• arctanthrope@lemmy.world
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    3 months ago

    I was under the impression that that’s the definition of a gangbang. multiple tops and only one bottom is a gangbang, multiple tops and multiple bottoms is an orgy

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      Basically, yes. Some men are so twisted in knots from toxic masculinity they’ll avoid enjoying themselves, even when what they want is right in from of them

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      never had a gangbang

      but i’d want at least 10 guys (1 for every hole + every hand / 5 waiting) & being manhandled around

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        what if you maximized it and had four guys standing with their dicks tip-to-tip, so you could stroke each pair of cocks with one hand per pair?

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          To each their own, similar numbers I think for me (I was off my face at the time), recovery was maybe a day and a half but it wasn’t fun for me

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              Oh, I do now, this was nearly 30 years ago … and I don’t regret doing it. Wouldn’t have known if it was for me or not if I hadn’t tried!

              I’ll also say stay safe to you, too - regular checkups are worth the effort when you’re coming into contact with multiple people

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                Oh, I’m not active like that anymore. I’m much too old, fat, and ugly to spontaneously pull 12 random strippers at closing time on Key West now. Hahaha

                But honestly, things are much easier and simpler now. I like the monogamy thing nowadays

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                  Mmm, that was me this time last year … then I gleaned info from one of the lovely trans ladies on here and learned my HRT had been completely wrong for the last ~15 years … since I sorted it out my sex drive has been gradually rising to the point I’m thinking about guys again.

                  Totally going for the GILF thing now, and I’m in good shape. Not gonna go for anything too extreme though, I could throw my back out :-P

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        You’d think gang bangs would be more common. Guys/tops are mostly all very horny and you only need 1 bottom.

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        I think that’s something you have to work your way to. I can’t control my body with even one if they’re good or big enough.

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    Always wondered if men, women, trans (whoever you you want) actually enjoyed doing it, looks like it is more like work than actually enjoying the experience.

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      It depends. It’s not usually like in porn (which usually looks like work because it is)

      If it’s with people who want to have mutual enjoyment in a caring way it can be amazing, but even one selfish person can bring the whole thing down and make it feel like a chore.

      Men are more likely to be selfish.

      I got paid a lot of money once to go dogging, and it was very unpleasant and not worth it. Meanwhile, a weekend-long foursome with 3 other women is one of my most cherished memories and a go-to to think about if I feel the need to Jill off.

      Now I’m older I don’t think I’d want to do more than a threesome with two women, though. It takes a certain amount of fitness that I just can’t maintain any more.

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        So it is a matter of having partners you trust and enjoy being around. Still can’t see myself ever doing it but thanks for explaining why it works for some people.

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          Just like any sexual act, yes

          And thank you for not being judgemental :-) This isn’t something I get to talk about a lot IRL, and it’s actually nice to be able to be open and honest about it

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            Yeah I can imagine most people would look at you as a degenerate (which you aren’t) if you were to talk about it in person.

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      I’ve had a bunch of group sex (cis bi male).

      Nowadays I’d not be into it, but at the time it was fun.

      i slightly skew towards preferring women but the best group sex I had, and the kind that i felt most comfortable was all men.

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        Less “competitive” mindset I think. I feel like homophobia has resulted in a lot of men taking their pent up sexual aggression out on women when they might otherwise be able to identify themselves as bi and just work out those feelings with another dude. Instead we have all these men spiraling into emotional black holes because women don’t want them right this second. I’ve heard anecdotally that if everyone felt 100% comfortable being honest bi people would probably be the true majority. So it’s not like it would fix the incel problem but there might be few enough that they couldn’t concentrate into inescapable singularities.

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          Yup, once got to see a man specifically want to receive a bj from another guy, and when it actually started he freaked out and left.

          Toxic masculinity really hurts everyone

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        Okay, I have only ever been with one partner and always felt way out of my depth soo I can’t really imagine to stress of having to pleasure or getting pleasure of multiple partners.

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    I’m the only guy in my band because I’m the only member of my band

    EDIT: Oh, it says GANG-BANG. Well that’s different.

    EDIT 2: No, wait, actually it’s not. I’m alone in my gang-bang too.