Whenever I tell someone that I wish i was shorter, they are always taken a back(being masculine presenting). I am just over 6 ft, in my country, that’s a bit above average height. Its not like I am a gaint or anything but I am always aware how intimidating I look. Also, the country where I live doesn’t feel like it build for people my size. Mini-van for transportation that squish my knees, ceiling that are a bit too low for my taste, showers space that’s too small.
But also, I feel like a bumbling idiot (I suspect I have Dysprixa) and hate standing out so much. I may have Body dysmorphia. Its like how I would like to be seen and how I feel, are the exact opposite to how I seen. I feel small, soft, in a relationship, I would prefer to take on the "feminine " role. I feel nothing like a man.
Anyone else relates to this.
I’m not always the tallest in the room when everyone is standing, but once we’re all sitting down, I’m the only one sticking up above everybody.
Normally when I’m sitting in a theater, I do everything I can to avoid blocking someone’s view (slouching, sliding down in the chair, leaning, etc). It ends up being incredibly uncomfortable.
One time a friend gave me and my wife tickets to a show (live musical theater). There were a couple drunk, obnoxious women behind us talking through the show. It pissed me off so much I sat up straight in my seat and stayed that way for the rest of the show. It’s the only time I’ve ever done that.
They started complaining about me blocking their view, and left during intermission to complain to someone (what did they expect the theater manager to do? "Excuse me, me sir, but you’re blocking these ‘ladies’ view. Would you mind removing your head?'). They eventually returned to their seats.
By the time the show ended and people stood up to leave, I was pretty angry. I turned around. I don’t know what I was planning to do. It’s not like I’m going to beat some drunken idiots to death in a crowded theater. However, I know I was considering stepping over my seat to get into their row.
The older woman was too drunk to notice, but the younger one was sober enough to see the look on my face. She hustled them out.
My wife has told me that I’ve terrified people even when she confirmed I was being perfectly calm. I can’t imagine how frightening it is when I’m actually enraged.
I’m 6’7. Yes. I wish I was shorter.
I’d be able to have a normal childhood if i wasnt tall, instead of sitting on the sidelines watching everyone else play in the play places that have a max height/size limit to enter.
I wouldnt have a terrifying phobia of ceiling fans.
I wouldnt be crippled for days after having to travel on an airplane.
I wouldnt have a bad back form having to bend over almost double just to do normal everyday things like cook and wash my hands.
If you fall below the average height, the world can relatively easily be adapted so you still fit into it with simple things like step stools and what have you.
But above average height? No, you don’t fit in, and theres no way at all to adapt to you. If you want a properly proportioned space, you’re gonna have to have $$$$ to build it for yourself, and listen to the constant complaints of friends and family who don’t want to visit because your house is to hard to use… completely utterly oblivious to the fact that all of their houses have been too hard to use your entire life and they’ve never given a single copper fuck about it.
I’m 6’3" / 190 cm and I would love to be just a little shorter. My back and knees aren’t having fun anymore.
Mate I’m 195 I just wanna be able to buy pants and shoes normally again🥺
Kind fit. 6’3” here. Most of my life I was just enough taller than average to be uncomfortable, but normal in my family.
But now it’s more than uncomfortable. My knees are shot, making it hard to get in and out of cars. Of all things using the bathroom sink hurts my back because “standard height” is too low. Mostly work though, sitting in chairs that won’t adjust properly.
Then again, some of that is because I’m also big. I can’t really blame anyone other than me for that
But yeah, tall white dude definitely benefits
6’0" here, so not that tall all things considered. For me there’s a small component of wishing to be more a little more feminine sometimes, but all things considered being a big strong man rules.
I wish i were slightly shorter because this world is built for average sized people. Flying always winds up being an exercise in quantifying the value of my own suffering. Is 4-8 hours of claustrophobia, leg cramps, and general lack of dignity worth an extra $400? Sometimes, absolutely. Do i have an extra $400? hell no. I don’t even fly that often and i have strong preferences for aircraft. I will cry if i wind up getting tricked into economy class on a 737-800 again. The seats are 16 inches wide and i think the pitch is something like 28".
I also can’t comfortably sit in a miata unless the top is down. I daily drove an AW11 for a couple of years and while it was tons of fun i looked like Mr Incredible driving to work and I hit my head constantly. Kitchen counters are way too short for me, i can’t imagine the back pain for taller people who like to cook.
I would prefer to take on the "feminine " role. I feel nothing like a man.
I can’t tell you anything about yourself, but I think you should investigate this feeling further. Personally, my dislike of being tall made more sense to me when I realized I’m not a man.
6"3" and yes, Clothes, shoes hard to find and airplanes are shrinking.
6’4" here.
I wouldn’t say I’d want to be shorter, but I have definitely experienced a lot of what you describe.
In addition to being intimidating because I’m big, I also have real bad resting murder face. It used to bother me, but my wife is 5’1" (on a good day), and we’ve used it to her advantage.
She’s often dismissed or not taken seriously. When she is being disrespected or expects to be, she brings me along. Everyone always treats her with respect when I’m standing behind her.
I don’t like taking the train because my knees are pushed up against the seat in front of me. I’m also uncomfortable in most cars. I’m long in the torso, so even in an SUV I have to lean the seat way back to fit in. I currently drive a 2nd generation Honda Ridgeline, and it’s the first time in decades where I have space above my head.
Clothing is difficult. I buy my clothing online because I can never find more than one or two options that fit in a store. I used to go to a outlet store because they had such a massive inventory, I could actually find things in my size. My shirts tend to be like tents because I usually can’t find the extra tall sizes, so I end up getting a regular 3x so the shirt reaches down to my waist.
There’s another downside to being tall that you didn’t mention. Years ago my son (taller than me) noticed that you don’t see many tall, elderly people. I had to break the news to him that, statistically speaking, being taller means dying earlier.
Bigger people have more cells in their body. More cells means more chances for cancer. More cancer means shorter life.
So, if you’re miserable being tall, take some consolation from the knowledge that it won’t last long.
I’m a pretty average sized person but I’ve stared having bespoke clothing made for me. It’s frequently not as expensive as I initially thought it would be and there is a magic feeling to slipping into a pair of pants that just fits.
so I end up getting a regular 3x so the shirt reaches down to my waist.
the problem with that in my experiences is that most companies just make the shirts wider, as opposed to longer. I’ve had times looking at shirts in the store where the there was like an inch of difference in length between large and 3x large, but the width difference was astronomical.
JCPenny seems to be dying out, but their online always seemed to have a good collection of tall and big clothes if you’re looking for stores.
So, if you’re miserable being tall, take some consolation from the knowledge that it won’t last long.
Not soon enough
most companies just make the shirts wider, as opposed to longer
No doubt. I’ve got a bunch of 3XL shirts that are at least 10 inches wider than I need them to be to get 1-2 inches of extra length.
I think there’s also an assumption that if you’re tall it’s because your legs (and arms) are long, like a giraffe. I’m not built like that. I’m just big.
I’m 6’1", it’s right about the perfect height for a guy.
I would say that I do have fairly long legs, so there’s a lot of cars that I am not comfortable in, and cheap plane rides are generally misery.
But other than that, it’s not like I’m so tall that I’m bumping my head on things all of the time, and anyone who is so picky about height that they wouldn’t date me for being 6’1" is the kind of person I wouldn’t want to date, so that works out as well.
My personality is so shit that tallness is kind of my crutch for navigating social situations. What I wish is that I didn’t need it
Hey! Tall high five.
I like you detective. Have a nice day.
Thanks, Eyes :) you as well
I’m around 6’1 or 2. I’d say overall, I’m comfortable with the body I have (like I don’t think I have a dysmorphia issue), but it can be a literal pain when I’m visiting Japan. I learned the hard way that some older homes have head clearance of exactly 6’ in doorways. If I were just a little shorter, this would not be an issue. In fact, if I were taller, I’d probably see the obstruction better and know to duck? But as it is, I develop a nasty bruise after repeatedly hitting the exact same spot on my forehead over and over again. Otoh it’s nice to have some breathing space above the teeming masses of people packed onto a subway car.
Usually no, I generally wish I was taller. Or at least my legs were longer; I’m 5’9, but my legs are unusually short, due to a bunch of surgeries I had as a kid. If my legs were ‘normal’ I’d be over 6 feet tall.
The only time I’ve wished I was shorter, was to fit in to smaller cars. Recently, I tried to drive a kei car called an Autozam, tiny little sports car, and I had to take my shoes off to comfortably use the pedals. My head hitting the ceiling is slightly problematic in a car that has gullwing doors.
Short guy here, do you really?
Maybe? Obviously it might work out differently than I would like, so there is that.
Theres things about being short that arent imemdiately apparent, as I assume there is about being tall too. Unfortunately one of the things about being short is people are less likely to take you seriously. Man or woman, people tend to take taller people more seriously and associate them with confidence, authority, and competence a lot more than shorter people. There is also a wage gap between shorter and taller folks.
I’m 1.85m tall and do feel like it’s a pretty good height. I was never aware that that counts as tall. But at the same time, i don’t think i ever got anything out of it, other than being able to reach a bit better in the supermarket or something. Having more leg room in a car and so on sounds neat.
Boo hoo, car is too small!
Get use to it you circus freak. Us toddlers will just have to suffer through being made fun of for something we have no control over or worse, entirely ignored as if we don’t even exist.
Now if you’ll excuse me, I’ll be getting into my tiny ass car and driving it to the airport where I will comfortably fly in the cheapest coach seats possible. While I’m waiting in the airport, I’ll just buy some silk cashmere sweaters on ebay for $30.
It’s like white privilege (but obviously less profound): The benefits are in what doesn’t happen to you: No jokes about your height. No failed job interviews. No romantic difficulties because of your height. People don’t constantly interrupt, or act like you’re not even there. That kind of thing.
Interesting. To be fair, every conversion is over for me if a potential date asks me about my height. My girlfriend now is pretty tall herself and she never cared and she told me before we even met that she doesn’t care. People do constantly interrupt me, which, i don’t really know where that is from. Short jokes is absolutely correct, but weirdly enough, i never saw myself as tall, untill someone pointed it out when i was like 29. I thought i was very avarage, maybe below average, because i was always the youngest in my class, therefore the shortest. I had a roomate who was really short and i did always made short jokes about him, not really in a mean way, but in hindsight, obviously not cool. But i never saw it as a downside, or that people are even bothered that they are shorter. His girlfriend was also almost as tall as me, so again, i just thought that she doesn’t care, no one should.
Yes, but that cuts both ways. The number of cars that really don’t fit at 185cm.
Short person: Securing employment and finding love are harder for me.
Tall person: I know exactly what you mean, sometimes my knees bump against my luxury sports car :(Your argument would be stronger if you left out “luxury sports”. Don’t get me started on flying coach.
I think we all, tall and small alike, can agree the airlines can get fucked with the way they jam inhuman numbers of seats into the airplane. You know they bribe Congress with free flights, to keep themselves carved out from disability -access laws and even basic decency for their passengers.
Fitting perfectly into an economy airliner seat is 10/10, the once every 3-4 years that I do that. But cars have their own issues when you’re below the average size: Bad sightlines, arm rests too high, seatbelts that saw at your throat for the whole trip rather than cross your shoulder, increased injury and mortality rates because of those seatbelts and airbags, which are optimized for taller drivers, controls out of reach, and such.
One size fits none. :(
Not a man, but I used to wish I were shorter when I was younger. I’m 178 cm, which is very tall for a woman in China, so people always stare at me when I’m out in public. Men either feel intimidated or assume they have no chance, so they don’t approach me. Over time, though, I grew to love the attention, and now all of those insecurities are gone. I even developed my own little supermodel walk and rock high heels now, lmao. I love feeling like I’m on a runway while walking around and having people look at me.
Same height as me … I’m above average in Europe, but here in Vietnam most men only come up to my chin. I hugged one of the managers at work during Lunar New Year, and he ended up in my boobs, lol
I’m glad you enjoy the attention, there are times I’d like to be able to blend in TBH. Rocking heels and towering over most men is fantastic as an option, too >:-)
I’m 6’6" and yes.










