Some people can be social lubricants too by bridging the gap between strangers or differing groups of people.
Things to say at a orgy.
Who brought the social lubricant?
When we say someone is the “life of the party” this is what we mean.
The usual perception of that phrase is that the person is wild and exciting - and they might be - but the real meaning is they get the conversation going and keep everyone engaged and interacting, and with them in the room there’s never a dull moment.
Disclaimer: smoking is a nasty habit, and it’s better to never start than to try to quit.
That being said, it’s pretty crazy how smoking cigarettes brings people together. I’m very reluctant to talk to people I don’t know, but if I go out for a smoke and I see a few other people smoking outside, they instantly became my new best friends.
TIL I’m not an introvert. I’m just healthier.
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I struggle with nictotine addiction and i know they arent great for my oral health or heart still, but as an asthmatic, the nicotine pouches like zyns have been huge for my daily health. Still trying to quit, but in te mean time, i can breath. Kind of
Smoking is seen as a communal spiritual event in most Native American cultures.
I don’t really smoke anymore, but the smoking ban in the UK (no smoking indoors from 2007) created the concept of the smoking area outside a pub/club and some of my best friendships in life ultimately started in that Petri dish
A smoking area outside anywhere in the northwest of the UK about 10-15 years ago was just peerless in calibre
Weed definitely does the opposite for me. I get inside my head and overthink what I’m about to say and eventually realize the topic has changed and do it all over again.
Alcohol makes me the most outgoing person on the planet.
I learned a while ago that there are two types of people.
Some people can think inside their own head, and hear themselves think. They aren’t “hearing voices”. They ARE the voice. So they might see some guy on the bus stand up stick his ass in an elderly womans face, and start violently shitting on her. The person seeing this might in their own head say “WHAT A FUCKING ASSHOLE!!!” but people around them would have no knowledge of him calling that guy an asshole.
Meanwhile, the other type of people are completely unable to hear themselves inside their own head. So every thought they have comes verbally out of their mouth. They still think about things, and they still do all the other things the first type of people do, except it’s all verbal. You hear their thoughts as they have them.
I’m the first type of person, but when I smoke weed two things happen.
Number 1, I become the second type of person.
And number 2, my ability to finish my thoughts, vanishes. Instead I start one train of thought, realize halfway through it’s stupid, and then switch to a completely different unrelated train of thought which makes no sense with the first half.
And all of this is happening verbally, and from my perspective in slow motion with distorted reality.
The end result is people who know me as quiet and usually pretty responsible, and smart will blurt out something like:
We should go on a boat, and buy a dinosaur to bring to the afterparty!"
Everyone just looks at me like “Now did you mean for those words to fall out of your mouth in that order? Or are you just as surprised as the rest of us?”
Oh yeah. You DEFINITELY need to come over and smoke a cone with me.
You are ADHD. That’s the most ADHD brained behavior I’ve ever heard.
Source: I am also like this.
Internal monologue ≠ thought
weed used to be a social lubricant to me, made me very savvy and perceptive almost like a super power.
then it became just this. it was great while it lasted. but i kind of want it back.
Quantity and rate both matter for both alcohol and cannabis
Yeah, I thought everyone knew that. Is not knowing that why nobody makes friends anymore?
People stopped drinking which means they stopped playing drinking games.
Beer Pong isn’t very fun sober.
Nor is Flip Cup without having to chug anything.
Yeah but while booze makes board games better they’re still fun sober. Drinking games stop being fun when you’re older even if you drink.
…you just learned this?
TIL OP just learned this
Onlqy day you could have learnt that tbh
TBH, and after reading some of the comments it seems to line up with this how Op post is “duh”, and low effort and thinking about it more makes me wonder if this is botception and that’s why it’s all ringing weird bells and bothering me? The post feels like a vague dissemination of generic information (read bot/LLM) linking a wikipedia article that reads like someone non-human smashed it together (read bot/LLM). I’ll leave what I started as a response before I arrived at this post. _-------------------------
I think this is the worst Wikipedia I’ve ever read and as a 30(?) year user that has maybe never time to criticize a wikipedia page (blatant bias or trolling aren’t worth the effort), it’s saying something.
It doesn’t list obvious things like sports or any other activity from bingo halls, board games that would probably be some of the most common activities in the world.
Their concept of the phrase seems almost like an opinion that isn’t really applied at anytjing more than an adolescent knowledge of a subject without any source material.
The one part of their writeup I (subjectively) had heard (alcohol being described as an social lubricant) was described as “negatively viewed” though that seems like a limited claim/opinion. Which feels weird and information without any synthesis.
oh I wrote a whole response to this but my instance was down so it wouldn’t send and I forgot about it
I heard the term social lubricant in tharipy and had never heard of that phenomenon having an actual word for it before and googled it, thought it was interesting so I posted to Lemmy.
also I didn’t think about it in the moment but that wikipedia article is indeed absolutely shit. I guess nobody with a special interest in the social lubrication field has come along to improve it like other pages 🤷♀️
Also, for the LLM part here’s my cat to prove I exist
diabolically radical
I still remember a girl at a party encouraging everyone to do that thing where you re-breathe the other person’s exhale. She said it was to get higher but I think it was also a social lubricant.
Obviously drinking lowers your inhibitions so it’s a social lubricant from that, but I always liked how drinking/ weed are also a helpful gauge of how long people plan to be around. Are they getting drunk? They plan to stay a while. One more beer? 20 minutes to half an hour more of socializing at least. They’ve switched to water? Not the time to suggest starting a game or to get into a deep conversation.
Except for that one guy.
Needs to drive in an hour. Already shit faced. Can’t walk. Thinks switching to beer will help…
- hide his keys
- don’t invite him back
As I say a lot: Alcohol is a social lubricant which makes for slippery floors.
This might be the smartest thing I ever didn’t think of (I probably heard it somewhere).
As a teenager, I found out that this stuff works like a charm if you aren’t the ‘cool guy’ in school. I saw the same thing in university, during smokes between classes and drinks after lectures. All the intelligent, nerdy guys became much more open and welcoming toward me.
My advice: Keep doing what you’re doing until you feel like you’re in the smarter half of the room. That’s the sign that you’re doing it too much.
Dogs make conversations easier too.
If I need lubricated to do something, I don’t want to do it.
Person says while moving the lubricated joints in his hands to type.
“If I need lubricated to do something, I don’t want to do it.”
—Someone who has never had sex, worked on a car, or had a colonoscopy
Admittedly I know too little about mechanical engines but I’m pretty sure they all need some kind of lubricant to work. /UmAckchually
Not to make assumptions, but if you’re a dude… do you not jerk it (which is fine if you don’t), or do you do it dry style?
Nothing wrong with a nice dry rub to leave your friends begging for more in their mouths. Or so Southern Living tells me.
I kinda just do hobbies
Jokes on you alcohol has always made everyone hate me
Referring to alcohol or cannabis as social lubricants has been criticized because they have negative effects on empathy.
I feel like weed does the opposite to that lol to me at least 🤷♀️
Might be referring to drugs making it harder to follow an intelligent conversation. You might have stronger reactions to certain emotions, but proper empathy requires a deep understanding of another person’s situation, which you won’t gain while your mind is booked out…
