Went out for groceries, including a couple 5-gallon water jugs. At the checkout, the lovely person at the register says Hi ma’am, pretends not to notice my 5 o’clock shadow that my makeup has for hours failed to hide, tells me she loves my bracelet, and then tells the young men helping bag items to “help this nice lady with her water”.
I’ll be hanging onto that. She was an angel.
Share your stories too, however seemingly silly or gloriously gargantuan!
3rd day homeless in Seattle while getting ice for my estradiol stash a guy came up to me. He said “Hey, sister. Could you spare some so I can get a pre-roll?” I told him I couldn’t and was homeless. He looked at my whole life in my car and said “My bad, sis.” gave me bones and walked back to the gas station wall. I am a cinderblock transsexual. I do NOT pass. I knew I was finally where I needed to be. I been thru hell for a while since and I cry every time I remember.
Hey sis, you’re gonna make me cry! I hope you’re in a safer spot now.
im not yet but i will be. I’m in no-barrier transitional housing rn. I’ll be on cap hill before fall tho. if you’re in the PNW it would be nice to hang out. you’re hot as fuuuuck and from your posts, rad AF too. a ray of fuckin sunshine.
Aww sweetie! Unfortunately for me I’m stuck on TERF island (the UK). Will you let us know when you’ve gotten somwhere safe? It would name me happy to hear.
I have a dear dear friend in portland and I really want to go visit there sometime but I don’t think American border control takes too kindly to antifa t-girls at the moment so I’m probably not going to make that trip any time soon.
Of course I will, bb. 🫂 also im so upset you’re in british trans hell. 🤬 you be safe too as best you can and try to keep cool. 🫂
One good thing about living in hell is that you meet amazing people who fight with you to make things better.
I’m grateful to know you aren’t alone.
My partner, while I am sitting in the car with them and notice them look intently at someone on the street: Huh, I thought that was you for a sec
Me: [that person is not my AGAB] Ohhhh rlyy?
AGAB, assigned gay at birth
Doctor: yes, this one is a homosexual, I am sure of it 😌
(Don’t mind me I’m just being silly :)
assigned gaston at birth. no one genders like gaston.
Had a man go out of his way to open a door for me as I left a store today and not like a he was already walking in as I was walking out kind of thing. He was sitting at a table nearby and got up and opened the door for me. That’s the first time that’s happened and made me realize that I’m definitely unprepared to be getting attention from men lol
But I just love when people are nice. I remember every time early in my transition when someone gendered me correctly or just went the extra step to let me know they were cool and I was safe and seen.
one of my most beloved affirmations of hell was this:
last year in summer, i (mtf 35-ish) was pre hrt, but have already had some laser sessions. so i was having a shitty day but decided to joun my transfem group. i was having a 0 fucks, 0 effort day, put on grey pants and a rather colourful shirt. i put my hair in a hair clip i had laying around. and headed out, boymoding. i used to wear exactly that fit for years before hatching day.
i went to the group meeting, and took the bus home. some drunken guy enters the bus, fixates me and asks:
- “you used to be a guy, don’t you?”
- “what?!”
- “yeah, you used to be guy!”
i don’t remember how i ended this discussion. he obv. tried something very transphobic, but it felt so good, that in this 0 effort day, i kinda passed (as transfem)? i am still puzzeled.
Relatively new hrt, basically nothing else. The other week, when i was at my lowest point in a while, i put on an outfit i love to try and feel better. For the first time ever, that day when i was down heavy in my feels, a cis woman noticed my transpride converse and a couple other aspects of my outfit and just sat gushing over it for a good 3 minutes telling me how cute it is and the whole outfit works so well. It felt so gd good, that one act of kindness was everything to me that day. I love moments like these for our community ♥️
ive got a couple dresses that i think look pretty cute on me. pretty much every time i wear them a random woman or two will tell me they look good. cute dress, nice dress, today i even got a great dress! it feels so nice to just get innocent compliments from other women, like im finally part of the club, and i dont think i even look that fem yet 😊
I got gendered correctly by one of the recipt checker people at a Costco lmao. I didn’t hear the guy, but my friend I had with me did and told me after. That’s the first time I’ve been gendered correctly by someone I’ve not explicitly come out to.
I gendered somebody correctly while following up with their relative regarding bills. Relative was super happy because apparently nobody genders her right. I was just relieved that the employee before me tagged the customer correctly in the notes field.
I went out to update my ID in boymode today. There were some administrative trouble with categorisation of documents, and when the clerk that I was talking with got help she referred to me as “This young lady” and I had to try not to melt at the desk. I’m still smiling thinking about it most of the day later.
Had my first one recently, my partner and I were walking through town and I was wearing a really pretty black dress and an unhoused man came up to us and said “hi ladies” when he asked us for help.
I don’t think it was a technique to get extra money from people but if it was, targeting newly out transfems with affirming language is probably a good strat (if you can find one of us that has any money).
Yesterday, i was at the hospital waiting for someone I love. Like 6h wait. I had no phone no nothing to help me cope with my ADHD. Between my restless legs and me trying not to fall asleep. No make-up, couldn’t shaved my beard that day… I can finally put that into word. I’m pretty sure I have ADHD now and it makes sense. I just can’t help moving or just trying to focus on something (sensations through fingertips, skin and all… Let’s get back to the topic.)
Anyway in the end everything was fine but while I waited. I was asked “ça va ma belle” by another woman (“are you alright beautiful?”) Would be the closest thing literally but probably would translate it like ( “are you alright love?”) In a friendly manner.
And she asked me about my transidentity and other stuff just a curious person (I saw her wrists with scars and could guess she had probably a heavy past). Anyway it was nice to find someone so friendly and gendering me accordingly at this moment when I was stressing a lot.
❤️🌹
