic essay. It’s okay to dissent, just don’t be a fucking asshole about it. Realize that on Reddit, that shit is all bots and Nazi trolls and meek confirming bitches afraid to be real and tell shitty people that they’re wrong and exactly why. Welcome. Prepare to have your eyes ripped open.

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    It’s fairly strafight forward, i just try and follow these two rules.

    1. Don’t be a cunt
    2. If in doubt, refer to Rule 1.