I’ve been doing my fem voice for over a year at this point and for me, while I don’t have to train anything technical, I do still struggle at times.

The biggest issue is that talking is a good bit more straining than before and I so always think about it a little when talking, especially when i’m in a meeting or something. It’s always just a thing I look out for and I wanna train myself to stop looking out for it. And when I wanna stop thinking about it and do my old masc voice, I notice that it’s even more straining and basically not possible anymore.

I guess i’m just training consistency at my point. Never had that feeling of it just feeling like it’s my regular voice tbh…

Nah I wanna be a tower so that I can do maximal damage with every breakdown and collapse I have :3

No they aren’t. Most of my colleagues are really sweet and I’m also liked by pretty much everyone at the workplace. If it would be a thing if disrespect then I could handle it.

That would make sense if people would misgender me on purpose, but that’s just not the case. Some people even correct themselves and say sorry, tho even that never used to happen in the past… And a few times it’s not even a thing of them having to get used to me being trans now since they haven’t known be before.

It just is such an obvious punch to the face of “no matter what you think, you don’t pass”.

Oh my god no, I mean social media xD

Serious question, why the [CW: Assumes Viewer is Trans] tag in the title? Like I get having some CW or TW but I’d assume that on a SM site specifically for trans/queer people (blahaj Lemmy), in the page “Trans memes”, is pretty much the place to put trans POV posts…

I’m having a rough time with my dad too about me being trans. Not gonna go much into detail but I do have an interesting observation.

…and said, that I can take as much money as I need from them if I just come back and then started crying.

My dad did somethig very similar. I sort of had to spill the beans about me getting bottom surgery and, among other things, he wanted to bribe me with money to not do it. Literally “I’d pay money for you to not do it. How much do you want?”

Why do they think that throwing money at the issues magically solves it? I’m at a point where it feels less like concern (like my dad always says) and more like them going as far as to pay just for me/us to stay in misery.

The entire discussion about trans people should stop at “I’m happier this way”

Leave me and my GamerSupps alone ;-;

I got adhd meds pretty much the same time as estrogen. get ADHD meds, seriously. There are literally days where I take Ritalin and life just suddenly becomes so livable, I can’t even describe it

Holy hell this is interesting and i’d absolutely love to see where this goes.

Speaking of my experience with University Clinics, people there regularly conduct studies (for example the Medic University Vienna, linked to the Vienna AKH (general hospital)). Also if this does get into actual testing then I’d love to be a test subject too :D (didn’t have surgery get tho)

Nope, just got a steam achievement pop-up sadly

From 4chan experience I can sadly say that there is a third… Racism . _.

I somehow managed to be in a sort of omnisexual relationship with my ex.

I’m a trans girl, full in her transition (legal name change and everything) and suspected born inter. My ex was a trans girl early in her transition and hadn’t had her legal name and gender changed.

• for transphobes (my dad), we where in a gay relationship
• for the government, we where in a straight relationship
• for outsiders / regulars, we where in a lesbian relationship
• in actuality, we where in a aroace relationship where gender just didn’t play a role at all

We somehow managed to represent every single letter in LGBTQIA

Oh I know exactly what you’re talking about.

Something I have also noticed since passing quite well is something my mom calls “female solidarity”. In a sense, a sort of connection between all of us.

For example, I’ve gone to a lot of raves in my time both before and after passing as a girl for other people.

• I do sometimes take (legal) substances but I do have bad trips from time to time, resulting in my energy going down a fuck ton. Nothing major, just getting really tired and relaxed (can also be a good feeling but not what I want from a rave). As a result, I tend to gravitate to corners or places where I can sit down. Before passing, nothing. I just was there. Who cares if I’d OD in that corner. Nowadays, I get approached almost exclusively by either other girls or security if everything is alright and if I need help.
• I was at a rave with my bf recently and the same energy thing happened to me so I cuddled up against him and leaned my head on his shoulder. I got approached so often by other girls asking if everything is fine in case it was a case of him drugging me.
• 8/10 times, being approached at raves by a guy means that they want to hit on me (which is strange for that community but times change I guess). I don’t think I ever had a bad experience with girls approaching me at raves. Either just raving a bit together or just in general the most wholesome experience.

Or a non-rave example:

• I was at the doctors office once with some sort of cold which made it really hard to talk. That kinda made communicating with the receptionist a bit of an issue, especially since the other people in the waiting area where kinda loud. As a result, the receptionist accidentally affirmed me so hard while still being early in my transition by saying “haha yes and then men say that we are the loud ones”. It just made me so happy

I mean yeah but

eh, I’m not going to lie, that sounds awful and I wouldn’t wish that life on anyone

It’s fine to think about what could have been but I’m not judging anyone for being happy with their status quo. What matters is that someone is happy and all things considered, that colleague feels so much better like this. (Also he cross-dresses in public and to work for some more context)

a lot of folks don’t realize until their 40s or later, 34 isn’t too bad!

One of my colleagues at work had the realization well into his mid to late 50s, also having a wife and kids. He didn’t start any hormone therapy because it would be too much effort for him, only really cross dressing every now and then, still staying with his current name and he/him pronouns.

I can’t say much about his life outside of work but I do know that he generally hasn’t had too many issues being the way he is. Still got a wife, still got kids and all.

I really truly hope that OP will have a similar experience. In contrast, we are in a moderately accepting area of the world luckily so who knows…

Sorry, to clarify: they said that the first name is irrelevant tho I don’t see how the last name at birth would be any more relevant since that’s on your medical record, which is very visible to a hospital

Yep it is. I think it’s originally from Austria but has expanded to include at least Germany too.

On a different topic: I have an update to the whole asking for my birth name thing. I was at a hospital recently and they asked me the same question with my birth name. This time I asked and they confirmed that only my last name at birth is relevant and I’m pretty sure that it would have been too at the bank.

Idk how your situation is but my siblings helped a lot with it. I felt like I was able to talk way more about my issues with them in comparison to my parents.

Just stuff like asking my brother if I can just hang out in his room when I felt lime shit and just being there, sitting somewhere and just not being that alone. Either staring into my phone or into nothingness

For me it was the Volksbank but idk what bank it was for the one you quoted in your comment xD