Toughest battles can be interpreted in many ways, all qualify.
What are the toughest battles you have fought or are fighting?
My mom died last week, way too young, of cancer. Her cancer had been on and off for years but last Christmas it started again. She got worse and 3 weeks ago she got the news that there is no more treatment. About a week, maybe less she got so confused that we couldn’t talk anymore and a week later she died.
Now instead of mourning I have to manage her estate, organize the funeral and coordinate family. All while I constantly want to ask my mom for advice.
Please accept my condolences
I lost my mother 10 years ago, too young, to cancer
Grief becomes less sharp over time
You will never stop missing her
I hope we meet them all again
Once we cross the rainbow bridge
Thank you. I don’t personally believe in an afterlife but I will always keep her alive in my memories. And I know it will get better but unfortunately it will take time. But that is what you get for loving someone.
Goddamn. I’m sorry for your loss… Stay strong, I’m sure your mom would be proud of you handling all of this.
I am sure she would. I just wish she could tell me. But that’s the wish I can’t have. Not with all the money in the world.
I’m sorry you’re going through that. My mom died over twenty years ago, when I was twelve (so I didn’t have any estate management responsibilities), and it’s sometimes difficult to deal with wanting to ask her advice or wanting to have a person whose first priority was me, irrespective of our relationship (I know not all mothers are like that, but mine was, and my much older sisters and their friends agree, so it’s not just kid-glasses. They also readily share unpleasant aspects of her personality, so it’s also not a wariness to speak ill of the dead).
It does get easier, and you learn to depend on yourself, any siblings or old friends who remember her and other supportive friends who have been through similar situations.
Thank you for sharing this. I know it will get better but right now it is a horrible, no good situation. I have family that helps me but still it get overwhelming at times.
I’m sorry for your loss. Grief is never easy, and it’s especially more difficult when you have the responsibility of managing your loved ones’ estate.
My mom lost her mom a few months ago. She was the executor of her estate too, and she also lamented that she never got the time or space to mourn. My relationship with my grandmother was complicated, for me the hardest part was knowing that I’ll be doing the same for my mom someday, probably sooner than I’d like.
I tried to help her through it, but she wouldn’t really let me. I think she felt that cutting through all the red tape and working through family stuff gave her something to keep her occupied, although it was clear that it wasn’t easy. She’s finally starting to make the time to mourn now, and I know that someday you’ll get a chance to too.
Anyway, I’m not much of a mom, but if you need help, advice, or someone to send you a hug, I’m here for you
Thank you for your kind words. I am not alone in this but some responsibilities are just my own. That is stressful and frustrating. I know it will get better but right now it’s not good at all. It’s all wrong.
Thank you for your kind offer for support. Unfortunately I don’t know what I need at this time. I am glad though that I am not in short supply of hugs and support. I am only struggling to find out how to utilize the help.
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Super interesting. I never saw people in your sitatuion posting about it on social media until I got to lemmy. Hoping for the best for you
My mother was much younger than my father. How are you going so far? Please, only answer if comfortable of course. No expectation.
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I have inoperable brain cancer, so there’s that. Sometimes pretty inconvenient.
Does inoperable mean untreatable ? does it hurt ?
It’s in my motor cortex, so if they cut it out I’d probably die. It doesn’t hurt, it affects my ability to use my left arm. Fortunately it’s a very treatable rare type; I went through chemo and radiation and it’s stopped the progression. It needs periodic monitoring (through head MRI) and oncologist visits. Will probably shorten my lifespan though.
Ok, pretty damn cool that it is treatable… Is there anything you can’t do now with the impact your left arm ? how do you work around it ?
It just… doesn’t work as well. Hard to describe, but it was all but useless before I went to lots of occupational therapy. I basically had to re-learn how to use my left arm. It’s about 75% now. I can do normal stuff but I have to be really careful with it. For example, if I’m holding a drink I have to be sure to focus on holding it upright, otherwise it spills. That’s a long way from being unable to type. I had to use a speech-to-text app on my computer for a while there.
It’s a lost cause, so I’ve nearly given up, but I still give 1-star reviews to apps that don’t work because my phone is rooted. Every time they update.
Hell yeah. It is also now one of my goals in life to review ass apps like that
Dealing with immigrating to another country for the second time in my life. Fuck Trump.
Probably the safest bet, even if it’s annoying. Have you decided on a destination?
I moved at the start of 2025 but immigration is a loooong process
Been dealing with depression and anxiety for a couple of decades, sort of successfully. Couple of years ago got told I had cancer, a week after that my girlfriend broke up with me after a 7 year relationship, couple of weeks after that I got told that the garage space I was renting for extremely cheap was sold and I had to find a new place. Found a new place, got surgery on the cancer, had a few months of recovery, went back to work, rent was now 4 times more, while I was doing the move and dealing with the cancer my customers found new places. I ended up with not enough customers, couldn’t pay the rent, had to close shop. Now I’m even more depressed, out of money and I have no idea what to do, how to get out of this hole. Most of the solutions I’ve come up with are on the darker side but as for now, I’m still being too stubborn to quit things. I have a feeling that I’ll reevaluate the situation when autumn arrives.
But hey, at least the cancer is gone.
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11 years ago I got a new set of lungs and spent months in the ICU, so I’d say that. I’m still on anti rejection medication and will be forever but I take a lot fewer meds now than I did before transplant
My mother died this year. It happens to everyone if you live long enough. It still sucked. She had MS since 18, died at 66. More than ten thousand days in the fire.
I am trying to come to terms with her disease and how I was not a great son. Could have, should have, would have. The three horseman of regret. I think most people have similar thoughts when a loved one passes, but it still hurts.
I have resolved to carry a picture of her to every mountain I hike up. Take her with me where she could not in her life. I wrote a letter of goodbyes to her and left it in mailbox peak. It still doesn’t feel enough.
I hate the person I was while she was alive. I was there, but not the person I should have been. The benefit of hindsight.
For decades I’d been battling PTSD. After at least 5 therapists and many medications, I’d say it’s under control.
I learned very late in life that I have ADHD, so I’m trying to balance that out. What stinks is that it affected my childhood and I had no idea, and there’s nothing I can do about it now.
For me, it’s losing weight. Several times, I’ve burned 40-50 pounds, and can move much better, sweat less, sleep better, etc. Then I regain it, and have to climb the mountain again.
I am painfully losing the ability to use my limbs and doctors don’t know why. It really sucks.
The last boss of Dark Souls I, I’m not a great player, I remember I punched the wall twice in a row in the process and got my fist hurt, it took a month to fully recover even tho I could still use it more or less.
Did you know you could easily parry pretty much all of his moves?
Easily is a strong word here
I hate parrying and never used it in any souls-game, because I suck so much at it. But especially DS1 has more than enough parry-frames, so that a noob like me even had no problems. lol
so that a noob like me even had no problems
thanks for the kind words. Is there any level below the “noob” word? Because that’s where I find myself in.
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I’ve lived my entire life with imposter syndrome. Any time I get remotely comfortable in a position I either get laid off or promoted. Being laid off confirms my fears. Being promoted makes me feel like I have to work even harder to hide my fundamental inability to execute my role. I have recently taken a higher position at a startup which is a whole new level of stress and responsibility.
I can step back objectively and see the respect others grant me. I can see how my humble talents contribute. But I never stop questioning if it’s even possible I am contributing enough value to justify my wage, and it doesn’t stop me from feeling like I’m one tiny mistake away from being fired.
This isn’t a battle thrust upon me or with dire consequences. But it’s the battle I am comfortable sharing.
