People just adding others in pseudo-friendships, friendships that don’t really mean anything and people treating others like they’re a service or speed-dial or so. I am part of the last generation of people it feels like, where, you befriended someone with intent to build a bond with them and that bond is built upon year after year. You gain memories, then when the old memories are old, you make new ones.
I’ve noticed an alarming amount of people who’ll just add you because they only see you as someone to lean on. Not because the relationship is meaningful, but someone who is just there ‘when in need’ as they go off not doing anything for large portions of time. This creates an artificial, shallow and hollow experience where a lot of time, you will feel like you’re the one upholding the friendship.
And that only isn’t normal to me, but simply unacceptable. Then you’ve got people who can’t even go a day without communication so now they call it ‘ghosting’ which is another overly spammed word that has lost meaning. I’m low maintenance, who can go periods of time without talking but at the same time, I do also want things to be meaningful. Doesn’t have to be constant, just something within the year.
And I’ve had people in my life who simply cannot do that. I’ve had people who still consider friends after not talking for years and years. What do you mean you’re okay with that? That’s lost time! I don’t enjoy having to spend however long playing catch up.
parasocial behaviour of “public people” influencers, celebrities(especially if that person is a shithead and you still try to defend him like you are thier family) they dont know you. falls in two camps, aggressively moniter online spaces of said celebritiy, especially if they are an influencer on thier channel(attacking anyone that challenges them) and the more extreme ones( the ones that issue death threats to percieved competition).
Hpotter fans, swifties, PEWPEWdie is probably the most recent cringe, why suddenly defend him when he appeared after years of escaping critcism.
Drinking and gambling.
Fascism???
Not being able to relieve basic human needs at school without getting permission first (using the bathroom, eating, some of my teachers even had temper tantrums about drinking water during class).
large scale lying
Automobile dependency
Rape. (BTW, where are those files?) Wars. News for “one week” and then… they get “normalised” Discrimination of any sort. Live and let live!
My ex drugged and raped me and I’ve had people straight up tell me “well maybe you should have put out”
Like what the fuck is wrong with people. God forbid a woman have boundaries. I wasn’t ready for sex and my ex didn’t give a damn. Looking back, he was hella abusive and just had me charmed.
The whole thing was so traumatic that I repressed the memories for five years as a survival mechanism. Apparently some people think that I wouldn’t have CPTSD if I’d just push my own boundaries aside and let the dude fuck me. I was already doing that for the guy, but sex was a boundary I couldn’t push aside at that time…
Tipping. Pay your employees a living wage.
I agree with this one!
You know who doesn’t agree with this one? A majority of those polled that receive tips.
Edit: that isn’t to say that I disagree. Just adding context.
Because they rightly believe they won’t be paid a living wage if they didn’t have the lottery of tips.
Bringing dogs into places where dogs don’t belong. No your energetic little puppy is not a trained service animal. Even more annoying when they walk right past signs that say no animals. Obviously the rules don’t apply to their little ball of fur.
That and people using their car’s hazard lights as an “I can park here”
fake service animal vest, cant believe people actually think a small dog can be a service animal, especially a mutt and you cant confront them. theres a reason they use working line dogs. notice some ratchety people who are going to shoplift in stores will bring a dog that intimidates people like pitbulls or dobermans they are asking for trouble.
Those are the “park anywhere lights”.
I had a person park in front of my driveway, throw on hazards and disappear for an hour and their battery ended up dying. She ended up walking up to the door and asking for a jump. I declined help and somewhat politely informed her not to park in front of driveways.
Few month later it turns out my neighbor was cheating with this woman.
spicy story
Around here they use their vehicles hazard lights as a shield against… something. I see at least ten people driving down the highway a week with their hazard lights on. They are not speeding and its not legal to use them that way in this state anyway. I’m sure its some stupid social media thing.
It doesn’t sound like the case here but I will briefly turn my hazard lights on for a few blinks if there is a hazard ahead on the road. I keep moving but my intention is to warn drivers behind me that there’s shit going on down the road where they might not see it and have time to slow down.
That’s literally what they’re for.
The normality of being advertised to. It’s kind of extreme how okay we are with someone hijacking our time like that. For free. As long as it’s a corporation holding our activities hostage and not like a human being in the room with us.
And to add to this: building secret profiles of people’s online activities and trading them around and selling them to the government without a warrant
Like we should be jailing everyone in big tech, all data brokers, and most of the government.
Banning advertising would be such an improvement. The only way to make a difference would be just to make a good product.
And the savings would go to the general population, instead of the one that buys the loudest voice
The expectation to always be available and reachable. Since the inception of mobile phones, you have to be reachable at all times and people get mad you didn’t pick up.
It’s breaking people. Sometimes I message some people and they don’t respond for a couple of hours, and when they do they apologize and explain. If this keeps happening I’ll ask them if they had/have an insecure partner or toxic workplace. Then I plant this seed “buddy, an email or a text or a call is not an automatic consent to dialogue. Get back to me whenever, I don’t care. Consent applies to communication.” I don’t have any patience for other people’s insecurity if I don’t or can’t respond, and we need to give that boundary to others. Ghosting is setting a boundary. Fuck it if some baby feels ignored. That’s their problem!
Filming strangers and posting them online
Company’s selling your data.
Everyone does it, and there is basically pages of information about you that every company see.
Conventional wisdom used to be “if the service is free, you are the product”, but now even companies that charge fees are selling your data on the side. Double dipping like that should be illegal.
Invading a country in the middle east over fears of “WMD”.
Rapist POTUS
Damn that was my answer.
Thats always been normalized at least since Jefferson.
What no way, he and Sally were in love
